OKAY!!!
Off the hook for today but with some positives.
When we were ready to leave dinner he asked me; "How's your meeting attendance?".
I said; "Not good but I don't want to talk about it in front of the kids".
He asks; "Do you want me to arrange for someone to start taking the girls to the meetings?". (GOOD SIGN)
I said; "What do you mean? Susan* is taking them but we'll talk tomorrow."
Now lunch tomorrow is my new hell but I feel good about his passiveness. Still think big blow-up coming though!
Thanks all!
* names have been changed to protect the innocent.