Interesting topic...I got married A month before shipping out to Viet Nam,
A big mistake, my ex wife convince me to marry her . The night of our
honeymoon was the first time for me (sex), I was 19 and she just turn 18.
Fast forward three years after returing from Nam, one year as A JW and
two kids. Old friend came to town (best friend) have not seen him in 4-5 years.
From out of the blue he begain to apologize, your wife and I had A affair while
you was in Nam, I told him to leave and never call on me again. I call my wife
and told her (visiting her mom) I know what happen with (my best friend)
when I was nam, he told me everything.She immediately came home and tried
to explain. It was devastating. She called the Elders , they came over, remerber
we were new as JWs . The sh--t came out. Not only the affair of first year
marriage, she wasn,t A virgin ( remerber this is 1968) and their was others.
I had never been with A woman. Well we stay togather for 19yrs, we should
have ended the marriage that day. The elders reason, we all did A lot of
terrible things before we learn the truth. It,s funny when I think about it
My mom A very religious person told me when I was teenager, do not
bring A child into this world until you get married, in other words no sex.
Looking back we were too young. I tried making it work, the only reason
we lasted so long it was the JW lifestyle, but it wasn,t love.