''Has anyone in this forum ever had an Elder in the organization discuss "apostate" teachings with them in a non-threatening, mutually enlightening way?''
No.
And neither has any elder ever telephoned, written or knocked my door (to my knowledge) to ask about either myself, my wife or our teenage children since we left off from attending meetings.
Considering that they firmly believe that our very lives are at stake it strikes me that they don't really give a hoot and are actually very selfish.
In other words exactly like I used to be when I was a Witness. I wasn't a blind bit interested in bringing anyone into the ''truth'' because I didn't believe it.
If they really believed it they would be begging me to return.
The attitude is actually, when you think about it,
''Ah well, he's buggered. What's on tv?''