I don't think the people are pricks. In their minds they are doing the only thing that they can to get you back and still have God's approval. Take yourselves out of pocket for a moment. I say this being the victim of being shunned by my granmother who is my greatest ally and oldest friend. She raised me. She taught me to think critically. She taught me how to reason at the doors and how to see the human side of the preaching work.
I am not blind to the pain that witnesses can cause. I simply believe that your anger is misplaced and does not take into consideration the situation of your loved one. Your words bring you down to their level except that their defense lies in wanting to save your life from their perspective. Yours lies in anger arising from a narrow viewpoint.
CHL