...undecided,
when you were in, did you go in service 'cause of your love of jehovah? i'm bettin' that if you were to poll 100 jw's & actually got honest answers, you'd find they do it 'cause they have to ! no love there........ when in, did you go to meetings out of love for the bible watchtower ? no love there...........
i think that most jw's do it all because it is required.... by a bunch of geezers making a "burdensome" bunch of rules, not out of a genuine love for god, fellow man or wanting to serve god
for what it's worth...i think the "friendly,kindness" you encountered is very shallow......gotta get new recruits....love bombing
magoo