Hello Everyone
This is my first post and I am a long time lurker. I felt compelled by the topic to share my story. I found coolhand's comments very similiar to my experience. So here we go.
My partner was responsible for showing me the "truth" about the "truth". And for this I feel an incredible amount of gratitude and attachment. Did I really know her before we were married? Not well enough, but I personally do not think that anyone can completely understand another person. We are all different and it is about realizing we do not understand and how we deal with that.
Once her son decided that he did not want his mother to be married any longer it has been a spiral downward to the end. I realize now I did not know her as well as i though I did and I have learned things about myself. Now that things have come to an end I am confronted more and more with thinking about how the "truth" has caused so much pain in my life, for me and my family.
I do not know that I have expressed myself well here. But I have relied on this site for support in the past, just by reading everyone else's thoughts. For that I am very thankful. I hope to interact more with the wonderful people that post here and learn.