Posts by Ghiagirl

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Scientology, FLDS, jws what's the difference?

by Ghiagirl in

i feel a little better i didn't believe in polygamy or that a volcano erupted and we flew out of them and came down to the earth or whatever scientologists believe.

but at the same time all 3 groups have the same cult qualities.

anyone who doesn't believe is called an apostate, members get shunned whether it's disfellowshipping or disconnecting.

Ghiagirl

There isn't really! I feel a little better I didn't believe in polygamy or that a volcano erupted and we flew out of them and came down to the earth or whatever scientologists believe. But at the same time all 3 groups have the same cult qualities. Anyone who doesn't believe is called an apostate, members get shunned whether it's disfellowshipping or disconnecting. Everyone is shielded from reality, no reading outside of organizations literature or books. I know a lot saw the Scientology documentary I forgot what it's called but recently prophets prey has been playing on showtime about the FLDS. I feel so sick seeing the similarities to the jws. How does no one see! Even the creepy songs sound the same!!!!! I recommend watching it for those who haven't seen it. Feeling so thankful to be awake, sometimes it can be easier to not know ttat, but really I'm so much happier now!!!

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jw family loves to ask df'd ones for money!

by Ghiagirl in

well it finally happened!

we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.

even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.

Ghiagirl

I love so many of the valid points made!!! Good comebacks. They are a giant family too and they are all witnesses, yet all of them are broke! Hmmmm. I see a pattern. Still considering what to do but definitely making me think. Thanks everyone!

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jw family loves to ask df'd ones for money!

by Ghiagirl in

well it finally happened!

we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.

even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.

Ghiagirl

Yes we may end up helping. It's impossible to reason with these people. The fact they think there is nothing wrong with them asking for money is mind boggling. If we do it is a one time deal. But it kills us to even think about doing it.

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jw family loves to ask df'd ones for money!

by Ghiagirl in

well it finally happened!

we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.

even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.

Ghiagirl

Well it finally happened! We have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money. Even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son. And most of his brothers and sisters haven't as well. Makes me sick. So you saved no money because the new world is coming? Just rely on your kids to pay your bills each month! Don't get me wrong I would always help my family no matter what! But the nerve they have, with no shame too! Thinking we are in the wrong as always. I'm about to blow my brains out with the drama I get left and right. I can't believe I once thought it was the truth! It tears families apart. Yet they blame us, the ones going through constant heartache for the empty space in our lives. I thought it was getting easier. But it's still hard. If I can save anyone from making the mistake of getting baptized! Please. Don't do it. I'm not one to say all jws are bad. But what the organization turns people into is what makes me sick, so brain washed. So ignorant, so blind. Sorry this is a rant I am just so angry and so sad. I get told from my family my whole life I am a selfish person. Because I wanted to live my life my way? My sister told me she doesn't like the person I have become and we are not close because we have different views and opinions and I'm a selfish person. But I know I'm not....at least I don't think so. I feel psychically ill anytime I try to reason with these people. Family is family. It's that simple. With no religion there would be so many fewer issues! I'm sorry but I hate religion I hate it. I don't know what I believe. Just be a good person, honest respectful nonjudgmental accepting. I'm a good mother, good wife and good friend. I am happier with who I am today then who I was when I was stuck in that god damn cult.

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Hello from Orange County!

by Ghiagirl in

would love to see if any users are from orange county area??

been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!

been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.

Ghiagirl

Also familiar with san clemente, san juan capistrano, mission viejo, aliso viejo, whittier, inland empire, huntington beach, etc.

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Hello from Orange County!

by Ghiagirl in

would love to see if any users are from orange county area??

been around newport beach, laguna beach, and costa mesa for the last 12 years!!

been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand.

Ghiagirl

Would love to see if any users are from Orange County area?? Been around Newport Beach, Laguna Beach, and Costa Mesa for the last 12 Years!! Been hesitant on posting my area, but i have nothing to hide my family, as well as my husbands know where we stand. Thanks!

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heartbroken and not sure what to do...

by Khaleesi in

i don't know what to do.... i married last year and things have been very rocky.

we dated for 4 years and did have normal issues but always had a lingering doubt something was just not right in our relationship-behavior to be more specific, he is not a jw, but i am.

yes i know i married outside the "lord" but after my first marriage to a jw ended in divorce for physical abuse, i was glad i didn't married another jw.

Ghiagirl

hello! I have a close friend she is in her 40s and they discovered only a few years ago of their daughter having aspergers syndrome and after finding that out she definitely believes her husband is somewhere on the spectrum! They as well have issues in the bedroom, she is always ready to go but he shows zero interest! it is very frustrating for her. If your husband is open to get help give it a chance! It is something he can't help, just like anxiety and depression. I know over the years her daughter has done a complete 180! As for her husband i don't think they have had good communication or been open to try and fix it, but from what I've seen from their daughter, things can get better!!!!

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Jws are judgmental

by Ghiagirl in

its funny how different i look at things now.

i look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental.

maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me.

Ghiagirl

Its funny how different i look at things now. I look back at myself when i was going to meetings and remember being so judgmental. Maybe it was just me but peoples views and opinions really rubbed off on me. I would look at others and judge them for things they have done or situations they were in. Out of my whole family i was definitely the least judgmental because deep down i really thought the whole religion was strange. But i guess when you are surrounded by people who judge each other instead of being understanding and loving it makes you think thats normal! Being away from the JWs I'm glad to say i get to be who i truly am and look at everyone and be accepting, loving, and understanding. Anyone else feel the same?

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not going to school

by Sabin in

i don't know if it is the same where you are but where i live it is a common practise of jdub`s to withdraw their kid`s from school at about year 8 even younger in some cases.

they say they are being home schooled & of cause they do cover a certain amount of school topics.

don't get me wrong i`m not saying that it is wrong to home school a youngster, especially if they are being bullied or suffering in some way, but the jdub`s don't do it for this purpose, oh no their kid`s are out on the field service during what would be school hours.

Ghiagirl

My parents tried to homeschool me around grade 10 cause I was "getting in to trouble" aka being a normal teenager. But I convinced them not too. Now my brother is going to be a senior they got him to homeschool I believe freshman year! Never even got to experience high school. On top of that they want him to work for the family business. So basically have zero contact with the outside world. He is however happy homeschooling my family travels a lot and all his friends are homeschooled, of course. But it makes his chances of ever getting out so slim because that's all he knows and will never have the opportunity to build relationships outside of the jws for school and work! It's a trap!

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Have my beautiful blessing from jehovah

by Ghiagirl in

as my husband always says sarcastically about our newborn son, how people contradict themselves.

well he is a blessing but he is also the reason you are being shunned and were run out of the organization because you had premarital sex.

my beautiful son is finally here, and who texts and calls us the day he is born??

Ghiagirl

Thank you all! I am hoping to become a regular poster. I am so intrigued by ex jw life. Not sure if it is because I am a born in or what. I am so happy to be free! And so wonderful to have the support and reassurance I'm not crazy! Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm wrong, but hearing everyone's experiences and having your support makes me realize I know the truth about the truth. Thank you all so much again!