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  The Shunning truth is now out...

  by babygirl30 in

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  i have been df'd for 9yrs as of july 31 (yay me!).

  so as i have written about previously in other posts, my whole family (parents + sister) made the choice to treat me as if i do not exist, and i have accepted it.

  last summer they made a blatant show of it as our family reunion, in that they would walk right by me and not say one word...prompting our extended family to question their actions.

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  Can you put up a link! Would love to have that to show to family who denies they shun
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  How do you deal with depression?

  by BlackWolf in

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  i'm currently going through a bout of depression and my eating disorder has gotten worse.

  ever since my parents actually told me that they are going to kick me out when i turn 18 i've felt kind of hopeless about my life.

  my parents won't take me to the doctor because the psychiatrists won't have my "best interests" aka jw crap in mind, because really that's the root of all my problems.. i'm wondering if any of you guys have any advice with dealing with depression?

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  Hi! I have gone through something similar to you. I am now 22, but I moved out at 18. My parents didn't technically kick me out, but I told them I didn't want to live the way they wanted to me to, so in result of that I had to move out. It is hard but doable. Luckily I have lots of relatives that are not jws I lived with a friend for a couple months then my uncle, once I had a stable job I rented a room. I did this making $8 an hour! Then $10. My whole life I was so depressed, as a child, when I had a pretty good life. My parents were never over the top witnesses. But I could never be who I wanted to be, or do what I wanted to do. Always an outsider, the loser, I just wanted to be normal. I got married and have a baby boy now, that is where I find my happiness. But I agree with others, friends will help, I know it's hard because your homeschooled, how trapped you must feel. Too funny though, 3 friends I have grown up with are all now fully out and awake! I would have never guessed. We understand eachother it's the best feeling. Soon enough you will see others leaving. Do whatever you can to make friends on the outside of the bubble your stuck it. Find a job you like, eventually you can be free, enjoy new things, It can be lonely, but not as lonely as being stuck in the hole your in now. Good luck! You ever need someone to talk to you can always DM me. I feel you!
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  EdenOne, Mrs. Eden & Son: DISASSOCIATED!

  by EdenOne in

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  2. experiences

  great news!.

  we are free!.

  as of the 9th of june, me and my dear wife mrs. eden handed over our letters of disassociation at bethel in portugal, thus making official our departure from the jehovah's witnesses.

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  Congrats!! You have so much courage. So happy for you family, we are the few fortunate ones to be out with our mates and children. I have a 10 month old son who will never have to live the lies we have. Unfortunately he will have to live a life with limited association with any family that does want to see him, and almost every single family member on m husbands side who has nothing to do with him or my husband and I. A confusing situation. But better to be on our side where we are awake and living life to the fullest.
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  Someone anonymously tipped the elders?

  by raven in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so here an update on my current situation, in a nutshell i've been trying to quietly fade for the past 5 months.. well, my mom somehow found out that i am currently fading and that i live with my boyfriend (for more info on this check my previous posts) i told her yes i live with him and yes i no longer want to be a jw.

  anyways, yesterday she met my boyfriend.. awkward.

  and after lunch she pulled me aside to tell me that the po came up to her (he was part of my jc when i was reproved) he said to her "someone came to me and said - i cannot say who so they will remain anonymous- but that your daughter is living with someone" my mom confirmed and apparently he told her that i have one week to confess this, and if i don't my parents are obligated to tell them everything.. what kind of nonsense is that?

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  Ghiagirl

  I was in a similar situation, sorry to say it is probably your mom that said something or will. My parents did! Nobody liked the fact my now husband and I were dating so they starting something they probably now  regret. It ultimately led to my husband being disfellowshipped we had shortly before stopped attending meetings and they chased us down like they were goddamn police like you said. Constant calls, texts, emails, showing up at our house unannounced and ultimately sending a certified letter letting my husband know he got disfellowshipped. The difference is I was pregnant, so there is proof right there we were "sinning." But we walked away and didn't want to be jws before I even knew I was pregnant. But because my parents made an issue before, I feel the one over zealous elder felt he needed to finish us. Horrible experience. Hopefully ignoring them they will leave you alone, you live far away I doubt they care. But if your mom makes an issue it may change things. Good luck!
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  Jehovahs witnesses investing in stocks involving pornography, alcohol distribution and military war weapons??

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  why is this the first time i have come across this?

  my husband showed me a video about how the jws invest in stock like cinemax, disney, companies producing war weapons, alcohol and much much more.

  if this is true, there are tax records to show for it right?

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  Thanks guys! we just came across this and wanted to see if it was true or not. I'm not nitpicking trying to go against the wts for everything little thing, but to be apart of something my whole entire life and to find out it's all a lie makes me curious as to what is really going on behind closed doors. And I still have many family members apart of the wts and I hate seeing them be lied to too and fooled.
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  2016 Regional Convention - Sunday Morning synopsis

  by Jehalapeno in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  via reddit.

  here are the morning program highlights.

  will update for the afternoon once it's all over.

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  It is truly scary to see how these people become brainwashed! And I was once brainwashed. I have been out 2 years now, so about 3 years ago I remember sitting at the last convention I attended, teary eyed at some video they showed. How sick, how heart breaking. The only reason I have room in my heart to be ok with those who choose Jehovah's Witnesses is because I was once blind. As much as I hope to see anyone and everyone open there eyes I can't judge, and I can't expect them

  to see just because I did. Who knows, if my situation hadn't been so effed up, I may have never woken up. What a bittersweet situation I had. So thankful.
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  Jehovahs witnesses investing in stocks involving pornography, alcohol distribution and military war weapons??

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  why is this the first time i have come across this?

  my husband showed me a video about how the jws invest in stock like cinemax, disney, companies producing war weapons, alcohol and much much more.

  if this is true, there are tax records to show for it right?

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  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0lrdx3vPug&feature=share
  

  Why is this the first time I have come across this? My husband showed me a video about how the jws invest in stock like Cinemax, Disney, companies producing war weapons, alcohol and much much more. What?! If this is true, there are tax records to show for it right? If that's the case it is so black and white. Why can't people see the organization for what it is? Yes I was once brainwashed as well but this would be pretty solid proof. To see the insane amount of money the organization is investing in stocks, yet the end is near and they have no money. I am so sick to my gut right now. Can someone help clear this up. My husband and I are lost.
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  New Member

  by DangerMcDanger in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my name is jimbo, i'm almost 20 years old, and i live in southern california.

  here we go, here's my story (i feel like i'm in an aa meeting haha):.

  i was invited by a friend who, looking back, i could tell was buttering me up for months so she can lunge on the perfect opportunity to invite me to a meeting.

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  Ghiagirl

  Hello welcome! I am in Southern California as well! Been out almost 2 years I was born in. I have to say off the top of my head what really pisses me off is "the truth!" Look at my first post and I refer to the jws as the truth. Shows how brainwashed I was, I was born in though so that's all I knew. But we still spend time with some family that are witnesses and they say the truth as if it is the actual truth, it literally makes me squirm in my seat. And it's actually funny because today I was watching a movie and it was a couple that was getting married but already lived together....which is every freaking movie. Which shows how normal it is to live with someone your not married too! But being raised a jw all you know is chaperones and sex after marriage. Not saying it's wrong to choose that, but if you choose otherwise that's ok too! It's just sick. Just shows how close minded you become. With something so normal 
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  jws deny shunning, yet lie to not look bad

  by Ghiagirl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i recently decided to take matters into my own hands with my husbands family who have nothing to do with us.

  his mom has seen my son twice since he has been born and his dad has never met him.

  his family will pop in every few months, on top of that like in my last post ask for for money.

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  Ghiagirl

  I recently decided to take matters into my own hands with my husbands family who have nothing to do with us. His mom has seen my son twice since he has been born and his dad has never met him. His family will pop in every few months, on top of that like in my last post ask for for money. what really pissed me off is my his family suddenly is best friends with his ex wife who is a jw. Even though his ex wife cheated on my husband with a ministerial servant, had an abortion, and continues to make my husband and I's life a living hell. But because she is a jw, all of a sudden They sit and tell me that SHE wants what's best for my family?! Excuse me. So basically I sent my husbands mother a text telling her I am disappointed you do not try to see our son, although we make it very easy if you wanted too. And I told her I do not appreciate her and her family telling my people my husband and I do not allow any of them to see our son. So on top of everything they are all lying to people. And we obviously know why....because these people are too ashamed and embarrassed to tell people they shun their son and grandson because of religion. Jehovahs people are supposed to be honest though aren't they? That brings me to mentioning shunning, his mother tries to flip things back on my saying, well you were raised a witness, I don't know where shunning came from. Wtf?! Are these people brain washed or just stupid. So in reply I said, well yes I was raised, I specifically remember sitting at an assembly one year, and the title of one talk was, Shun Your Loved Ones that are Disfellowshipped, if your family having nothing to do with mine isn't shunning, then I don't know what shunning is. And of course...no reply. Even on jw.org, they deny shunning! I don't even understand. Someone please explain. Also if any others deal with ex mates you share kids with that are jws. I just can't believe I have my husbands mother telling me his ex wants what's best for my family. You have that nasty woman and shove it. She makes my life a living hell, but suddenly because my family doesn't go to your meetings we are incapable of parenting and my husbands ex knows and wants what's best for us. Screw you people. Ignorant.
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  Jehovah's Witness Teens 13 and 10 Commit Suicide in Wisconsin

  by Tenacious in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i found the following story while researching the jw mindset and subsequent behavior due to their weekly exposure to mind control techniques.

  the story is a bit old but it does speak volumes in terms of the mental anguish the average jw teen must endure as a jw.

  links to website and original newspaper follow:.

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  Ghiagirl

  I can't even believe what I just read. I am so so sorry for your loss. I have a little boy myself and i can't imagine the pain you feel. Good for you for making a stand even though it is hard. Do what is best for your little girl. I don't really pray but you are in my thoughts