Posts by noni1974

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Black Families & Shunning

by snowbird in

after reading password's blog on freeminds, and following the thread about the 7/09 awake, i am saddened to hear the experiences of so many who have been shunned by their families.. i confess that when i first started reading at this site - 8 years ago - i couldn't believe what i was seeing.

i knew that df'd persons were to be excluded from any spiritual interaction, but i'd never personally witnessed the extreme shunning that the society encourages.. i've often mentioned that this seldom happens in black families.

of course, i have no statistical evidence to back this up, but i have yet to see a family in my area practice this kind of shunning.

noni1974

I wanted to add my family at least the closest ones don't shun me when it comes to family crisis. I am in fact one of the first ones they call. I was there when my uncle died 4 years ago and my grandpa died 2 years ago. I was one of the first ones there when they were sick and we knew they didn't have long. I was called and I am still called if something happens to my mother who is in a nursing home. They don't exclude me at all when it comes to death or sickness. I'm lucky in that fact. My family at least includes me. I have a voice in my mothers care in the nursing home. I was the one who called the hospital and told them we wanted her transferred to Cleveland when she fell and hurt herself in the nursing home and she was 60 miles away. I told them under not circumstances would we want her operated on out there. They listened to me and she wasn't cut open out there. She was brought into town. Lucky for us she ended up not needing an operation at all. I was the one who found her a new nursing home closer to us. I took it upon myself to work with her nursing home social services person when no one else did. Believe me if something happened to my family and I wasn't told I would be livid. My family knows me enough to know I would raise hell with doctors and family so they tell me what's going on if anything is going on.

Many many EX Jw's don't even have that. I heard another story tonight about an EX JW who's family tried to exclude them from a funeral of a sibling who was also an EX JW. It sickens me that people can do that to each other.

I DA ed 11 years ago. I am always there for my family and I know if I was sick and needed them they would be there for me. The problem with that is the blood issue. I had made it clear that I would take a blood transfusion if I needed one but my JW family won't support me in my decision. They will in fact enforce a no blood policy for me if I were to ever need a blood transfusion.

I have parents and siblings and aunts and an uncle and almost all of my cousins that are JW's. So if I were to ever need a blood transfusion I would not get one if it were left up to them. I'm still in need of a medical power of attorney. I don't have anyone local at the moment. I may ask my friend Lori who I've known since I was a teenager. She is also a EX JW like me and would do it if I asked.

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Anyone in the Cleveland, OH area

by wifeofjw in

hi,.

i was wondering if there are in meet-ups of ex-jws in the cleveland area?.

wojw.

noni1974

You mean west right?? LOL!!

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Anyone in the Cleveland, OH area

by wifeofjw in

hi,.

i was wondering if there are in meet-ups of ex-jws in the cleveland area?.

wojw.

noni1974

I sent you a PM. Check your little envelpoe at the top right hand side of your screen.

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Anyone in the Cleveland, OH area

by wifeofjw in

hi,.

i was wondering if there are in meet-ups of ex-jws in the cleveland area?.

wojw.

noni1974

I live in Cleveland. Lakewood in fact. PM me if you want to meet up.

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Black Families & Shunning

by snowbird in

after reading password's blog on freeminds, and following the thread about the 7/09 awake, i am saddened to hear the experiences of so many who have been shunned by their families.. i confess that when i first started reading at this site - 8 years ago - i couldn't believe what i was seeing.

i knew that df'd persons were to be excluded from any spiritual interaction, but i'd never personally witnessed the extreme shunning that the society encourages.. i've often mentioned that this seldom happens in black families.

of course, i have no statistical evidence to back this up, but i have yet to see a family in my area practice this kind of shunning.

noni1974

I don't know anything about black families. My family is white for the most part anyway.LOL I have 2 black cousins by marriage ( they married my cousins). 1 black "step uncle" by marriage (he married my widowed aunt by marriage, she is still my aunt whether or not my blood uncle died, that makes her new husband my "step uncle"). Several mixed second cousins. 2 black adopted nephews. 1 black second cousin by marriage. Several mixed third cousins.

So I guess you can say my family is mixed. I come from the white side of the family. I Da ed and my mom didn't even think about kicking me out or shunning me. I would say it really depends on the family. My family now has five generations of JW's. Don't get me wrong I would not be invited to any party's or anything but they speak to me when they see me. Not all of my family is JW. Most of them are but not all. The ones who aren't are extended family second cousins and great aunts and uncles.

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We Adopted A Kitten ...

by snowbird in

from a shelter for abused/homeless animals.. she's gray, black, and white.

one eye is larger than the other, and she's charmed the entire household.. my g'daughter named her hannah - after the biblical hannah, of course.

i'm back at work and my g'daughter at school, so we had to leave her in an enclosure.. it just about broke our hearts.. sylvia.

noni1974

Ahhh Snakes I remember when you got your kitty. It was shortly after I found my Little Oliver!! Here he is as a kitten.

Here he is all grown up.

Snowbird post pictures if you can!! I love babies!!

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Stann in ohio

by noni1974 in

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friends

you have a pm.

sorry i didn't answer before i didn't see it.

.

noni1974

BTT!!!! StAnn You have a PM.

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Sunday School Teacher Indicted for Murder and Rape - Still Lots of ?????

by flipper in

as some of you may have heard about the tragic rape and death of an 8 year old sandra cantu here in california in the town of tracy - there are still a lot of unanswered questions which beg to be answered and indeed the young girl's brutal murder cries out for an answer.. in case you missed it, to sum up briefly this young girl went missing from her mobile home park the end of march and for about 10 days the police and volunteers put on a massive manhunt .

then finally after 10 days some farmworkers found sandra's body in a suitcase in an irrigation pond only about 2 miles from her home.

search warrants were put out and neighbors were questioned including a baptist minister , his wife, and his 28 year old grandaughter melissa huckaby whose 5 year old daughter played with sandra all the time.

noni1974

It was the first of many sadly. It was almost 30 years ago. I often wonder what happened to the girl. I remember going to court and sitting outside as my mother told what had happened to me. I was told she was "slow" and would get help. I don't even know if she went to jail or not. I don't think she did. I honestly don't know what she was charged with. I was to little to unerstand.

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Sunday School Teacher Indicted for Murder and Rape - Still Lots of ?????

by flipper in

as some of you may have heard about the tragic rape and death of an 8 year old sandra cantu here in california in the town of tracy - there are still a lot of unanswered questions which beg to be answered and indeed the young girl's brutal murder cries out for an answer.. in case you missed it, to sum up briefly this young girl went missing from her mobile home park the end of march and for about 10 days the police and volunteers put on a massive manhunt .

then finally after 10 days some farmworkers found sandra's body in a suitcase in an irrigation pond only about 2 miles from her home.

search warrants were put out and neighbors were questioned including a baptist minister , his wife, and his 28 year old grandaughter melissa huckaby whose 5 year old daughter played with sandra all the time.

noni1974

I was raped at 5 years old by a 14 year old girl. I know for a fact the females do in fact rape other females. I also know she got a smack on the wrist and the police didn't believe me when I told them what happened. Not till my mother showed them the blood in my pantie's. My father found the girl after I pointed her out to him.

I was at a football game with my father and mother and my brother and little sister. My mom and little sister had gone to the other side of the field to watch the band play and my father had my brother and me. I had to use the bathroom and my father sent my brother and me together. This was in 1979. I had just turned 5 the month before. My brother didn't want to go into the girls room with me. He just turned 7 the month before. A girl standing in line said she would take me. My brother let her. She took me into the stall and raped me. I screamed and I don't remember what happened till I got back to my father. I told him what happened. He took my and my brother to find my mother. We found her. I told her what happened. She took me to the police in the stadium. They didn't believe me till my mom showed them by lifting my skirt the blood. I ws standing next to her and the cop and I saw the girl and pointed her out to my father and he went and grabbed her and dragged her to the cop. I was put into and ambulance and taken to the hospital for a rape exam.

There are just as many sick women out there as there are men.

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Is Being A Snitch A Popular Activity In The Kingdub?

by Yizuman in

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how often do dubs hear someone snitch about a wrong doing from a brother or sister?.

how often do you hear of a snitch going to the elders to stir up a lynch mentality against a brother or sister?.

is there some points being earned for all this or do they think jehovah will reward them for being a snitch?.

noni1974

My own mother snitched on me. When I went to her because I was at my ropes end and wanted to stop going to meetings she went straight to the elders. I told her if she did that I would DA. I've been DA ed almost 11 years now.