@The Searcher
I was one of those people. Per the elders' manual, your repentance has to be greater than your sin. First off, that information is not provided to those who are going through the process. Secondly, many people express emotions differently. Third, how are three men who can't read hearts supposed to judge my level of repentance? Fourth, how can you judge how great a sin is?
The whole process is a gross misuse of power.