jwfacts said: " It takes time to build up the emotional strength, and eventually I had to admit that if my family would put cult over me then they were not real family. I just feel sorry for them now, as I have moved on to better things, and they are still living in their simpleminded ignorance. Do it in your own time, when you are ready. You need a good circle of friends first to support you, some finances behind you and some real life experience out on your own. Otherwise you risk your own emotional well being." Although he is a non-witness and hardly knows nothing about the Troof my bf gave me that very same advice. My problem is I am constanly seeking to do things today instead of dealing with them when the time comes. My brother (non-active but was never even baptized in the first place) has insisted that now is not the time to make a move on anything. That to just focus on school and work and if and when sh*** hits the fan deal with it then and I will have him to back me up and that was probably the best advice I should of taken from the beggining (after all-he is the only other person on this planet who came out of my mother's womb besides me) I realize now that all this time (weeks really) I've been chewing my nails and overeacting about a situation that could of simply been halted with a simple: "I am too busy right now for meetings and other things and need some time alone could of saved me a hell of a lot of trouble (and filled-up inboxes from the elder in my hall)
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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Finally Free said:"I suspect the "advice" you are taking is that which validates the deceptive course of conduct you had already seemingly decided upon. Let us know when the shit hits the fan. I'd like to be the first to say "I told you so." Not having any kids of my own I rarely get the opportunity. For your information the "advice" I receieved was from young and old-those who were in my same situation and those who are actually in that same situation now. And not that its any of your buisness but based on our similar circumstances we decided that the best thing to do is actually the complete oposite of what you are assuming and dear god thank god you don't have children cause I can't my mother being able to say "I told you so" to one of her kids as an oppurtunity to be anticipating.
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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LittleToe said:" Sometimes I have to wonder how some folks can be so absolutely sure of themselves that they think it's appropriate to act harshly. There's a subtle difference between an attention-seeker and a troll. But all that aside, at least try to remember that there are humanbeings at the other end of the wire. Being human often means being individual, and accepting that others don't always act in a way that we might not personally choose. What right do we have to tell someone how they should proceed, or how they ought to think or act? It's one thing for someone to seek advice; it's completely another to deride them for their choices and accuse them of being juvenile and/or pathological liars. Don't you recall what it was like trying to hide your dissatisfaction with the WTS from family? It can take a while, step by step, before someone gains the confidence to not care less what others think of them. Meanwhile they wear masks of all sorts of shapes and sizes. I defy anyone to claim that they've never been there at some point in their lives..." Well said LittleToe. Its funny b/c depending on which Jw forum you are on they can be either real critical, self-righteous and simply so sure of themselves about everything on the other side of the Troof that they forget that some people aren' there yet. And then there are the kind of forums that remember that there are still those who are taking their baby steps. This is certainly one of those that is so NOT the latter.
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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MrsJones said: "Then why did you ask us for help? Fine, I'll keep in mind not to give you any advice since you obvious don't want it. Do us a favor honey, stop crying wolf. I've said my piece and counted to three. Josie" Like I said I took all the advice that was given to me both on here and the private messages I received and took them to heart. I made my decision and plan of action. There's my piece after the count of 4.
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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Finally Free said: "Oh and my parents are not providing for me financially... blah blah blah... I don't care. I never said they were. So, as you said yourself, "So please don't put your statements and say they are mine. " LOL! Actually, 2 pages back someone did assume such as was asked by some in PM's. And again, to those who PM me I stated my decision which most of them said was the best idea so you have no idea where my thoughts have gone since I made this thread. But yeah, thanks.
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Minimus said: "I love you too, Stilla---not to be confused with the other one." What a relief. I almost lost my lunch. [img]http://bestsmileys.com/puking/1.gif[/img]
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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Anyways, this thread died for me last night. I took to heart the advice that was given to me to those who took the time out to PM me rather than those who decided to throw this into a myspace web war. Thanks again to you all and goodnight! :)
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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MrsJones said: "Stilla girl, forget the catfighting (It's making you look a bit juvenile), has anything we have said about being honest with your parents made sense to you? I'm trying to bring YOU back to your own topic and find out if you absorbed anything of what we have said. Josie Huh? I was simply defending myself and injecting my thoughts into a statement that was made that simply was not true? LOL. If you want to see my catfigting on the web go to my myspace page.
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HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!
by stillAwitness ina few weeks ago i posted about about how my parents have been asking about wether or not my card has been sent to my "new congregation" since i moved out in july.
up until now, i have been stalling not knowing wether or not i wanted to just come out and say "i have not been going to meetings" or not take any action at all.
well someone left an interesting piece of advice on my thread that i have been contemplating doing.that maybe, perhaps i should just have my card sent to a congregation that isn't anywhere near the actual city i live in.
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Thanks to those who PM'ed me their ideas and opinions on this matter (you know who you are) I made a decision.
