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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

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  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  You're right. Let me clarify...

  I adore my mom & sisters. I'm the baby of 7. Those girls & my mom pretty much raised me & I love them all. They are all active JW's & me stepping away has really affected the closeness we all once had. My Dad was an elder for as long as I was alive. He spoke beautiful things off the platform, was well-versed in his Bible knowledge, gave outstanding advice, etc. However, behind closed doors, he was a different person entirely. Cold, mean, distant, controlling, domineering, you name it. He verbally abused my mother for years, as long as I can remember.

  Then, with my self-esteem in shambles, I married a pathetic little elf who was a JW. He had a little anger issue, that coupled w/ my left-over anger from my stifled childhood, makes for a very bad combination. He got physically abusive, not to mention me allowing him to rip my heart apart even more. The elders concluded that he & I abused ea. other, BS!!!!!!!!!, and that I showed bruises b/c I was the woman/weaker/etc. I will never, ever forgive my ex-husband for what he did, all in the name of god. Nor will I forgive the elders for attempting to handle a situation that belonged in the hands of the police, anger management, courses, marriage counselors, etc.

  So, while I'm angry at my father, my ex-husband & religion for seeming to support these two rats, I miss the girls tremendously, who have lovely hearts & long for me to return.....

  Too much information??

  Ginger
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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  That's so sweet. Thank you...
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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  That is awesome advice. Your words were perfect! I know that spirituality comes from within, not under the cover of a label or title. And I fully intend on obtaining that.

  Thanks again!
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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  Thank you for your sweet words....
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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  I'd love to chat more...knowing your'e still active gives me more comfort than the anti-JW's out there. I don't need negativity, just insight.

  You can email me at [email protected] if you want. I don't come on here often.

  Thanks!

  Ginger
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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  It's mildly comforting knowing that others return b/c of family. I miss the sense of belonging...in addition to peace of mind...

  Thanks!
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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  Returning for the right reasons is of utmost value. I have become 'stronger' & would hate to return for the wrong reasons.

  Other religions don't phase me in the least. But...getting over anger as a result of injustice is something very, very hard to swallow. Maintaining who I am is vital...and I'm not sure how to do it.

  Volunteering? yes, fabulous idea. I've often considered, just never pursued.

  Thanks!
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  pathetic

  by schne_belly in

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  isnt this just pathetic.

  i work for my father (a current jw) and we have some jw customers.

  since my recent fading, one particular customer, an elder, has come into work for business and then carried it further to encouraging me offering a hearing ear etc.

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  ginger77

  Poor girl. I've felt intimidated so many times. They love what they do & so they never see any harm in trying. But if you're not 'with it' lately, & don't need the pressure, just remember you're a professional who's WORKING. A polite but firm response is instantly empowering but not trashy. Good luck babe!

  Ginger
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  In the middle of spiritual agnst, what do you do?

  by ginger77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-jw, save your bs advice, i dont' need to hear you put jw's down just to give advice.. i was raised a jw & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.. i miss my fam, i miss peace, i miss a sense of belonging.

  any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?.

  ginger

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  ginger77

  Please, huge warning, if you're an angry ex-JW, save your bs advice, I dont' need to hear you put JW's down just to give advice.

  I was raised a JW & am still bitter over injustice growing up at the hands of my elder father, and bitter over the abuse of my ex-husband.

  I miss my fam, I miss peace, I miss a sense of belonging.

  Any advice on how to gain inner peace w/o selling myself out?

  Ginger