i am not a jehovas witness and am not looking to be anytime at all she says that is ok and we can still get married
Welcome!
The above won't work out. She might be saying that now, but once you're married then that will change. You'll get pressured into becoming a Jehovah's Witness.
What about blood transfusions? Do you know if you are a Jehovah's Witness and have a major accident you are not allowed blood transfusions? Or that your wife will refuse them and would rather die?
Go to JW Facts to learn more about this cult.
Your instincts are you telling you something is wrong. Listen to them!