Posts by forsharry

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Cats, and their personal stereos

by Fe2O3Girl in

the house cat.

the hip hop cat.

the metal cats.

TERROR ALERT _ UK AIRPORTS in CHAOS

by Crumpet in

'airlines terror plot' disrupted

all airports have been put under the restrictions

reid statement

Yeah I heard about the tasting of formula in order to get it on the planes for your baby...but i was thinking (cause aparently given the 'proper' push I could be a master criminal.) Like you're a terrorist and you're going to blow up a plane, killing yourself and everyone else...what's a little liquid explosives in the tummy? Couldn't you just envision them using a baby as a smokescreen and drinking said 'formula' to prove it was nummy and nutritious when it really was explosives?

I'm going to go do penance for thinking such things...

I'm just glad that they caught this, and hope that scotland yard is immiently successful with rounding up the rest of those involved in this monstrous plot.

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JW parents/relatives attempts to encourage you to come back or change ...

by alienagent in

i am rather new here, so i may be repeating a worn out subject.

however, for me it is rather a new experience, since i have only just recently stopped going to the kh.

my heart has never really been in it, though i am not in total disagreement and have made some nice friends in "the truth".

forsharry

For me it was the same garbage, just a different day. They are trying to shame you into coming back...like the nagging mother using guilt trips. and yet, you did everything 'right' once and look where it got you, yanno?

There's a big world out there, filled with kind people who want nothing more to be your friends and family...and they won't throw conditional love at you.

Now, if you don't agree with what I just said however, It'll be like you're dead to me. ;)

Forsharry

of the "Lame Sarcasm" class

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Automatic Re-instatement?

by BritBoy in

does anyone out there know the answer this one.... .

ok, take for example the oral sex thread and the fact that the dubs reversed their thinking on this.

so, twenty years ago (within the marriage arrangements) blow job = disfellowshipping... now it's a "matter of conscience".

forsharry

Just Lucky, I guess. ;)

and the light just gets brighter and brighter, till you burn your retinas out.

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Tomorrow is the BIG Day!

by Yizuman in

jw
friends

it's the day that i am getting married!

i've waited 42 long years for this day and it's been well worth the wait!

although we cannot afford a big honeymoon, but we've been lucky to get 2 free nights at a local hotel, compliments by her cousin.

forsharry

WOOHOO!

CONGRATUFREAKINGLATIONS!

Best of luck to you, and many, many happy years!

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Rejecting God or rejecting religion?

by kojo in

jw
friends

i have read many posts on here and on other websites from people who were brought up or became immersed in a particular religion or belief system, who later ,often because of bad experiences with their religion, went to the opposite extreme of not believing in god at all.

this often puzzles me because i wonder if people who reject a belief in god because of the hypocrisies they experienced in their former belief really are rejecting god or just a man-made organization which claims to be god's spokesman and has shown to be anything but.. i was raised in a presbyterian church which is about as traditional and conservative as you can get and my image of god was molded by that belief.

i saw the services and people there as dead basically.

forsharry

I don't reject God persay...I simply pretend to believe in him in the same way he pretended to help me when I was in need.

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Are You Tired of Hearing JW News or Do You Want To Hear The Latest??

by minimus in

jw
friends

personally, i'm grateful to hear the latest.

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forsharry

I like hearing the news...i want to keep informed...it's also like watching a train wreck at this point. ;)

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Were YOU Depressed When You Were A Witness?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i've seen soooo many witnesses taking meds or alcohol because of unhappiness and depression.

i know of one woman who regularly gos to her shrink and is the most depressed person that i know of.

personally, i believe it's because a jw can never do enough to satisfy god or the elders....what do you think?

forsharry

I read something that Blondie said on page 2 about being depressed and then being depressed. I've also read about people that once they left they got better on their own.

I think yes, you can be born with it and even if you had the bestest childhood ever, you'd deal with depression. I also think that it's the putting ya down in the organization that drives one to depression as well. I am the third, as I'm sure many of us here are as well...

We learned the wrong coping skills growing up, it's like we were told the sky was green when it was really blue. So once we left, for whatever reasons we couldn't quite get ourselves 'happy' again cause we had no idea how happy was achieved or what it really felt like. I'm being overly simplistic with this, but it's the gist.

My therapy entailed not only discussion of my rotten childhood but the complete rebuilding of my mental and social foundations. Between than and the medication to get myself onto a more stable platform, my mood has greatly improved. It's taken a long to reteach myself but ultimately I'm not as miserable anymore. He explained it using "The Circle of Courage"

The Circle of Courage

The medicine wheel, which is a Native American symbol for the wholeness of life, is used to portray this philosophy. The four directions of the medicine wheel are representative of four universal human needs:

Generosity

Character is cultivated by concern for others so that the child (and everyone) can say,

I have a purpose for my life.

Belonging

The universal longing for human bonds is cultivated by relationships of trust so the child (and everyone) can say,I am loved.

Independence

Free will is cultivated by responsibility so that the child (and everyone) can say,

I have the power to make decisions.

Mastery

The inborn thirst for learning is cultivated, by learning to cope with the world so the child (and everyone) can say,

I can succeed.

If one of these is broken, it's almost impossible to master the next step. All of the above we might have been tought in one fashion or another, but they were always based on subjectivism and conditional...

I have a purpose for my life. (Not me, but the society has a purpose for my life...ultimately I have no say in it.)

I am loved. (only if I tow the line, otherwise I will be cast aside as refuse and trampled upon.)

I have the power to make decisions. (oh really? Not so. I can only make decisions that are society approved.)I can succeed. (I as a woman cannot. I am to subject myself to others when it goes against my very personality to do such a thing. I can only do what I'm told, and can't succeed when it wasn't even my decision really to make.)

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Are you still a Jehovah's Witness?

by Wordly Andre in

jw
friends

.

if not,.

then wish me a happy birthday!!

forsharry

Happy Birthday!

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Wow. A really great insider story...

by DubBeachBabe in

this is one of the best-written and most insightful experiences i've read.

if you're interested in how bethel's writing department actually works, and recent scandals, this is a thought-provoking story.

i like this woman already.. it's very lengthy, so grab a cup of good coffee or a glass of wine, and settle in for a long read: .

forsharry

What a powerful article. I forwarded the link on to family and friends. This should be exposed in the same way that pedophilia in catholicisim was and is to an excent. I applaued Barbara Anderson and all those brave souls at Silent Lambs, who either support, or have exposed these monsters either through telling their tales or reporting them to the PROPER authorities.

I'm just amazed that they would shelter these perverts...what the heck is wrong with them?! How can you turn a blind eye to anyone suffering, let alone the silent suffering of a child?! I mean, Jeeze, we were trapped in one fashion or another in the religion, but to be doubly trapped through not only mind control but rape and fear of exposure?! What bastards!

(Slightly on a tangent, but trust me I do have a point somewhere in this post.)

I was molested once, as a young girl by my grandmother's neighbor (my childhood friend's grandfather.) I was 6 years old. He gave me silver for it too...It was a couple of days before my birthday. I never said a word to my parents, because even then, I as a small child being shown the witness thoughtspeak, saw that it was my fault, cause I went to his house by myself to get some money for my birthday, in secret cause my parents would be upset if they knew I got a birthday present.

So I wonder, how many children never even speak up at all, even to their own parents? How many rationalize it, and turn it into their own faults as I did? Fear, Fear, Fear! It has GOT to STOP!

I tell everyone I know who asks me about the Jehovah's Witnesses, all about their covering up of this problem. That and the loving behavior that is portrayed through the generous and thoughtful method of shunning. What the he// were my parents thinking?!

Forsharry

of the "Ain't that some Sh!t" class