Yes there is a happy medium...you just have to be secure in yourself in order to find it. Rushing into another religion after being abused for whatever number of years you were in to me is just plain silly. I stayed very far away from religion...heck, I was VERY angry at god. Now I just don't give a rats arse one way or the other. If he's up there, great. I don't think he's worthy of my praise and slavery. If not...then great! I'm not wasting any more time on going through the motions to something that's not even there.
However, I do think the term filling the void is dangerous in this sense. I know I personally was socially stunted, emotionally defunct, and mentally unstable when I left the bOrg. To fill that gaping maw inside of me would be simply burying all of my problems and I did try for a couple of years to devestating results. You have to find out why that void is there...and what exactly is missing within you from all the years in the bOrg and fix it. Don't simply pave over it, because like sinkholes, they will show themselves again at the most inopportune time.
Some have said trust is a big issue...and boy is it ever! You have to love yourself before you can love others...same goes with trust too. Like one of the posters said they tried crafts and groups and everything else to try to fill the void, and it didn't work...why? Because growing up in da troof ill-prepares any of us for normal social interactions. We were raised in an organization where we didn't belong...we were outcasts from the start, different...and it was even further ingrained because of my 'weakened status.' (female.) We never learn to master our environment and therefore cannot be generous to ourselves or others and have a hard time with independence as a result.
I know I'm glossing over what could honestly be an indepth psychological discussion, but it pretty much serves my purpose for the topic of this discussion. I have to go back and relearn...everything pretty much. I'm getting there, but it's frustrating. Instead of simply filling the void, I'm trying to learn why its there and in doing so slowly building it up so that it's not a void...but more like a really deep cavern or something like that. ;)
We're taught to never rely on ourselves...to never trust in us...to never belong to our own being. We are our own worst enemies...who needs the god of the JWs when we've got our own psychologically faulty thought processes to keep ourselves isolated and separated?