i'm new here and have only been studing for some months. but i wanted to let you know about our situation in reguards to yours.
my husband was baptized when he was 9 or 10. his whole family was very involved in the kingdon hall. his father was an elder. making a confusing and long story short, his father found a "girlfriend" which got him disfellowshiped. of corse my husband did not continue attending. so now many years later we decided we would start going to the meetings. upon us returning, my husband was asked to particapate in a meeting with some of the elders reguarding he "status" as a witness. he was also asked to not discuss this meeting with me, well, i'm proud to say i know my husband better then he knows himself, just asking the right questions at the right time will give you more than enough information. they asked him many personal questions, which he told the truth to, so basically as punishment (thats how i see it) he's in reproof? he can attend the meeting but he is not allowed to comment yet they expect him to do field service? i watch my husband sit through these meetings three days a week, i watch him study his bible at night, and i watch him day after day try to be a better person, he's better than i am, i know that. but to me on the outside looking in, he dosen't deserve to be punished for his dads faults or be made to feel any sort of guilt. i was baptized as a cathloic, but i was not raised in the church. yet still every fiber of my being tells me the only person you or i owe and explanation to is our father in heaven. no man or board or committee. you pray for yourself and ask god to forgive you for your sins, reguardless if there is a paradise on earth, in heaven or whatever mostly everyone would agree reguardless of your beliefs there is a right and a wrong that we'll all answer for. i even get upset with my husband for letting them make him feel the way they do!?! it's not fair and you can't let them be the judge of you.
thanks for listening,
jg