The rule of going to the person first is often overlooked, this happened to me a couple of months ago, 'someone' said they saw me drunk (on this occasion it actually wasn't true!!) and went to the elders, the elders asked this person to come to me, but they wouldn't... so they ignored the rule and just came to me (as a pair) to discuss it.. well actually, first they discussed it with my husband. The whole thing made me furious. This person, went to one elder, who went to another, they were obliged to tell the P.O and then my husband.. lastly, and months later, they came to me. Totally ignoring the scriptural way of doing things. Fortuanately it worked in my favour! cos I wasn't at the meeting where the elder approached my hubbie, he then spoke to me so gave me advance warning and I was able to look over my diary and realise what had happened (I was actually helping a very sick friend home from work and she was feeling so ill, I was having to hold her up, which made me appear as if I was staggering!!!!)
I was so mad I let rip. this supposed beloved brother or sister of mine did not even stop to make sure I was ok? Just went home and phoned the elders straight away.
But I suppose it was one of the last straws so I can be grateful!
Poppy xx