or opposite sex if your gay?
how did you react if you did?.
i seem to attract the more "butch" type, dont ask me why.
I have, and I found it a huge compliment (although didn't take her up on her kind offer!) I think women are much more discerning so when a woman thinks I'm sexy, I think it's more flattering than when a guy does.. Although I still prefer being hit on by guys!
Poppy
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even if you have been out for a while, does it ever hit you that you don't have to get ready and rush out to a meeting?.
i just looked at the clock, its 18.30, if i were still in i'd be screaming at the kids now to get ready for the book study, but here i am, not even made dinner yet.. life is good!
I hadn't been for about 6 months, when I attended the memorial, and from about 3pm I was starting to be 'restless' thinking of getting the kids showered etc, tea sorted out in time, what to wear.. etc etc.
I realised that although the meetings started at 7 and were 2 hours long, it took a couple of hours before hand to get sorted out for them, it's just bliss to come home from work on a Tuesday and do whatever I like!
Poppy x
i've been keeping tabs on my old congregation for the last 3+ years (i dont even remember when was the last time i went to a meeting) it is not easy, i have joined a site named 'bebo' and have a handfull of so called 'friends' in my network.
mostly from my old congregation, they seem to acknowledge my existence, but keep there distance.
no one ever invites me to anything or to hang out.. time flies and things change.
Is this the kind a thing that gets people to return?
When I went to the memorial, it did hit me why people carry on going even when they think it's wrong..
It's a feeling of 'belonging' that some people crave. However they are not your real friends as you have found! Life does suck if you let it.
But you can turn this around and be pro active in getting happy and having real friends.
I left behind many life long friends in the witnesses. But I have since found how true they were, as they one by one stop contacting me and inviting me to events etc.
I have just a couple of 'worldly' friends but they are true, and there for me no matter what. It's worth it smoky! Get out there!
Poppy x
my name is terri, and i live in the south of england.
i used to be a regular pioneer in the jw's, i stopped going to the meetings about 5 years ago.
and my life has just got better and better.
Hi Terri! And Welcome.
I'm from the Uk too. And like you Regular pioneered. I also questioned many things and used to think it was my imperfect self that just could not see what everyone else could!
You will enjoy Crisis of Conscience. It is quite an eye opener. As to recovering after the witnesses.. I've never heard of any support groups in the Uk, but that doesn't mean there are none. In saying that, you seem to have made a pretty good recovery already.
I am quite newly out compared to you, but have many things I still need to work through, but we'll get there!
Poppy xx
im sorry i havent been on the forum for ages.
but like the prodigal son i have a problem now, and i would really appreciate some help and input.. i found out at the beginning of the week, by a slip of the tongue from my daughter, that she has been told by her dad to call his new wife 'mum'.
daughter is 8, and on questioning has said that she feels she might get told off if she doesnt use this term.. i initially phoned her dad to ask if this was true, and he told me she uses the term all the time and 'its none of my business'.
Katie...
I know this must hurt!!! BUT it sounds like your daughter is lovely, intelligent and well mannered. She will work out (and probably already has) what is going on here.
I am one half of a seperated couple, and my children quickly worked out their dad was treating me badly, even though I never said a word about him.
I think the idea of maybe suggesting another word for mum... might be better? Maybe even MumTash, or something like that so she can 'please' her dad and still not feel disloyal to you.
I have much respect for the way you are handling this. It appears your daughter already feels uncomfortable with what her dad is asking her and will not suddenly get more comfortable with it as she gets older. My mum remarried when I was 8. She insisted we called our stepfather 'dad' even though he was an evil person.
We did this in public, in private (only to each other!) we called him by his name, soon we dropped the dad and just didnt' refer to him at all.
You love your daughter, she loves you, she will NEVER get confused as to who her mum is.
Poppy xxxxx
I definately don't listen to it! ...
Then I really hope it's cover is wipe clean
Sex sells Poppy. I have the album
Yeah.. but do you lick it or listen to it?
Is it just me or do those two dark girls look like those 'cheeky girls' the twins that used to be in the UK charts with the most awful music my ears have ever heard, but cos they bumped around in tiny hotpants in the video they went to number 1!!
Poppy x
Interestingly, someone told me that they have 'A' Staff for the weekends, the really gorgeous girls who are well endowed, and 'B' staff for quieter nights...
Not good for your ego if you were put down for the 'B' Shift!
Poppy
We don't have such a thing in England. In fact I don't even know what it is. Is it like a strip club?
Ballistic, I'm ashamed of you, course we do, there is one in Nottingham! We used to pass it everytime we went to the district convention at the Ice Stadium and My ex would look longingly at it...lmao. but to answer the question, no I wouldn't personally take a first date there. I think it's fine, but even I would think it was weird if I went there the first time I went out with a guy. It's full of gorgeous girls with 'assets' in your face, most women would find that a little intimidating when trying to impress a guy! Poppy
