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  .....It is painful to watch...

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  troubled mind

  You are doing a good thing OTWO ,but it zaps your energy .

  My advice to you is Be straight with your sister about her husband visiting .She is lying because she doesn't want you to be mad ,so have a calm discussion of why it is a bad idea to allow her husband too much leaway . Remind her of why she is in the home in the first place . Sickness may indeed be effecting her mind ,so you may need to have this conversation over ,and over again . Tell her your fears be honest with her too .

  Sometimes you just have to realize you can only do so much, and then let it go . It sucks that you end up being the person that will have to pick up the peices if she makes a bad decision . It also stinks that you will be labeled the bad guy ,but what matters is that you know the truth and that you did what needs to be done .

  I am in a similar circumstance with my sister . I have to make unpopular choices ,and get labelled as the mean one too. It is hurtful when you do so much and then someone can waltz in for two seconds and throw a wrench into all you have done . My sister will lie to me too, because she hates it when I get mad .

  I hope you can get a break and just not think about it for a day .
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  An experiment: Open House for Demons

  by return of parakeet in

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  i feel cheated that never, not once, as a dub or as a ex-dub, did i experience the presence, manifestation, or just-things-flying-around, of demons.

  not so much as a teacup levitating from its saucer.

  no inexplicable cold spots.

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  I love that Godsmack song ! We saw them in concert a few years ago and they played it ,it was fantastic .

  I was raised on demon stories too . Return of Parakeet good luck with the experiment . Try putting out Sinful Delight coffee and Devils food cake .....or better yet open your mind with a bit of tequila that may get you seeing things . Just trying to be helpful
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  not seeing the forest for the trees

  by El_Guapo in

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  sometimes when you are in the borg, you miss the obvious.

  i recall a sheperding call around sept. 2001. i was a brand-new m.s.

  and went with an older elder.

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  This kind of 'Christian love' by JW is what started me waking up .

  There was a newly interested person attending our hall that needed aid ,and when I asked the Elders if the congregation could help ,they told me that was not the role of the congregation . Our only concern should be preaching ,JWs are not a social services organization .

  They proceeded to tell the person in need that because they were a newly interested one the others would view them as 'an icey wind' on their backs until they proved themselves to be a lover of Jehovah . I was SHOCKED and sickened by this revelation . A few days later this person was homeless ,and when I told an Elders wife , 'I guess I will have to turn to the Churches in town to help her ' ,... she jumped down her husbands throat and ended up getting some help after all. Some of those Elders wives can be real assets .

  When I came to realize they couldn't even get being a good samaritian right, I knew it was all over ....
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  What is your daily commute, and how long does it take you

  by coffee_black in

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  mine is 25 miles each way.

  it can take anywhere from a half hour to an hour and a half each way depending on traffic.

  there is no way way to get here by public transportation.. sigh~ .

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  My drive is about 3 minutes to work ,and then for work I drive approx.30 in the morning and 30 miles in the afternoon driving school bus .In the in between time I work at a shop downtown part time ,another 3 minute drive . I too live in a small town population 6,000. My husband drives into the nearest bigger town for work 22 miles away .
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  Do you know me? Do I know you?

  by jeremiah18:5-10 in

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  since leaving the wts i've struggled mightily to make friends and adjust socially.

  i would really like to find some people that i know and reconnect if any happen to be on here.

  so i'm going to reveal my name and ask that if you know me or our paths have crossed, please reach out to me.. i'm "no longer one of jehovah's witnesses" so why not?.

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  troubled mind

  Sorry I do not know you ,but totally understand how you feel . I went through that, and still do at times wonder if someone on here might know me .Good luck hope you get a response.
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  Jw;s like family

  by d in

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  i was wondering do you ever miss certain jw's?

  i mean not all but just some, becuase even though we may rant and rave against jw's at times.

  we have to remeber that for those that were born in the jw's theywere like family.which is why it is so hard at for me to let go completely.. although i have been out for about 5 yrs and it feels good.

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  Sure I miss certain ones ,but I have come to realize their friendship was not based on anything substantial otherwise they would still be my friend no matter what .

  I live in a small town and I see some of our former JW 'friends' around town at the grocery store ect . I always greet them with a smile ,a wave , and a hello . Some respond back with a mumbled hello then look down at the floor and walk on by ,I truly feel sorry for them . Others look through me as if I do not exist ,I do not feel sorry for those types .
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  I've just been 'Outted' by my own sister

  by Newly Enlightened in

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  i thought that we could just fade away peacefully, but i guess my mother told my sister that we no longer wanted to be jehovah's witnesses so now all hell is breaking loose.. .

  it's a relief tho.

  i feel really sad and upset also, because my mom lives with my sister and now has been forbidden from contacting me or vice versa.

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  Your Mother has rights ! Authorities could explain to her and your sister that just because she is elderly does not make her a prisoner of your sisters.
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  SECRET SANTA 2012

  by finallysomepride in

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  secret santa 2012. with only 7 weeks to go until christmas, should we start to do something now, especially for those posting overseas.

  just a thought.

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  Dear Santa , THANK YOU !!!! There was a package waiting for me on my porch when I got back from work this afternoon.

  My inner nerd Thanks you too !!! Seriously you could not have picked a better present ,I will be busy reading about where to drag my poor husband off to next . So happy
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  How did you feel making your first post here?

  by cognac in

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  i was scared sh*tless.

  i stayed home from work for four days scared to go out of my house thinking god would strike me down by lightening if was wrong with my thoughts... i couldn't sleep at all.... but i had to take that first step... as scary as it was....

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  When I first posted here seven yrs ago I was still active, my whole family was in ,and we had a JW living with us . I would scan this forum at night when everyone was asleep or out of the house .Very scared so worried I would be found out to be unfaithful.

  The reason I finally gained the boldness to come on this website was because of a Doctor Phil show I saw on cults . Things brought our in that show made me realize I had every right to seek answers to the questions I had about my religion . His show had dealt with two girls ,'The Two Fawns ',that had escaped a cult and I found their experience so close to how I felt ...trapped ,afraid to leave because of shunning policy ,the fear of THE END ,guilt thinking ect..

  I was still nervous that coming on here was some sort of trick and that somehow I would be found out or that thhe posters on here really were evil agents of Satan .

  My fears did not subside until I finally read Ray Franz books then I had clarity that this really is just another manmade religion period .

  It all seems so silly now . I lived in fear always as a Jehovahs Witness ,all my life . That anxiety nearly ruined my life . That part of my life thankfully has evaporated away ,I enjoy the freedom of thinking for myself now.
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  If you are a Jehovah's Witness and are having doubts but don't know where to turn do not be afraid to ask for support here

  by troubled mind in

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  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/102022/2/seeking-some-normalcy-maybe-alittle-joy-is-that-so-wrong.

  above is my very first post on this discussion forum .

  i was so afraid and timid back then ,seven years ago .

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  troubled mind

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/102022/2/Seeking-some-normalcy-maybe-alittle-joy-is-that-so-wrong

  Above is my very first post on this discussion forum . I was so afraid and timid back then ,seven years ago . But everyone here made me feel welcome and safe . I was understood and given much needed encouragement .

  With the new year I felt the need to send a sincere Thank you to all that have been such a help and support when I faded seven yrs ago from the JWs . Especially to Simon that started and continues to run this discussion board ,a huge THANK YOU !

  Over the years many different people have come and gone and shared so much .

  New ones join ,old ones move on ,but what continues is understanding ,fellow feeling and support .

  Reach out if you are in need of some kind of support do not let fear control your life anymore . It gets better, normalcy(whatever that is :) ,and Joy in life can be achieved .