I think that alot of the qualities that I like do contradict each other,, I like a good sense of humor, but yet someone that is able to carry on a serious conversation and challenge your mind. A guy who can be sensitive to your needs, but yet strong when you need him to be. Someone who is open and honest but yet maintains a little sense of mystery - suprises you from time to time. Someone who can take his time in the bedroom sometimes, but at other times can just go for it and make you feel like the only woman in the world. Someone who is responsible and financially secure, but not obsessed with money and stuff. Someone who can take you camping and then dress up and go out for a nice dinner. Definitely a heartfelt poem over roses anyday. Wow, looking back over this you guys are right. Speaking for myself, I think that I can be hard to please and a little contradictory. I know that any combination of those qualities would be amazing and once you are in love you don't look bad over your list and say "he has all of these qualities, but not that one." I always concentrate on the positive qualities and appreciate every moment. Just my two cents,,
gabriella
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What do women REALLY want?
by Abandoned inok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.
but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).
so, what do women really want?
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Knocking on Doors on Holidays
by Medic!? indid anyone else's congregation "strongly encourage" this practice?
when i was a worshiping rusell.... jehovah.
i felt sick to my stomach and disgusted that these people had absolutely no consideration for the beliefs or practices of others.
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gabriella
Yes, it was "strongly encouraged" in my congregation and they thought that they were being so polite by starting at 10am instead of 9:30 that morning. Christmas is one day that I refused to go out even when I was pioneering. I felt like, if we didn't celebrate it, that was our business but that we shouldn't go bother people while they were celebrating or rub it in that we didn't celebrate or that it was "wrong". Plus, they would always come out with an anti-christmas magazine in December and that was the most embarrassing thing to be offering that morning.
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BIG TOE INVALIDATES BAPTISM. :D
by vitty in.
did anyone have to get dunked twice at their baptism because you still had your big toe sticking out of the water ????.
ive seen this happen a couple of times.
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gabriella
That happened to me. One of my arms wasn't all of the way under when I bent backward and they dunked me under again. I thought it was unusual at the time, because I considered myself dunked the first time.,, I suppose it is so nobody could say that they weren't baptized later. Who knew that they were planning ahead for all of us apostates trying to get annulments. Weird!
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Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?
by Spectrum ingenerally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.
i'm fine with this.
however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.
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gabriella
If your roommate was acting interested in you when you first met, I am guessing that she is definitely attracted to you. Is there anything that may have hurt her feelings or does she think that you are interested in those other girls or sleeping around (even if you're not)? When I was dating, those were the only reasons that I might have acted distant or complacent like that (if my feelings were hurt and I didn't know how to tell the guy or if he would care) or if I thought he was already interested in someone or being a player. Out of fear of getting my heart broken, I would become more complacent (a little more guarded) and let him look me up if he wanted to. It wasn't a 'game' really, I just didn't know if there was interest and didn't want to make a fool of myself if not. The ones who were only looking for sex moved on and the ones who liked me as a person ended up sometimes asking me out. You sound like a really good guy to care how she feels and how it is affecting her. If you are really interested, I would not ask her out officially right away (it may be too soon), but be a good friend until she feels really comfortable talking to you about anything and opening up. Compliments go a long way, too. Just by being so wonderful to her, by the time you feel ready to ask her out she will probably already be thinking the same thing. Just my two cents. By how she responds to your kindness and compliments, you will get a good indication of whether you should take the next step and when. Hope that helps. Good luck!!
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Advice anyone? On how men think and faithfulness.
by gabriella inthis may be kind of a long story but any input or advice would be really appreciated.. i have been married for three years to a really good guy.
he's my best friend and confidante.
not the most spontaneous person i have ever met (he says it is because he is very comfortable in the relationship).
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gabriella
Thank you for the posts everyone. I think you all gave me some really good advice,, even those of you who let me have it. I'm just glad that I didn't cheat and I still have the opportunity to work on my marriage. I talked to my husband and he kind of knew what was going on and he said that he was just worried about loosing me. What a sweetheart. I don't deserve him, but I'm going to try.
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Advice anyone? On how men think and faithfulness.
by gabriella inthis may be kind of a long story but any input or advice would be really appreciated.. i have been married for three years to a really good guy.
he's my best friend and confidante.
not the most spontaneous person i have ever met (he says it is because he is very comfortable in the relationship).
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gabriella
This may be kind of a long story but any input or advice would be really appreciated.
I have been married for three years to a really good guy. He's my best friend and confidante. Not the most spontaneous person I have ever met (he says it is because he is very comfortable in the relationship). I can depend on him and can tell him anything.
When I met him, I also met his sister's husband (boyfriend at the time). He is a really good guy as well and very spontaneous and outgoing. I was always kind of attracted to him but always put that thought out of my mind as we were both unavailable.
Anyway, he and my husband's sister ended up having a very rocky marriage. They have been seperated much of the time that they've been together. Sometimes he would talk to me about what was going on because we kind of understand each other. This last time they were having problems, though, he started flirting with me. He kissed me on the cheek and said that I was a girl "after his own heart". He said that if we were free he would marry me. It really took me by suprise and I should have been completely disgusted. It was hard though, because he is gorgeous and I am attracted to him. One day he hugged me and kissed me on the cheek and I ended up kissing him back. I was disappointed in myself but felt like he had been tempting me for weeks by the flirting. I talked to him the next time he came over and said that I felt like we were disrespecting our spouses and I couldn't continue to do that but that I hoped that we could stay good friends. His reply was that it is hard for a man and woman to be friends especially when there is alot of attraction involved. So, basically he admitted to the attraction but did not own up to whether or not he was trying to have an affair with me.
The next week, they ended up seperating and we didn't hear from him for a couple of months. My husband called to say hi to him and I spoke to him on the phone afterward. He said that he wanted to see me but that it was wrong for us to be together alone. I invited him to go to crabbing or fishing with my husband and I and told him "please don't be a stranger." He said that he isn't very good company right now.
We haven't heard from him again for a couple of months and both of us miss being good friends with him. I don't know what to think. My husband left him one message and he hasn't called back.
I guess my questions are: Is he avoiding me because he found out that I was starting to be attracted to him as well? Is it out of respect for my husband that he's staying away (because he wanted me)? Is it possible to ever be friends with him again? Is he punishing me for not taking the bait and having an affair with him? If he wanted an affair, why would he only kiss me on the cheek, but not the lips?
I should be mad at him for hitting on me and then dissing me. However, I am the one that said that we needed to slow down and part of me respects him for staying away. Is he staying away because he wants to, or because he "has to"?
Have any of you guys been in a similar situation? Would you want the girl to stay away, or call you and try to clear things up? Is it possible to stay friends with a girl that you had hit on? Is he a player, or is he a good guy for not continuing to tempt me into an affair? What do you women think?
I wish that I could get him out of my head but I do miss him. Maybe to him staying away is "solving" the problem, but to me the feelings are unresolved because he disappeared. I am not a cheater (have never in my life) but sometimes I think that I will never forget about him unless we hook up. I do not want to wreck my marriage and with my luck he'd get back with my sister-in-law and I'd be the one to end up divorced. I guess I am better to stay away from him and keep things how they are. It seems so cruel of him to wait until he knew that I cared for him and then just up and leave my life. Help!! Any advice you all have I will really appreciate. Thank you,,,
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Are YOU a Risk Taker?
by Golf ini am, how about you or do you prefer your comfort zone?
being a risk taker doesn't mean you have to put your life literally on the line i.e., did you ever stand up to someone in authority and give them a piece of your mind?
what are some of the things you did that you considered risk-taking?
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gabriella
I usually have an inner battle over taking risks. For example, I found the courage to leave the witnesses but have not written a dissassociation letter. I went parasailing and scuba diving on vacation but did not take a risk and have an affair with the gorgeous guy that I met, because I did not want to hurt my boyfriend. It is always a mind/heart battle with me. In my heart, I know that taking risks are what makes life exciting and meaningful. Then, my mind kicks in and I don't want to hurt the people I care about or do something that I'd regret later. My family is always telling me that I'd have more fun if I didn't care what people thought and took more of a "screw the world" attitude. I guess I'm just not to that point. I suppose that not being calloused can be a good or a bad thing, sometimes I feel like my consciense is a blessing, other times it feels like a weight holding me back.
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Hot sisters (or brothers) in your cong...
by blakky ini was just wandering.... was it just me or was everyone thinking about it..... ive been in a few congs where some of the sisters were absolutely drop dead gorgeous!
my last cong here in sydney, there was about 160 publishers so the talent was every where... i remember having the hots for this sister, who happens to be the wife of the service overseer... she was xxx hot.
i remember always having to wear my suit coat to the meeting to hide my excitement.. i think all the bro's must have thought the same thing.
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gabriella
In my cong there was a gorgeous guy who studied for quite a while and then got baptised before getting engaged to a sister that he liked. She ended up breaking the engagement and marrying another guy. Anyways, he was really nice as well and he and I started hanging out (in groups,, ugh) going to movies, concerts, etc. She eventually came into my work and chewed me out for seeing him. She had dumped him and broken off the engagement before we even started hanging out. What a drama queen. I told her it sounded like a personal problem if she wasn't over her breakup. He was so handsome though. He eventually became inactive and faded away and I was still a jdub. I wouldn't mind running into him now and talking about old times as he was a really good friend.
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How do you feel about promiscuous sex?
by free2beme ini work with a guy who sleep with a lot of different woman, and when i say a lot, i mean a lot!
i know what some are thinking, "oh he probably sleeps with a few and makes it sound like more.
" well i would think that too, if i did not actually meet a lot of these woman and work with some of them and they admit to sleeping with him on a regular basis.
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gabriella
I would not cheat just to cheat; I would have to be in love with someone as much or more deeply than with my husband (and I would get a seperation first). No one night stand would be worth breaking up my marriage. My husband feels the same way. We have agreed to be honest if we ever fall out of love or fall in love with someone else but otherwise we do not cheat out of respect for each other. It is hard for me sometimes, because he had more experience than I did when we got married. He said to tell him if I ever feel like I am "missing out" on anything but he says that he promises to treat me better than any guy that I might meet out there. How can I argue with that? (he does) I think the reason that we're still together is that we can talk about anything honestly like that.
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gabriella
My brother-in-law (who is getting divorced) said that I am beautiful and a girl "after his own heart". I don't know if he was hitting on me for real (he had a couple of beers) but it was still nice to be complemented by a guy who knows me. Even if it was a tad inappropriate,, I better be careful, though, as he handsome and soon to be single.