Words are labels. Rose, sweet, stink, and sour. None of those are words I'd stop my 8 or 13 year old from saying.
The most proper word is "bile", which is acceptable in most circumstances to call one's less affectionate bodily movements. The "crap" words isn't a nice word, but probably below the level of the T word. The T words means the same thing as bile and crap, but is probably a worse word though it means the same thing. Then there is the S word that means the same thing, but for which my 8 and 13 year old would get detention. The A-hole word that Shirley caught Simon using (and was sensored by Simon) is the word that denotes the body part which delivers one's bile, crap, T words, and S words. Another word for the A-hole word is anus. I think the difference is that calling someone the bile, crap, t-word, s-word, a-hole word or anus word . . . isn't nice. . . . no matter which rose you choose. But, they are descriptions of someone who isn't acting in the most agreeable terms. And, two potty mouths don't make a right. If there is going to be a standard of not using bad words to describe, then we're all going to have get creative and break out our dictionaries & thesaurus on a going forward basis. Otherwise, it does look hypocritical to say that the A-hole word is better than the T word to call someone, and only Simon is supposed to/allowed to use the A-hole word. In my parenting, I'd be madder at my kids for using the "a-hole" word than the "t-word." I see the t-word as a tad funny and lighter than the "a-hole" word. And, seeing the owner of the site using the A-hole word would easily be assumed that any word "more acceptable" or lighter than that word should be acceptable. Actually, neither word is better than the other, when used to describe someone's personality. But, they both might be fitting. What word do you use to call someone like Tony?