Update. Like clockwork, I get a call today from my male DNA donor ("father").
All is going well, until he starts to brag about how stable he is and crazy my mother was. He decides to have blocked out all the beatings and violence he did, including killing a pet bunny with his bare hands, and to deny that he went for mental health help. I decide that I'm not going to dwell on his violent past, but I'm not going to let him skip over that he did get help. I even went to his psychologist on one visit, and remember it vividly. I was about 14 years old. He went for weeks to this shrink, and afterwards never physcially beat me or my mom again or killed animals. He now states that he only went to get my mom help, and she wouldn't go. He absolutely denies that he went for any help himself. He says that she was the one who was completely messed up. Not true, as it was BOTH of them. She didn't throw the punches or make the black eyes. HE DID! My mom just rode his ass until he blew up. I can only rationalize say that he is very guilty and his mind is blocking it all in order to cope. I tried to tell him how I remembered it all and was proud that he went for help . . . . and ...... he hung up on me. That's a blessing. Now, it's upset my day. I am going out for a walk. I just want to cry. I just want them out of my life.