Posts by whyizit

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Should I tell him how I feel or let it go?

by megsmomma in

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brief history: my mom shuns me, my step dad is not a jw but thinks pretty much like one and called me apostate when i tried to tell him some things.

my step dad and i have never been close, he was verbally abusive to me growing up.. well, last week he and my mom fly up my ex- and his wife with my daughter (all jw's) to go boating with them and my sisters kids.

i am glad my daughter got to see her cousins....but, i am sure if they talked about me at all it was not positive talk.

whyizit

If that isn't a blatant attempt to push your buttons, I don't know what is!

I don't think you need to explain to your step-dad why you would be hurt and/or angry. Believe me, he KNOWS. So does the rest of the family. (Except maybe your daughter, depending on her age.) That was the whole point of it all!

It's all about sending you over the edge. If you get ticked enough to blow up and tell him off, he wins. If you get hurt and wish you could have been there, he wins.

If you act like you hope they had a great time and let it roll off your back, it appears that YOU win. You look like the better sport. But we all know it still rubs the wrong way. Shame on them!

It's all the manipulation game that is taught within this religion of "warped love". Is that real love? Would you ever do anythng like that to your child? Consider the source. A bunch of back-biting adults trying to pass as God's chosen. Tsk, tsk, tsk.

Chin up! YOU are miles above that!

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Hello Everyone...

by Abandoned in

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i've been away for quite awhile.

well, not really, just away from any discussion of that horrid religion.

i just couldn't give any more seconds of my life to talking about anything even remotely related to jehovah's witnesses.

whyizit

SOOOOO GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU!!!!!

Sounds like everything is going great. I'm very happy for you.

Would love to catch your stand up act. Love comedians!

PM me when the book is ready.

Best to You Always,

Whyizit

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Help! - Need Work Ideas for My 13 Year Old Daughter

by BlackPearl in

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my daughter is getting to the age where she recognizes a need to make some summertime money.

she wants to buy a new cell phone and a few other things, and wants to earn the money herself.

i own a small business, and i would have her help me around the office but there isn't much for her to do.

whyizit

How about ebay? Maybe she could sell some of the things she has out-grown.

A friend of mine goes shopping for cheap children's clothes. She said baby shoes and costumes are pretty good sellers. She gets them for under $5 and sells them on ebay for a hefty profit.

I've bought lots of hard to find VHS kid shows on ebay, and I've paid top dollar. Maybe it would be a way for her to make money as she cleans her room!

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DO NOT CONTINUE SENDING EMAILS TO ME OR ATTEMPT TO CONTACT ME OR MY FAMILY.

by esw1966 in

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isn't it 'nice' to finally get letters from home!?????.

this is the entire letter written to me by my sister:.

"do not continue sending emails to me or attempt to contact me or my family.".

whyizit

This is a comment from someone outside of the org.

I was once Queen of the Silent Treatment when I would get mad. My brother called it my "spoiled-brat syndrome". I would get highly pissed at him, and cut off all communication. It was my attempt to control him. My way of punishing him. But you know what?

It ALWAYS backfired! I was the one who was miserable and thinking of him all the time.

Eventually I would try to patch the fences and we would get on with being siblings again. My biggest regret is that I would try to drag our poor Mother in the middle of it. I made her just as miserable as I was. That haunts me.

I hope your sister isn't pulling that one.

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Did this ever occur to you, when you were in field service...Your Thoughts?

by whyizit in

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i know that jws have a mighty big persecution complex, and feel vindicated when doors are not answered, slammed in their face, or people are out and out rude to them.

but to those of you who were involved in fs, and had these things happen to you, did you ever think there might be legitimate reasons for it?

especially in light of the fact that many jws start off the schpeel with, "what a dangerous world we live in.

whyizit

Well, there's a few more things I hadn't thought of.

I wonder if family of military people today have the same feelings? What did the JWs do, when right after the 9-11 attacks EVERYONE had flags in their doors, windows, cars, apparel, etc...? I was told that a long time ago all you had to do was put a flag on your property and they would not come there. How did they get around that?

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Did this ever occur to you, when you were in field service...Your Thoughts?

by whyizit in

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i know that jws have a mighty big persecution complex, and feel vindicated when doors are not answered, slammed in their face, or people are out and out rude to them.

but to those of you who were involved in fs, and had these things happen to you, did you ever think there might be legitimate reasons for it?

especially in light of the fact that many jws start off the schpeel with, "what a dangerous world we live in.

whyizit

I know that JWs have a mighty big persecution complex, and feel vindicated when doors are not answered, slammed in their face, or people are out and out rude to them.

But to those of you who were involved in FS, and had these things happen to you, did you ever think there might be legitimate reasons for it? Especially in light of the fact that many JWs start off the schpeel with, "What a dangerous world we live in." ???

Could it be:

People do not want to answer the door when a complete stranger is on the other side? Especially if they are home alone? Especially if there is more than one person standing on the stoop?

If I am a stay at home Mom with my kids in the other room, why would I open my door to some one who could be a nicely dressed pedophile? I would have to wonder, "How carefully do they screen these guys they have out in this FS work? What kind of background checks are run before you send them out?" Afterall, they are often knocking when men are at work. Mr. Charming JW could return later to a young lady's home, further befriend her, so he could gain access to the babies of the house. Creepy, yes! But is it out of the question?

Rather than feel a persecution complex, did anyone ever think, "Why would anyone with any sense at all answer, let alone invite us in?!"

Did you ever have to go out in field service with someone that you suspected to be a little odd? Someone that you wouldn't want your family members to open the door to? Did any of them ever go back and get "friendly" with one of the door-to-door prospects? (Without anyone else tagginfg along?)

I would really be surprised if this kind of thing doesn't happen with any door-to-door religious org. Just wondered how many of you seen it happen first-hand in the JWs?

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You Are Much Too Harsh About The Watchtower Society

by The wanderer in

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you are much too harsh about the watchtower societysince you were, little we did our best to raise you.

you always received good.

grades in school; we always did our best to feed, clothe and give you every-.

whyizit

Maybe this is why my JW friend doesn't see fit to stay away from me. She hangs out with several JWs who back-bite, lie, have been known to have affairs, and never miss a Marguerita Monday.

I am not a JW, yet I don't participate in many of these things, as a personal rule. I do occasionally go out with her for a few drinks, and she gets hammered, while I stay sober and do the driving.

I guess you could say most of her JW friends portray the Satanic, sex-crazed drunks. Us regular 'ol heathens seem to be living the cleaner life. Go figure!

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Question for diabetics---Need a recipe:

by whyizit in

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my husband's friend at work is a diabetic and is leaving to go to a new job.

my husband promised i would make him a couple of fresh blackberry pies from our own fresh picked blackberries, but they have to be made without sugar!.

my typical way of pie baking is the lazy woman's way.

whyizit

Thanks everyone!

I used Bondie's recipe and the pies turned out wonderful!

I use Stevia myself. I go along with the idea that artificial sweeteners cannot be good for you. The Stevia helps my digestive system. I only use it in tea and other drinks. Never tried it in any recipes.

Let me know how that works!

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Putting together info on proof of 607 vs. 586......

by lavendar in

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the wts has erroneously set the fall of jerusalem in the year 607. i'm trying to put together information, for our son, proving that this date is false.

i've decided when our son brings up the subject of his involvement in the wts, i will then show him this information.

i feel this particular subject is the wisest to go with.

whyizit

One more thing:

Don't let them swamp you with piles of literature on the subject. ALL you need right now is proof from a couple of reliable sources OUTSIDE of the WTS that 607 is indeed the date of the fall of Jerusalem.

NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. IF you clear this up first, then I may be interested in looking at the rest of the BS, er... I mean literature ...,on the subject. Right now all I want to see if PROOF that Jerusalem fell in 607.

This is a matter of historical fact. It doesn't matter what religion, what race, or what part of the world you live in. It happened when it happened. Period. And it happened in 586-587. NOT 607.

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Putting together info on proof of 607 vs. 586......

by lavendar in

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the wts has erroneously set the fall of jerusalem in the year 607. i'm trying to put together information, for our son, proving that this date is false.

i've decided when our son brings up the subject of his involvement in the wts, i will then show him this information.

i feel this particular subject is the wisest to go with.

whyizit

One more thing