actually, new light : ) - it is not going to be in the morning. Afternoon drive with David Kirton - Saskatoon Newstalk 650 CKOM - might be simulcast on the sister station in Regina. They interviewing the author (name unknown to me) and looking for someone local - I am faded and very open to my family about that fact but this is not the right time for me to go live so to speak - is there anyone local(ish) to SK, Canada that would be open to a phone interview ????
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9Canadian radio station plans show re: new book re JW's being a cult
by sosad inthe talk show host had family that was jw - he is pretty non biased when i have heard him speak about the witnesses but straight shooting.
he is sure to get some attention from some current jws if he raises this as a topic.
the local producer has been unable to get any response from "the local chapter" of the organization.
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Canadian radio station plans show re: new book re JW's being a cult
by sosad inthe talk show host had family that was jw - he is pretty non biased when i have heard him speak about the witnesses but straight shooting.
he is sure to get some attention from some current jws if he raises this as a topic.
the local producer has been unable to get any response from "the local chapter" of the organization.
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The talk show host had family that was jw - he is pretty non biased when i have heard him speak about the Witnesses but straight shooting. He is sure to get some attention from some current jws if he raises this as a topic. The local producer has been unable to get any response from "the local chapter" of the organization. I am surprised to hear this is being researched as a topic actually just becasue of the hosts association. The station is in Regina, SK and can be heard on the web at Newstalk 980 CJME. I believe it is a scheduled topic for Monday January 14th but that could be incorrect.
i have no idea what the book is but will post if i hear
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At This Point In Your Life Would You Care If You Were Disfellowshipped or Disassociated?
by minimus ini'm curious..
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whatever is currently your situation, i think it is important to remember "this too shall pass". that applies to great things - like being faded and still having reasonable contact with family, or being dfed and desperately wishing you could have that same contact. the reasons I went throught the reinstatement process as a teen were valid to me then, but now do not exist. and the reasons my family desperately wanted me to da have also morphed. If you live your life so that you are proud of the reasons you do things, that is an accomplishment worth being proud of.
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At This Point In Your Life Would You Care If You Were Disfellowshipped or Disassociated?
by minimus ini'm curious..
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I have been faded for over twenty years. Early on my family tried to push me into writing a da letter. I ignored them and any attempts to get me to clarify my position. I have been in positions where jw's are present besides my immediate family and, when they push me i am polite but firm. I say this is not the setting for a discussion but i do not hide the fact that I was raised a jw and now am not involved. My active family avoids discussions with me on topics that are religious simply because they know I am more than willing to talk about it now which would put them (not me) in a compromising situation. They have realized that my Catholic husband is not the easy mark most jw's think Catholics are - he can defend his faith and he knows the TATT and so they dont want to talk to him either.
Once my mom gave my address to an elder (that was 20 years ago) and I told her to never, ever, do that again. i would not invite them in becasue my "husband was not home."
I am not dfed, not daed, some shun me and I always say hi anyway.
If they ever did do anything to force my hand (a local elder or the local congregation - my family would not at this point, I dont think ???) it would be a sad situation for them. I work close to media and would then have no reason to not talk about my wrongful dfing at 16, the elders that salivated over details of my sexual abuse by a high school teacher, their dismissal of my subsequent mental health issues , and the overall sadness and stupidity of this insignificant cult.
I am under no illusions, but I am no longer a scared kid or young adult, i know them, and the sadness they create. I think they are too wrapped up in protecting their kingdoms to challenge someone with supports and knowledge. i have a happy life which threatens them, and am here to help my family of origin if they ever start to wonder but i have nothing but contempt for the organization and if they "came after " me it would not be what they were expecting.
Or maybe it would be, which is why they havent???
I did what i had to do to maintain family contacts - but the "what i have to do" is not a static thing.....
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I think we are being shunned
by hoser init seems like lately we have been missing out on a lot of invites to congregation gatherings and our field service group has gatherings but we never seem to get invited.
btw this is not a bad thing.
hoser.
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I dont often post but i am happy for you and your wife - there is a freedom that comes from actually seeing how these people that claimed to be your brothers and sister actually treat you and yours. As you live your life, you look at people - jws, so called worldly people, family- all through a different lens. It can be very freeing. It also can be very helpful in "winning over your spouse without a word."
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DO YOU BELIEVE JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES "SHUNNING" OF MINORS IS CHILD ABUSE?
by Balaamsass ini have been reading countless heartbreaking accounts on this site of children of jehovah's witnesses being "disfellowshipped" and shunned by entire families, their congregations, basicly everyone they have ever known for simply questioning their parent's religion!!.
some have been tossed out of family homes to live in cars!!!
this is not christian.
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Hi. I have not posted in years - although i do check in and lurk from time to time. I am sadnessed and compelled to post - i was dfed at 16 having been baptised at 12. The elders were lecherous, note taking demons at my jc. I was the victim of a teacher using his position unspeakably. I also had an age appropriate jw boyfriend prior to this terrible situation - of course he was an elders son and connected in the cong. We were the poor, barely paying for our magazines family. My heart is sick to even think of the 14/15/16 year old i was and what i lived through.
I finally confessed to them because i was done- he tried to commit suicide in front of me, his wife was pregnant, my friend (same age, unbaptised jw with an age appropriate non - jw boyfriend) was found out by her parents, i had a life threatening eating disorder that i kept hidden.
They dfed me - brilliantly and completely. I was so freaked out i just answered all their questions - no tears - big no no they told my dad. I also came to the jc meetings in jeans (after school)- I should have changed.
They specifically told me i was NOT ALLOWED to go to the police, or to consider anything this pig did to be wrong in any way - after all, he was a worldly man and I should have known better.
This was a small town, rural Canada. I was not allowed to speak to any jw, have any association with anyone else, speak to anyone about this at all....the details are chilling really when i think about it.
The jw organization is evil. The way they treat their children is worse than evil.
I was 16. There was a teacher - a wonderful woman that I love to this day - that helped me, without knowing anything. Without her i would have killed myself.
To this day - i am faded, 45, and happy - my jw parents still say i was in the wrong and should have known better.
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Reinstatement policy...anyone who knows please comment.
by cyberjesus inok, here is the question.. if a dfd person shows to a kh of congregation x and starts attending the meetings and talks to the elders and tells them he has been attending the meetings for a year in congregation y. how will the elders in cong y verify that?
would they need a letter, a phone call?
will they check with the branch?
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a friend of mine, recently reinstated, told me the policy on needing to write a letter to request reinstatment has changed. He had to wait for the local elders to contact him by phone and meet with him, after mearly asking if he was attending meetings as a means to get back into good standing. It took him about a year to get "the call" but no letter from him was ever written. He told me that was a policy change but maybe it was local. He was dfed for years, and in reinstated in a different city from where he was dfed.
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time to leave after 42 yrs of marriage
by tiffy0212 inmarried 42 yrs and ready to leave.
my husband is a jw and has been for 38 yrs.
i even joined from 1974 to 1985 to keep my family together.
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i wish you were my mother!!!! well done - and I am sure your children love and support you
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update...husband made appt. with the elders, what do you think of this?....
by New light for you inok... so my husband felt bad that the elders wanted to meet with us and he wasn't responding... so he set it up for saturday at 2 even though everyone said dont meet with them.
oh ya, and everyone said not to meet with them at your house, but again, he didn't want to rock the boat.
it's funny, though he was the first one to leave, he's still afraid and doesn't want to "raise any red flags" he's willing to just say "we're discouraged, can you just leave us alone fora while" feel free to yell at him (robert7).. here's the thing.
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for years after my fade, all my jw family tried to get me to do was utter the words that I was not a jw - or better yet to write a letter. I just kept saying that i considered myself an inactive jw over and over and over and over and over and over
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Canada: who's from there?
by RAYZORBLADE inwell, since the info by our photos/usernames is not available yet (profile info), i figured, why not give it another go.
the aussies had a go of it, time for the canucks to toss some maple syrup into the forum.
who on this forum is from canada?
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sosad
Saskatchewan!!!! Land of the living skys