Good on you for telling her.
My mum came around last week and told me that the elders said she should treat me the same as my hubby (who is DF'd). I have been faded for 6 years or so. She said I should talk to the elders and tell them how I feel, I told her that if I do that they will DF me for sure. She said she was sorry that was how I felt. She said its the truth and she believes it, I said its not, its lies and how could she break up her family for some organisation controlled by men who dont have holy spirit. She said the elders have holy spirit when they make good decisions but not when they make bad ones. What the....? How can she live with their decisions then? pffffftt.
I didn't handle the whole thing as well as I would have liked. I doubt she will ever leave but I continually hope she will.
*hugs* to you, we're all a bit crazy.