Abuser minimizes victim's pain. Been there, had it done to me.
RebelWife
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I need your opinion on the WT pedophile cover up
by TooBad TooSad inthe catholic church knows that it has a problem with many of its priest who have been proven.
to be pedophiles.
millions of dollars have been paid out to the victims.
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I need your opinion on the WT pedophile cover up
by TooBad TooSad inthe catholic church knows that it has a problem with many of its priest who have been proven.
to be pedophiles.
millions of dollars have been paid out to the victims.
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RebelWife
"You and all the other anti-witnesses sniveling about that..." Uh, you do realize that includes some of the children who were raped, don't you? What a peculiar statement.
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Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?
by collegegirl21 inokay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.
but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.
and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.
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RebelWife
Call me an old bit**, but what was that bit about comparing you to a child with a toy?
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RebelWife
Just a tad scary, especially in light of the fact that if I die before Armageddon, I'll still have a chance. I know he'd want that for me, even if he doesn't have it.
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My Story "this is long, I'm sorry"
by ex-nj-jw ini'm not sure i ever really posted my story.
i think i've given bit's and pieces on others threads but not the whole thing on my own thread.
the issue that another member is having with childcare and yet another poster asking me why i'm still here after being out for 24 years has prompted me to type this up.. so here goes:.
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RebelWife
How? How can a parent behave like that? And how, in the name of God, could a religion condone it, let alone demand it? I think I said that backwards, but my head just exploded.
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RebelWife
I also want to say THANK YOU to everybody on here. I have learned so much from y'all, and it's been a huge comfort to me to realize that I'm not alone. Horribly sad, but still comforting. I know y'all know what I mean.
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RebelWife
Exwitless -- Good idea, but he absolutely would not read Crisis of Conscience. I wish Barbara Anderson's CD were smaller so I could get it in book form. I might be able to get him to take a peek at that. Maybe. He's really stuck. Leslie -- yes, extremely hard. I think he would feel like his whole world were crumbling. And when someone has a crazy childhood, the cult, being as rigid as it is, provides a much-needed feeling of stability and order. It's going to take a long time for him. And one of the things I love about him is his loyalty.
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RebelWife
As for being mean, how's this? During one fight, I told him that it was because of him that I became a Christian. I started reading the Bible because of him, and now I get it. Okay. He's almost home, so I have to disappear. Anyway, thank you all for the welcome and for just being here.
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RebelWife
During our last fight, I told him that he believes because he has to, that it was the only thing in his f***ed up childhood that was halfway stable. Then I said something like, "It's really got a stranglehold on you, doesn't it?" I'm so nasty. But I think it's truthful, so I could't resist. Oh, most of his family is out. There is only one of his family members that I can talk to about this, and that's only occasionally. He has lived in this area all his life, so he sees these people around all the time. He really wants to move away. We've talked about running away and starting over somewhere, but not in the JW context. My half-baked theory is that he married me because he wants me to lead him out, well, part of the reason. He thinks I'm smarter than he is and long before we got married, I made it clear I would never, under any circumstances, become a Stepford wife. I got accused of reading "apostate stuff," like I don't have enough of a brain to figure things out or comprehend anything the Bible says. Aaargh!
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RebelWife
I told you I had a lot to say. Probably sorry you asked. If I disappear, it's because my honey's home and I don't want to fight. I try to inject a lot of worldly-people-are-really-nice information into our conversations, always pointing out when people do charitable things, etc., and little comments about religion or a scripture. PARAGRAPH We do lots of things that would be frowned upon or that he would have to stop if he went back. I think he realizes that he will lose me if he goes back. Not that I would necessarily leave physically, but that I'd check out emotionally. I feel that sometimes I'm being manipulative and even abusive when I challenge his beliefs during the semi-annual meltdowns. I have to keep in mind the abuse he's been through and not compound it. He needs to feel safe with me and sometimes I really screw that up. He has told me that being with me makes him feel like he can be himself, for the first time in his life. I hate it when I turn into Ms. Crazy.