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  I'm sick of Atlanta, where should I move?

  by joelbear in

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  i've lived here 17 years.

  i can't believe i have stayed put that long.. moultrie 2 years.

  ft. walton beach 2 years.

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  Chasity1

  I live in Las Vegas. You either love it or hate it. I love it.
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  When a fader pretends not to know you in front of JW's

  by Chasity1 in

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  i am friends with this fader or at least i thought i was.

  i went back for a visit to my home town a couple of months ago and i visited a lot of old friends.

  one was a fader who was a jw but has been out for like 10 years.

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  I am friends with this fader or at least I thought I was. I went back for a visit to my home town a couple of months ago and I visited a lot of old friends. One was a fader who was a jw but has been out for like 10 years. We talk on the phone every few months and exchange e-mails regularly. I saw him at the park and he was with his JW family. He acted like he did not even know me even though we hung out at a bar the night before. He just walked by. I was so hurt. I know he does not want to get df'd for talking to me but oh was I hurt and then mad.

  He called me on my cell phone apologizing and begged me not to be mad. I told him that he was a coward and to go back to the JW's because he still acted like one. I have not really spoken to him since. He sends me these e-mails and yesterday he got in touch with my brother and asked him to speak to me. My brother said he won't get involved but he did relay his message.

  Do you think I should cut this fader some slack? I decided to write him off after that happened but he is being persistant in wanting me to be friends with him again. The things is you don't ignore your friends like that. On the other hand the nazi elders in our ex congregation will df him for hanging out with me. What do you guys think?
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  What were you df'd for?

  by Chasity1 in

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  i don't know the exact reason why i was df'd.

  i was told some accusations had been made and they set up a meeting.

  i was attending church, living with my "apostate" brother, and celebrating the holidays.

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  I don't know the exact reason why I was df'd. I was told some accusations had been made and they set up a meeting. I never went. I was attending church, living with my "apostate" brother, and celebrating the holidays. I assume that may have had something to do with it.
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  They told me to send them a letter

  by Honesty in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i called the wtbt$ service department yesterday afternoon and mentioned that in times past the brothers would enter into public forums with members of christendom to prove their doctrines false.

  the publications always stated that the brothers always won these open discussions by refuting christendom's doctrines by using only the bible.

  i then challenged the wtbt$ to meet me on an open forum to discuss the following subjects:.

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  Chasity1

  Thanks Honesty.
  

  I just called the first number and got a recording saying office hours were M-F 8-5 p.m.

  What really caught my attention was saying if you were a media outlet to leave a message and they would get back to you promptly. Ya I bet they want to talk to the press.
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  They told me to send them a letter

  by Honesty in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i called the wtbt$ service department yesterday afternoon and mentioned that in times past the brothers would enter into public forums with members of christendom to prove their doctrines false.

  the publications always stated that the brothers always won these open discussions by refuting christendom's doctrines by using only the bible.

  i then challenged the wtbt$ to meet me on an open forum to discuss the following subjects:.

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  What's their phone number? I would like to give them a call.
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  I went to church yesterday...

  by mrsjones5 in

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  omg i love going to church, the music, the people, the sermon, the pastors, the childcare (sunday school .

  josie

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  I have attended several different churches and I finally found one that I really like. One of the things that impressed me the most was the charity work they did for the community. You did not have to be a member of their church to benefit. I also noticed in the churches I attended was that the preachers only taught from the Bible unlike the WT. It's also a breath of fresh air to be able to attend different churches and not be DA'd.
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  The Unkindest Cut: Hateful Words from JWs that Show Their True Colours

  by Scully in

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  i decided to start this topic when ozziepost shared the experience of a bethel representative telling him and mrs. ozzie "and don't forget, we've got your children!

  it's important for us to hear these experiences and to share them with each other.

  it helps us tear down the mistaken beliefs that the incidents that happen to us are not isolated ones, but are in fact par for the course when one parts ways with the jws and wts.

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  Chasity1

  It was suggested that I repost what happened to me. These stories are heart breaking. I am so glad to be out of that cult. Here it is from my original thread:

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/81120/1.ashx

  Hello,

  I am the original Chasity. I lost my password and don't even remember the e-mail address I used. So anyway I am back. I apologise for not updating more sooner. I decided to let my sister and her husband stay with us. I told them before they came no shunning. I would not feel unwelcome in my own home. It turned out to be quite a visit. It turns out their reason for coming was more than a vacation. They wanted to move to my area because the ecomony is good and hoped that I could help them out. My brother was like I told you so. I don't know why but I asked my husband to use some of his contacts and help my brother in law find a job.

  So not only did I help them find jobs I gave them a place to live. My husband and I just bought a new house and we planned to keep our old one as an investment and lease it. We let them live in it 2 months free so they could get on their feet. The mortage on the house is $1200 a month so for a time we were paying 2 morgages (more on that later). Fortunately my husband is successful so we could afford it. We could have rent the house for $1500 but we let them rent for $1200.

  I never did have any false illusions about being one big happy family and knew our contact would be minimal because I am df'd. Still I was happy I could help them.

  Things were actually okay for a few months. Then the trouble started. My brother inlaw was fired from his job. He said it was a layoff but we found out that he was not dependable and always late. He's an elder by the way. This really pissed my husband off because he recommended him and that made him look bad where his friend was concerned.

  So they could not afford to pay the rent. I told them they had to leave. I even helped them find an apartment but the only place they could afford was on the bad side of town. My sister cried and cried saying that she did not want to live in a bad neighborhood. I told her I was sorry but her husband burned his bridges with my husband and he will not help him anymore. I told her I was not going to risk my marriage so she did not have to live on the bad side of town.

  She called me a couple of days later and said that Jehovah had provided and they would be able to pay the rent. I was like great. I found out later on how they were able to pay the rent. They rented out 3 of the bedrooms to fellow witnesses who were paying them rent. I was not happy with the plan but I was like whatever. As long as they pay the rent. That will keep my husband happy.

  They charged the witnesses $400 rent and well they did not have to chip in any themselves. I guess all they paid for was the utilities.

  The Home Owners Association started writing us letters telling us that they were not following the rules. Anyone who lives in a HOA knows what a pain in the butt they can be. They were parking in the street and the back yard was in terrible shape. Some of the neighbors complained that an ulgy view it was from their second story view. They would have pool parties at the club house and only 4 guests per house could come and swim according to the HOA rules. They invited like 20 people. They told us they would start fining us for every infraction.

  I was like oh dear. I told my sister and her husband I had it. They had to go. I did not care if she could pay the rent now or not. I had it. It soon became apparent they had no intention of leaving. My husband went to his lawyer and he drew up the papers and had them evicted. They had 30 days to move. When that time came I am not kidding you we had to have the police escort them out. Their houseguests had already left.

  Let me tell you this was one of the most miserable experiences. I am so pissed off by their attutide and taking advantage of me I am suing them for all their back rent. I had my sister served at her work. They are still in my city. I don't know where I don't care.

  If it was not bad enough how they treated me you would not believe who they asked for money to help them out. My brother who they have not spoken to in years and consider an apostate. He laughed over the phone and told them he knew what they did to me and called them worthless freeloading leaches. Then he hung up.

  My mom called me on the phone and we have not talked in years either. She chewed me out for having them evicted. I was so upset I could not stop crying. My husband took the phone and told her all the things they did and how much trouble they caused us. How we did nothing but show kindness to them and all they did was take, take, take and take some more. He told her that no active JW would ever be welcome in his house, only apostates and that she was to never call our house again unless she left her cult then hung up.

  We are now back to leading our lives without my toxic JW family. I just wanted to post my experience that sometimes it really is a blessing not having them in your lives. I know this does not apply to everyone but in my case it does. Just think twice before you allow your JW family to come for a visit.

  I forgot to add one thing. They left the house in terrible shape. The walls were dirty and the carpet was completely ruined. We had to replace all the carpet and repaint the whole house. Some of the celing fans were broken and the sliding glass door was broken. We had to hire a landscaper to come and fix the backyard. Their were holes all over the yard and shit all over the place from a pet dog that one of the witnesses had. In one of the bedrooms a showerhead was gone. Most of the damages are included in my lawsuit.
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  Is there new light on disfellowshipping?

  by Chasity in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i had no idea there were so many ex jw's.

  i have been out since 1998. officially booted in feb. 2001. i am not sure on what grounds though because i never went to my meeting.

  all i heard is that accusations had been made.

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  Chasity1

  Thanks for the welcome.

  AlmostAtheist,

  Yes I will repost what happened to me in the thread.

  Thanks,

  Chasity
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  Is there new light on disfellowshipping?

  by Chasity in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i had no idea there were so many ex jw's.

  i have been out since 1998. officially booted in feb. 2001. i am not sure on what grounds though because i never went to my meeting.

  all i heard is that accusations had been made.

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  Chasity1

  I forgot to add one thing. They left the house in terrible shape. The walls were dirty and the carpet was completely ruined. We had to replace all the carpet and repaint the whole house. Some of the celing fans were broken and the sliding glass door was broken. We had to hire a landscaper to come and fix the backyard. Their were holes all over the yard and shit all over the place from a pet dog that one of the witnesses had. In one of the bedrooms a showerhead was gone. Most of the damages are included in my lawsuit.
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  Is there new light on disfellowshipping?

  by Chasity in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i had no idea there were so many ex jw's.

  i have been out since 1998. officially booted in feb. 2001. i am not sure on what grounds though because i never went to my meeting.

  all i heard is that accusations had been made.

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  Chasity1

  Hello,

  I am the original Chasity. I lost my password and don't even remember the e-mail address I used. So anyway I am back. I apologise for not updating more sooner. I decided to let my sister and her husband stay with us. I told them before they came no shunning. I would not feel unwelcome in my own home. It turned out to be quite a visit. It turns out their reason for coming was more than a vacation. They wanted to move to my area because the ecomony is good and hoped that I could help them out. My brother was like I told you so. I don't know why but I asked my husband to use some of his contacts and help my brother in law find a job.

  So not only did I help them find jobs I gave them a place to live. My husband and I just bought a new house and we planned to keep our old one as an investment and lease it. We let them live in it 2 months free so they could get on their feet. The mortage on the house is $1200 a month so for a time we were paying 2 morgages (more on that later). Fortunately my husband is successful so we could afford it. We could have rent the house for $1500 but we let them rent for $1200.

  I never did have any false illusions about being one big happy family and knew our contact would be minimal because I am df'd. Still I was happy I could help them.

  Things were actually okay for a few months. Then the trouble started. My brother inlaw was fired from his job. He said it was a layoff but we found out that he was not dependable and always late. He's an elder by the way. This really pissed my husband off because he recommended him and that made him look bad where his friend was concerned.

  So they could not afford to pay the rent. I told them they had to leave. I even helped them find an apartment but the only place they could afford was on the bad side of town. My sister cried and cried saying that she did not want to live in a bad neighborhood. I told her I was sorry but her husband burned his bridges with my husband and he will not help him anymore. I told her I was not going to risk my marriage so she did not have to live on the bad side of town.

  She called me a couple of days later and said that Jehovah had provided and they would be able to pay the rent. I was like great. I found out later on how they were able to pay the rent. They rented out 3 of the bedrooms to fellow witnesses who were paying them rent. I was not happy with the plan but I was like whatever. As long as they pay the rent. That will keep my husband happy.

  They charged the witnesses $400 rent and well they did not have to chip in any themselves. I guess all they paid for was the utilities.

  The Home Owners Association started writing us letters telling us that they were not following the rules. Anyone who lives in a HOA knows what a pain in the butt they can be. They were parking in the street and the back yard was in terrible shape. Some of the neighbors complained that an ulgy view it was from their second story view. They would have pool parties at the club house and only 4 guests per house could come and swim according to the HOA rules. They invited like 20 people. They told us they would start fining us for every infraction.

  I was like oh dear. I told my sister and her husband I had it. They had to go. I did not care if she could pay the rent now or not. I had it. It soon became apparent they had no intention of leaving. My husband went to his lawyer and he drew up the papers and had them evicted. They had 30 days to move. When that time came I am not kidding you we had to have the police escort them out. Their houseguests had already left.

  Let me tell you this was one of the most miserable experiences. I am so pissed off by their attutide and taking advantage of me I am suing them for all their back rent. I had my sister served at her work. They are still in my city. I don't know where I don't care.

  If it was not bad enough how they treated me you would not believe who they asked for money to help them out. My brother who they have not spoken to in years and consider an apostate. He laughed over the phone and told them he knew what they did to me and called them worthless freeloading leaches. Then he hung up.

  My mom called me on the phone and we have not talked in years either. She chewed me out for having them evicted. I was so upset I could not stop crying. My husband took the phone and told her all the things they did and how much trouble they caused us. How we did nothing but show kindness to them and all they did was take, take, take and take some more. He told her that no active JW would ever be welcome in his house, only apostates and that she was to never call our house again unless she left her cult then hung up.

  We are now back to leading our lives without my toxic JW family. I just wanted to post my experience that sometimes it really is a blessing not having them in your lives. I know this does not apply to everyone but in my case it does. Just think twice before you allow your JW family to come for a visit.