I am not df'd, I am inactive but still go through the meeting motions for the spouse. My family found out (from me like an idiot) I was critical of the org and god in general. i have been df'd by my entire family. During this time I heard it said to me or my spouse "using the word shunned is an apostate word"... while there it is in print. I was also told by someone I have been so close to for 35 years "I am not shunning you, I just won't do anything with you socially, I wont follow you on social media, etc, but I AM NOT SHUNNING YOU, we just wont do anything together again"...
See how effective the org is?