we actually has a study with a disabled elderly couple living in a trailor.
it was wall to wall filth, rat infested and smelled awful.
i was a child, but mom and dad brought me along anyway.
My ex wife's house; to sign my divorce papers. And while I was there I noticed out the corner of my eye her boyfriend's DIRTY white boxer briefs.
She tried to say that they were mine.
small, cramped 2 bdr apartmant looked like a crack den...no, really it did.
jojochan.
mine are, in no particular order:.
"the friends".
"glean".
"The REAL life"
jojochan.
it's a struggle to live a life of dualism.
you sought comfort in her arms, were soothed by her normalacy, and is a wiff of fresh air to you.
but if you, like so many others, a 2nd or 3rd gen witnesses, it's a struggle, especially if you believe the dogma and have family in it , and the hold it has on you in your mind it's extreme.
I'll think about this some more, and I'll probably PM you over the weekend, jojochan, with a few questions, if that's not too much trouble. Maybe you can clue me in on some things that I haven't picked up on yet.
Better yet e mail me if you'd like. no problem at all.
But you know...maybe what bugs him IS talking abou the religion. Maybe..relax his mind in regards to it, so he can forget about it for a little while You have that power to distract him, darling...use it.
jojochan.
my head is killing me and i'm at work till seven, who else is here today thats willing to talk to me so i can make it through the day and not fall asleep?
i have a ton of work to do but this head ache is slowing me down.. .
lola.
harder...must dance, and shake my booty...HARDER!!!(sweat....pant.....grunt....)
jojochan.
it's a struggle to live a life of dualism.
you sought comfort in her arms, were soothed by her normalacy, and is a wiff of fresh air to you.
but if you, like so many others, a 2nd or 3rd gen witnesses, it's a struggle, especially if you believe the dogma and have family in it , and the hold it has on you in your mind it's extreme.
Oh yeah, one more thing...
I might post more on this subject, but I was thinking about what to do now? I mean, I know I said it once before on not dragging a woman through my issues, but really, if they don't see it as a big deal, then I wont see it as a big deal either...I guess I feel ready. I mean...what WAS the big deal? The FEAR? All in my mind; that's all....all in my mind. Now that I'm at that point if I, IF I; were to go into another relationship, and it were to get serious; I would'nt make it an issue like I did before.....the pin pricks would still be there, but....really, the fear was all in my mind...
what do you think?
jojochan.
my head is killing me and i'm at work till seven, who else is here today thats willing to talk to me so i can make it through the day and not fall asleep?
i have a ton of work to do but this head ache is slowing me down.. .
lola.
(((lola)))
If I could I would ease your pain with the warm soothing touch of my rough hands...
Or do a ritual dance from the clinic floor to ease your pain. Sorry sweete, I wish I could do more.
jojochan.
you know the feeling...seperation anxiety.
after that relationship with that "woman" went down the toilet i noticed one creepy thing.
i had way too much time on my hands.
My ex-husband cheated on me a few times, while he was beating me up telling me I was worthless - I took a sledge hammer to the car we had in show condition that he had given to me as engagement present
Damn, girl......!
((((kiddotan))))You are NOT worthless...no one is.
jojochan.
it's a struggle to live a life of dualism.
you sought comfort in her arms, were soothed by her normalacy, and is a wiff of fresh air to you.
but if you, like so many others, a 2nd or 3rd gen witnesses, it's a struggle, especially if you believe the dogma and have family in it , and the hold it has on you in your mind it's extreme.
Unconditional love, it's a beautiful thing. I love my JW boyfriend unconditionally, even though I don't agree with his religious beliefs, but sometimes I wonder if his love for me is unconditional. I'm sure that he loves me, but I think he might love his faith more and that scares me. I guess time will tell.
Becka, you of all people are especially welcome. You are right, time will certainly tell. The thing is it seems to me that he really DOES love you. He did'nt get baptised, plus he's not active in the religion, so that's not so bad. But if he did, deep down I feel he would still respect your stand on the collective, and will understand, and give you space like you had with him. The key thing is communication, grow together and not apart. Especially with this, this is some heavy stuff here. Deep down you know you care for him and love him, and you know he would bleed for you.
Communicate. As in regards to his family, they seem liberal about it. I would'nt worry.
Any doubts? TALK TO HIM....you my be surprised.
pm me for any questions if you wish.
your buddy, jojochan.
it's a struggle to live a life of dualism.
you sought comfort in her arms, were soothed by her normalacy, and is a wiff of fresh air to you.
but if you, like so many others, a 2nd or 3rd gen witnesses, it's a struggle, especially if you believe the dogma and have family in it , and the hold it has on you in your mind it's extreme.
Kiddotan you're welcome.
jojochan.
To make new friends whilst praising Jah.welcome!
ha...ha...HA! good one jojo!
oh, by the way....Welcome to the forum.
jojochan.
