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  what happens when the news leaks out...

  by Calliope in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've split from my husband.

  he first da-ed himself, which shocked the nation of family and friends.

  and now, we've seperated.. note: i have, since the da-ing "incident", begun fading, but i live 1000s of miles from the nation of family and friends so they are clueless as to where i am at.. so now that people are hearing that we are seperated (although i have yet to tell any elder, so that in itself should be interesting) i've been getting the weirdest phone calls from wit friends i haven't heard from all year... and this morning, i received an email from an old brother in my parents hall back home.

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  secretlove

  That was very sweet!
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  144,000, can someone help me understand this better?

  by secretlove in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i'm sort of having an affair with a jw.

  it's been a 14 year old love/lust thing that we've never really come to terms with.

  i'm not a jw so that has always been a problem.

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  secretlove

  That's very interesting!

  I would never want to be the person that breaks up a marriage and I know he is not the type of person who would cheat on his wife with anyone. When it comes to "us" there is too much history and regrets that we both made the wrong decision 14 years ago. We were young, stupid and didn't know what was important in life. I think I've learned... I'm still waiting to see if he did!
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  144,000, can someone help me understand this better?

  by secretlove in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i'm sort of having an affair with a jw.

  it's been a 14 year old love/lust thing that we've never really come to terms with.

  i'm not a jw so that has always been a problem.

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  secretlove

  You didn't scare me off. I'm just taking it all in.

  Everyone has such good advise but it's very hard to follow. I'm following my heart and it tells me to try to get him to think for himself. The majority of these 14 years I have stayed away from him b/c everytime I see him I want to cry. I feel there is something magnetic between us but the WTS is in the middle screwing with his mind. I so badly want to be with him and make him happy that I can't focus on anything else.

  I'm just hoping to learn as much as I can and hope that maybe my little questions here and there will make him think for himself a little.

  But I really do appreciate eveyones input!
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  144,000, can someone help me understand this better?

  by secretlove in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i'm sort of having an affair with a jw.

  it's been a 14 year old love/lust thing that we've never really come to terms with.

  i'm not a jw so that has always been a problem.

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  secretlove

  Thanks UncleBruce,

  "Not exactly. JW's believe there is a "heavenly class" of 144,000 destined to go to live up in the sky somewhere and an "earthly class" of millions destined to live on a parklike earth wearing smart casual clothes and eating perfect fruit forever and ever and ever.."

  That belief makes more sense than what I was thinking about... it's still a bunch of bull though.

  So is it only the "good" JW's that get into the paradise?
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  144,000, can someone help me understand this better?

  by secretlove in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i'm sort of having an affair with a jw.

  it's been a 14 year old love/lust thing that we've never really come to terms with.

  i'm not a jw so that has always been a problem.

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  secretlove

  NO!!!!!!!

  I was in love with him before he was married. Then we stayed away from each other for about 4 years because it wasn't working out b/c of the whole JW thing. In the meantime we both married other people.

  but I still love him and I know he still has feeling for me!
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  144,000, can someone help me understand this better?

  by secretlove in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i'm sort of having an affair with a jw.

  it's been a 14 year old love/lust thing that we've never really come to terms with.

  i'm not a jw so that has always been a problem.

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  secretlove

  I'm sort of having an affair with a JW. It's been a 14 year old love/lust thing that we've never really come to terms with. I'm not a JW so that has always been a problem.

  He's married to a JW and they have no kids. He believes so deeply that his religion is correct but he's messing around with me. How can he be cheating on his wife and think he might be saved or whatever at armageddon?

  I read somewhere that there is only room for another 3800 or something like that? Is it true that they believe that? If that's the case, I don't think he's getting in. He's not a very good JW if he's seeing me on the sly. I so badly want to say to him, "Are you blind? If there is only limited room left, a fornicating JW probably won't be saved!" (I secretly wish he would just drop everything and run away with me) That probably won't happen but what's the point in being miserable in a religion that you are basically doomed in the end??!!
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  In a few sentances, why did you leave the truth?........

  by jambon1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if you had to write down just a few sentances about why you left the truth, what would you say?.......

  jambon;.

  wholeheartedly embraced it for a few years after love bombing etc then saw widespread hypocrisy.

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  secretlove

  Misanthropic wrote:
  

  "I could never have stayed in a religion or anything else that treats women the way the witnesses do."

  How do they treat women? I'm not a JW, this is all a little new to me.
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  In love with a JW, HELP!!!

  by secretlove in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  14 years ago i was a sophomore in high school and fell head over heels for a senior (we'll call him mike) who wasn't really in to me.

  i was raised catholic and he, a jw.

  i wrote him lots of notes, sent him teddy bears and tried to win his heart.

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  secretlove

  I didn't realize the congregation was so controlling. To tell you how you can make love...are there only certain ways allowed??!! Does that mean no real fun stuff, only straight to the point? :O
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  In love with a JW, HELP!!!

  by secretlove in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  14 years ago i was a sophomore in high school and fell head over heels for a senior (we'll call him mike) who wasn't really in to me.

  i was raised catholic and he, a jw.

  i wrote him lots of notes, sent him teddy bears and tried to win his heart.

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  secretlove

  THANK YOU, I'm just taking in everyones opinions. Keep em' comin' .

  They are very helpful.
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  In love with a JW, HELP!!!

  by secretlove in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  14 years ago i was a sophomore in high school and fell head over heels for a senior (we'll call him mike) who wasn't really in to me.

  i was raised catholic and he, a jw.

  i wrote him lots of notes, sent him teddy bears and tried to win his heart.

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  secretlove

  14 years ago I was a sophomore in high school and fell head over heels for a senior (we'll call him Mike) who wasn't really in to me. I was raised Catholic and he, a JW. I wrote him lots of notes, sent him teddy bears and tried to win his heart. It didn't work, he never showed much interest! But he was in my thoughts everyday and I longed to be with him. 2 years later I was dating someone else and ended up pregnant and married at 18. I still saw Mike here and there and everytime I saw him I got butterflies in my stomach and would be so sad for days or weeks. One time while married to my husband I ended up in a hotel room with Mike, not much happened but I have some great memories. I'm not the type of person that would cheat on my husband but with Mike, everything is different. I love him!!! Now 14 years later I still think about him everyday. I'm still married to my husband (not too happily) and Mike is now married to a MUCH older JW. I don't think he's that happy. I ran in to him a few days ago and we had breakfast together. It was the quickest 2 hours of my life. He told me he was sorry for hurting me all those years ago, he was immature and that he made a mistake. He had told me about 10 years ago that I didn't wait long enough for him, but at that time I had just gotten married and had a baby. I didn't know what to do and he was still immature!
  
  Now he tells me the only reason we didn't work out was because I wasn't a JW and that he wasn't allowed to date until he was ready to get married. From our long conversation I know he has feelings for me. We were both so nervous to be around each other. I can feel the chemistry. Every time I would ask him what he was thinking he said, " I can't say or it might get me in trouble." We both had to get to work and when I hugged him good-bye I just wanted to die. I cried at work for almost an hour.
  
  I've loved this man for 1/2 of my life and the only reason I couldn't be with him was his religion. Now he's married (with no kids), I'm married (with 2 kids) and I want nothing else but to be with him. His Dad is very involved with the Kingdom Hall and this is the only thing he has ever known. I don't think he would give it up for me and I don't know that I would want to become a JW for a man, but if it meant being with him, I would. But I'm sure they wouldn't accept us. We would both be divorced.
  
  I don't know what to do!
  
  If you divorce someone, is that the end of being a JW?
  
  And if he's been a very serious witness since the age of 3, how likely is it that he would give it up for love?!!!
  
  If anyone out there has any input, I'm all ears!