I remember thinking that I knew something wasn't right in the religion and I had gone through a lot of emotional stuff with my parents turning on me because I had just gotten reinstated and it just didn't feel right. So I went on Yahoo searching for what? I'm not sure, but I found this site and it has honestly helped me so much.
I know I wouldn't have had the courage to actually live completely on my own without this site. I don't think I would've been able to pull through emotionally without this site.
so, simply put, i am in love... and love makes a man do some really stupid things.... love makes a pretty damn intelligent man feel pretty damn stupid quite often as well... so here's my story... i have been dating this girl for almost a year now... she is beautiful, sweet, and really just everything i imagined in a life mate... she lives with me... she doesnt work, while i do full time, and also go to school... i make very good money, so that does not bother me... but heres where it all begins... a few months ago, she went to cuba with her sisters, and imoved her into my place while she was gone, her idea, not mine.. now we keep our condoms in a certain place.... anyways, her box of condoms was gone, with her... when she comes back, our little box of condoms is empty.... instead of asking her about it, i explained it to myself as she must have given them to her sister.... .
while i am gone at work, i usually give her a call on my breaks... i notice that she never answers the phone between 6-8 pm.. home or cell... her explanation is that she is always in the shower... the problem with that is that she is always coming out of the shower when i get home.... i get home at around nine... so either she is taking a 3 hour shower or she is taking two showers a night..... she disappears off the face of the earth everytime she goes home to visit her family... like shes not home, shes not answering her phone and only ever calls me when she is in her car....her explanation is that she is at a cousins house.. conveniently, one that i do not know..... last night she went to a wedding... it was over at 11, i know this because she had told me, nd a friend of mine tht was there said that it ended then,,, it was a dry wedding, no dancing... very religious people... i was supposed to meet her at 130 today, i got to the train station that she was coming to, 15 minutes early and waited over an hour there... finally as i decied to walk back home, she gives me a call... i will be home at 5, meet me at the train.... of course, i have been calling her since last night at 11 to tell her i would meet her at 130 as she had planned... i made brunch for her, which is now in the garbage... i was scared shitless she had been hit by a car or dead since her phone has been off since last night.... i asked her why she is so late, i was helping move things until 3am last night... bull shit.. all the gifts were given prior to the weding and the bride and groom had already moved into their new place.... i know because she has told me in the past.....her phone was dead according to her... but all of the sudden, she is able to use it.... no charger, but she can use it..... i did confront her once, and she exploded on me!!!!
like screamed and screamed and said she was insulted i even asked... textbook defensive behaviour right????.
I am going through something similar, other than the living together part and my boyfriend (well him and I are ending it now) would disappear for hours or a day at a time. You knew the answer to your story before you came on here, you just wanted to get our opinions. Its time to leave hon!!! You deserve better!! ((((hugs))))
LTF - That story brought tears to my eyes and I am so sorry you and other people had to go through that. Its not fair to you to have been put through that. Thank you for sharing that with us!
I know even the people who read the magazines in our congregation didn't really read them. For example, when we were to do the watchtower (high light or underline our answers) half of the people in our congregation didn't even do it. My dad would tell me when he would be a mic man that he would see that. So even the ones people did keep, they didn't really read.
did you ever have a partner who sucked the joy out of your relationship because of their jealousy?
have you ever felt jealous?
surely we can all feel jealousy, it's just that the triggers are set differently for everyone.. i'll admit to having been jealous at times, my own insecurities got the better of me, but jealousy is truly corrosive and anyone who intentionally sets out to make their partner feel jealous needs a good smack on the bum!.
