AudeSapere

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  My first missed memorial.

  by stillwondering in

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  AudeSapere

  It's tough. I don't really have anything to say other than I 'get' it. And I think most of us do.

  I'm in same situation with my sister. But, for now, being 'in' works for her. I'm happy that she is happy. I just wish we could both be happy *and* talk freely to each other. Sadly, it cannot work that way when one of us is still in a cult.

  I remember my first few missed memorials. I had mixed feelings. I don't miss the memorial itself at all. But I do miss the big parties that we (my family) used to have afterwards. I really, really enjoyed those. They were among some of my best JW memories.

  No regrets, though, for me leaving it behind. I am much happier everyday.

  -Aude.
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  My 45 Minute Conversation With JWs Today

  by cofty in

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  as i was saying before the watchtower literature trolley has arrived in my little town.... my wife and i were in town this afternoon and i saw one of my former elder colleagues standing beside the trolley talking to a young man and reading to him from one of their books.

  ray was one my least favourite people - he was everything that is bad about jw elders.

  i went up to them and interrupted and told the man that this is a cult recruitment campaign.

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  Upcoming Surgery and Blood

  by HeyThere in

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  i am a newly unbaptised publisher.

  recently i found out i need to have major surgery and the jw's tried to rush a blood card in my hand.

  i was so relieved when the elders said i could not have one until i was baptised.. but they rushed to get me copies of the blood videos.

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  Hi There, HeyThere!

  Welcome to JWN. I you have not looked around much yet, you should soon see that this is a good resource and support place for you. Most of us 'get' what you are going through.

  Sorry to hear not just about your pending surgery, but the pressure to quickly get in step and follow the deadly JW blood policies.

  Sounds like you have good repoire with your doc(s) and have thoughtfully thought thru the faulty blood doctrines and made your own decision about about your treatment.

  Since you already know there may be an 'issue' regarding consent for blood, please do a big favor for your primary care physician, surgeon, and anesthesiologist (if possible), and let them know there may dissent from your husband and his 'clergy'. Give them the opportunity to hear from your own mouth what you will (and/or will not) accept. Letting them know of the conflict ahead of time is the kind thing to do. Trust me. And if you wait until they are prepping you for surgery, it is possible that they will already have administered narcotics or other meds. Also being minutes away from surgery, they all have other things they are preparring for.

  Tell them *now* what your wishes are.

  All the best for a fully and swift recovery.

  -Aude Sapere (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom/Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself.)
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  Creative ways of counting field service time

  by 4thgen in

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  there was a sister in my congregation that signed up to aux pioneer one month to put in 60 hours.

  we couldn't figure out why she was never at the arrangements, but yet she said she got in her time early in the month.

  we found out later that we wrote a letter that took her an hour.

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  My mom had a few creative ideas.

  Travelling by plane - Have a Watchtower and an Awake! back-to-back sticking up out of her purse and a bible or magazine in her lap to read.

  Travelling by car - Set a Watchtower magazine on one side of the rear window and an Awake magazine on the other side. Mabye a bible and/or Truth (or Life Forever) Book in the middle.

  Either way, there was no denying that she was Advertising, Advertising, Advertising the King and his Kingdom WTS puplications.

  I can't remember if we split the hours amongst us when travelling by car. It was mom and 4 kids. I am sure I claimed a few for myself.

  I wonder if she still uses these tactics? It sure was easy hours. Certainly no less effective than the literature carts that I've heard of lately.

  -Aude.
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  Ventura County CA Obituary Notice: R0BERT HUTER

  by RayPublisher in

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  ventura county ca obituary notice: r0bert huter .

  [i am posting this on behalf of a poster who wishes to remain anonymous...] .

  this is an unofficial notice that r0bert 'bob' huter died suddenly last week.

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  Sad to hear this news. He lived a full and busy life - right to the end. I remember that he was always kind, attentive and approachable.

  And I remember when Nancy went missing. 19months of non-closure. We looked everywhere. Even went door-to-door just looking for anyone who knew or saw anything that might help us find her.

  RIP, Bob. Thank you for your kindness.

  -Aude.
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  Strong, odd and weird opinions on my brothers anniversary

  by usualusername in

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  2. beliefs

  today my brother a non witness gave me a phone call.. .

  he spoke about this, that and the other.

  he then said that my oldest brother (an elder) was having his 25th wedding anniversary.

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  Giordano wrote: ... his son was told by an Elder that he'd have to ask his father to leave...his son refused so the Elder told his Dad he could not eat with them.

  Such arrogance on the part of the elder. If said elder was offended, said elder should have left the event himself.

  Sheesh~!

  Tough call on this one. I tend to agree with Ouiblette's first suggestion to be the most gracious one. But... Other people make a good point. A second- or third-hand invite, is not an invite.

  Maybe do something fun to celebrate your own life. Something fun and out-of-the-ordinary with your girlfriend.

  -Aude.
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  Told my JW friend it's a cult

  by Xanthippe in

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  2. experiences

  so i said i would write about the 2014 convention program that you guys kindly posted here, to the jw friend who contacted me out of the blue after over 20 years since we d'ad.

  sorry if you find this repetitive if you have already read my story.

  this friend does not know anything about how my family shun me and i thought it is relevant in the light of the convention symposium talk about putting family in second place.

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  xanthippe wrote: Well, my friend, I expect I shall not hear from you again now that you know I am never coming back. I have to say I was surprised when you started writing after such a long time. Be sure I know your motives are good and you want to save me from this wicked world to live in the New System. I worry about you in the same way, getting worn out and poorly working hard for something that isn’t true.

  Simple. Respectful. Honest. Direct.

  Perfect. I love it.

  Thank you for sharing this.

  -Aude.
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  2 J dubs at my door this morning .

  by smiddy in

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  my wife and i are presently interstate house sitting for a freind , and this morning 2 jw`s called unexpectedly of course .

  after their introducing themselves.

  they offered the invitation to the memmorial which i rejected , then let him present his spiel , nothing has changed by the way .. i had them their for about an hour , i`m on holidays nothing better to do this morning except keep them away from other doors .and of course they were prepared to stay.

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  smiddy wrote: Probably neither of us will do either. LOL

  LOL! This made me laugh~! Nice work with the visiting JWs. Maybe something you said will trigger a thought. Maybe not. But you never know.

  Thanks for sharing.

  -Aude.
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  My dear old Dad's (RIP) observation

  by punkofnice in

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  2. experiences

  my dear old dad was the po of a congregation.

  he had been in the british marines during ww2.. one jolly day we were in the coach park at twickenham convention.. dad was watching the brothers and sisters getting off the coaches.. he looked at me and said quite pained: 'they all look like loonies.'.

  i kid you not..

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  That's funny. Funny because it's true.

  I hope that is a good memory for you.

  -Aude.
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  Today i miss my friends and feel negative. How did you overcome?

  by Jon Preston in

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  today nothing feels right.

  i feel like a bystander to all things.

  as if im nowhere and have no forward progression.

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  AudeSapere

  Music and taking classes helped me alot during my transition.

  This was before JWN and way before my first meet-up with XJW's. At the time I did not consider myself an 'X'; merely inactive due to conscience matters. So I kept my distance from non-JW's and JW's alike. All for far too long.

  I don't remember your situation so will leave further comments for others.

  All the best on your personal journey.

  -Aude.