Posts by AudeSapere

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I love my little sprout

by watersprout in

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when i collected babysprout from school today, she looked at me all puzzled and confused...when i waved she came running over and said ''i didn't recognize you, you look different.

really beautiful, did you do something different with your hair?

''...i asked ''what do you mean i look different?

AudeSapere

How nice!! Sounds like a good day.

But did I miss something? Have you been ill?

-Aude.

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HEY ZID GUESS WHAT???

by mouthy in

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lol!!.

i have to wait till my son-in-law.

shows me how to put them on!!

I just heard from OOMPA!!!!!!!

by mouthy in

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you all know he was in a terrible motor bike accident.broke every bone in his body.

was in hospital for ages.

unconscience ...his exwife nancy.

AudeSapere

New Light for You - Thanks for the clarifying details.

Glad to hear Oompa is healing and recovering.

One question, though. Was he wearing a helmet? If so, what style??

-Aude.

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How Would You Respond to this PM?

by AudeSapere in

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today i received the following pm from a fairly new poster (last 2 weeks and only 10 posts):.

audesapere, .

something in one of your posts tells me i might know you.

AudeSapere

Wow! Thanks for all the responses, everyone.

OTWO wrote: About the best thing you could do would be to open a thread seeking advice, entitled "How Would You Respond to this PM?"

LOL. And guess what? That's just what I did~!

First I responded to the pm. THEN I posted this thread. I've been here FAR too long and seen too much to be so naive as to give out much personal identifying information - JW or not! Although a few hours scouring my posts would likely give such good clues. And as I've said, I have been identified by a few people - all with good response. I've also identified a couple of people here. Heck, the first one I approached actually had cited me and my family *by name* in a post, all without even knowing that I was on the board.

mkr32208 wrote: Who cares if you get outed? You clearly realize what a giant load of mott droppings the entire thing is so who cares. ... Christ what are you all 10?

At this point, for me, it's not really so much about being outed to the JWs. It's about social graces and my personal safety. With the info that I've presented on this board over the past 6 or 7 years someone could absolutely piece together my name and city. Plug those 3 bits into search site like Spokeo, and I've opened myself to a potential stalker, or worse. As someone said on another thread a few months ago: Men are afraid women will embarrass them. Women are afraid men will kill them. I live alone with much open space behind me. A JW friend of mine was murdered by someone she did not know. I've had a family member assaulted and left for dead. We are not talking about a simple 'outing'. We are talking about personal safety. The 'outing to the elders' is not as big a deal for me, but may for others here.

I have met probably 50 JWD/JWN posters, pm'd about 20 or 30 others and exchanged Christmas Cards with another 30 or so. In most of my pm's, I give my real name and with my Christmas Cards, well, those people have my real address. I'm not paranoid. Just cautious of unidentified strangers who want more personal info from me without offering even a shred of info about themselves.

jwgonebad wrote: I'd like to know who the poster who sent you the PM is so that the rest of us can be on the look out.

So as not to violate privacy, I will not give the name of the poster. I debated whether or not to even post the exact pm. Another reason I posted the pm was in case others had received the same or similar one they would see mine and either post here or send me a pm. So far, no one has said they received one like that.

Sabatious, jay 88 and Outlaw - Scam? Yeah. I hate to think I was the only one singled out for a Scam, but it did have that generic, slimy feel.

wannaexit - I understand newbie excitement and all. What I wonder, though is why someone would be so cryptic and protective of their *own* identity, while in the same sentence ask a woman to disclose even more personal information about herself without even referencing what it was that caught their attention in the first place. Why not reference the post, give a little more background info as to how you may connected to that specific incident or place, give your first name (or even initials, or age, something!).

Broken Promises, Laverite, MrMonroe, chickpea, nugget, darth fader, mamalove, MadSweeney, undercover, and Twitch - I agree with all of you. I did not give any more info and *did* ask for more info first.

For those who care, here is the pm I sent in response last night:

Hi '[new poster's alias]' -

Thanks for reaching out to me. It's always great to meet up with old friends and I've met a few on this site as well as made some good new friends.

Before I give out too much info to a 'stranger', I'd prefer that you tell me a little about yourself and perhaps cite the post that caught your eye so I can know where to begin.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

I have not heard back from the poster and it there have been no new posts either from him/her.

Still hoping that this *is* an old friend/acquaintance, though.

-Aude.

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How Would You Respond to this PM?

by AudeSapere in

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today i received the following pm from a fairly new poster (last 2 weeks and only 10 posts):.

audesapere, .

something in one of your posts tells me i might know you.

AudeSapere

I responded to the pm before creating this post. It just struck me as an odd message. And not even signed with initials or anything. No clue as to the person's identity or when or where we would have know each other. And no reference about which post of mine gave a hint of who I am.

If it turns out the we *do* know each other - Cool! I love getting back in touch with old friends and have been hoping to find others from when I was *in*. I really hope this is the case and looking forward to hearing from the poster soon.

Hopefully it's not just a phishing expedition.

I posted the pm for three reasons. (1) To see if maybe other got the same inquiry, (2) to create a conversation and perhaps a little warning to others who may have received the same message, and (3) to encourage people sending future inquiries to take the first step and give a little identifying information about themselves before asking more of someone else.

Still hoping it really *is* an old friend...

-Aude.

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How Would You Respond to this PM?

by AudeSapere in

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today i received the following pm from a fairly new poster (last 2 weeks and only 10 posts):.

audesapere, .

something in one of your posts tells me i might know you.

AudeSapere

Today I received the following pm from a fairly new poster (last 2 weeks and only 10 posts):

AudeSapere,

Something in one of your posts tells me I might know you. I'm a newcomer to this site, so I don't know how to proceed. Perhaps you can give me a few more clues about yourself to see if I am right about who you are? No matter what I will not share it with anybody. I'm just curious and it might lead to a happy reunion of friends...

In light of yesterday's outing of a family who was trying to fade, how would *you* respond to a pm like this? -Aude.

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Worlds Apart (Movie) now on Youtube

by Billen76 in

sara is a teenager who lives with her family, who are jehova's witnesses.

the family's devout image is questioned when the parents divorce as a consequence of the father's infidelity.

one night at a party sara meets teis, an older boy who takes an interest in her.

AudeSapere

This will be on Sundance in a half hour (Pacific Time).

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How to find someone

by peacefulpete in

what suggestions can you offer as to how to find a girl i knew as a child.

i know she married at least twice and do not know any name other than her maiden name.

she was in wisconsin about 20 years ago but can't say since.

AudeSapere

If she has brothers, try searching for them in and around Wisconsin (Facebook, whitepages.com, spokeo.com, classmates.com, google, etc)

Ask other classmates if they know anyone who may have kept contact.

Maybe contact your school and see if she contacted anyone there for future reunions??

Good luck with your search.

-Aude.

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Deleted Profile

by brotherdan in

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i have offically asked lady lee to delete my profile on this site.. that being said, i want to thank everyone that was there for me through my hard times coming out of this cult and dealing with my wife who is still in it.

i know that it seemed like i didn't care and was not gratefull for all the support that i received on the site.

that's just not true.

AudeSapere

Take care, Dan. I wish you well.

-Aude.

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All of your information could be on Spokeo.com

by MsDucky in

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there's a site called spokeo.com that's a new online usa phone book w/personal information: everything from pics you've posted on fb or web, approx credit score, home value, income, age.

you can remove yourself by searching for yourself on their site to find the url of your page, then go to the bottom of the page and click on the privacy button to remove yourself.. i checked it out.

they have a picture of my home.

AudeSapere

Yikes!

I don't want to pay to see the specifics - although I *am* curious.

They say I'm married, but I'm not.

They also say R****** is my son, he's not. He's my brother.

And the map they use is more accurate than mapquest. They actually got my house almost correct. They point to my neighbor.

But yikes! Wonder what additional info is available for the $3.00 they ask for?

-Aude.