Posts by jambon1

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Episode 4 of This JW Life is out now......

by dubstepped in

spent all day yesterday writing two episodes and recording and editing one podcast of this jw life.

so, episode 4 of my podcast is now out.

i took a minute away from my story (though it is still laced throughout this one) to lay out what goes on inside of a kingdom hall, who the players are, what they believe, and hopefully set a foundation that will help explain my story as one.

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I thought it was a very comprehensive and easy to understand run down of JW beliefs. The little part about field service and coffee breaks brought back the memories - the feeling of doing a fruitless work just because you 'had too' and it being so unenjoyable that your main highlight was a coffee and a bit of cake. Crazy how I put myself through it looking back.

It strikes me (and you can correct me if I'm wrong here) that when you verbally cover their beliefs, it's very difficult not to let out the odd snigger. I could hear the laughter in your voice at some points and I think it's indicative of just how absurd the belief system is. I've been away from it for over a decade and when I'm listening to the beliefs it's actually making me laugh AND cringe at the same time.

Good podcast. Really like your tone and pace. If I'm correct, the next podcast is relating to shunning. Something I'm very passionate about. The more that speak out against this the better.

Good job. Thanks for the work & effort you put into it.

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Tight pants Tony III (closeted gay anointed GB member) is on the July briadcast

by jambon1 in

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such fun.

what gems will this plump little oddball be ranting about this time?.

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Such fun. What gems will this plump little oddball be ranting about this time?

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Episode 4 of This JW Life is out now......

by dubstepped in

spent all day yesterday writing two episodes and recording and editing one podcast of this jw life.

so, episode 4 of my podcast is now out.

i took a minute away from my story (though it is still laced throughout this one) to lay out what goes on inside of a kingdom hall, who the players are, what they believe, and hopefully set a foundation that will help explain my story as one.

jambon1

Will be listening at work tomorrow. 👏🏽

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Witnesses Respond After Inferno Consumes Apartment Building in London

by NikL in

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jehovah’s witnesses are assisting victims of a catastrophic fire that engulfed the grenfell tower, a 24-story apartment building in the north kensington area of london, in the early morning hours of june 14, 2017. authorities are reporting that at least 79 people were killed.. four witnesses were evacuated from the apartment building, two of whom were residents of grenfell tower.

fortunately, none of them were injured, although the witnesses’ apartments were among those completely destroyed in the blaze.

witnesses that live near the now fire-gutted apartment building provided food, clothing, and monetary aid to their fellow members and their families that were affected.

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They like a brag don't they?

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Looking for Scottish Ex-JW's to share their experiences (If out obviously)

by jambon1 in

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raised in edinburgh and glasgow congregations.

lots of funny and interesting jw characters from the 90's & 2000's.

ian shanks.

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Is that where they sell the cockles Cofty?

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Looking for Scottish Ex-JW's to share their experiences (If out obviously)

by jambon1 in

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raised in edinburgh and glasgow congregations.

lots of funny and interesting jw characters from the 90's & 2000's.

ian shanks.

jambon1

I was in a different area at the time but yes, Glen Mcfarlane disbanded a cong then ended up having a mental breakdown because of the related stress.

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Looking for Scottish Ex-JW's to share their experiences (If out obviously)

by jambon1 in

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raised in edinburgh and glasgow congregations.

lots of funny and interesting jw characters from the 90's & 2000's.

ian shanks.

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Raised in Edinburgh and Glasgow congregations.

Lots of funny and interesting JW characters from the 90's & 2000's.

Ian Shanks. The Barr (juice) family. Cute and lovely CO characters ike Les Perkins. The Edinburgh cong that had a white shirt hung up for visiting elders that wore coloured shirts. Dave Algar (DO) and his atttactive wife. The money stealing scandal of an out of town cong in the east. Guys wearing kilts to weddings and being counselled on the full outfit. The elder in the highlands that gave his leaving gift as a public talk around 2003!

So many memories.

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Looking for experiences from those who are married with kids and have dissacociated

by UnshackleTheChains in

this is a question for those who officially left the organisation and are married; and your spouse and kids are still in.'.

i just wanted to find out what your experience has been when you dissacociated.the following questions go through my mind all the time.

it always comes back to the what if's!.

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It's a very long road for them unshacklethechains.

To have a wife that slowly wakes up is very rewarding in the end no doubt, but believe me when I say, I went through 10 years of my own wife defending the religion and at the end of that we almost lost our otherwise very loving and healthy marriage due to her unswerving loyalty to the cult. If you have much patience with your wife and/or an acceptance that she'll potentially NEVER be completely free from it then you'll be ok. I think generally we just don't want major upheaval for ourselves and our families.

For me, that religion has literally destroyed my life & despite things working out for us just now, there were things that went on in our lives at the bad stages that I deeply regret and mostly blame on the religions influence.

I now realise that my fading has caused (quite rightly) many witnesses to question their own beliefs due to my influence and interchange which I would've hated to have been denied. Had I disassociated I would've forgone that. My long term voice would've been silenced.

Why give them that power? Disempower THEM. Be what you want to be with a freedom of speech that they'd otherwise shut down.

You don't need to be a badge carrying rabid apostate to influence people. You can do so kindly & subtly. I should know. I've done it for 12 years now.

The other option will silence you completely. Disassociation will even shut down your dialogue with family, never mind friends.

You need to think carefully and consider all these factors.

Above all - do what feels right to you. And if you have a faith, know that it'll be respected and valued by those who matter in your friend/family circle. As much as I don't personally have faith, I truly respect those who have it. Not the destructive JW version of faith. But the kind that benefits the individuals who have it and treasure it.

Stay cool my friend! ❤️

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Interesting Thing My Little Girl Said Today

by pale.emperor in

my 3yo daughter lives with me 4 days and with her mum 3 days.

i have her tues, wed, fri evening and saturday all day.

which means my ex takes her to sunday and thursday meetings but she doesn't go door knocking on saturday because she's with me.. i dont mind - at the moment - because in a way i want her to know the jw jargon so we can talk about it without having to explain what it is, and i want her to compare the bullshit to the real world.

jambon1

It's ok at 3 mate. Mine were the same. After years of it though and then my daughter computing that I was 'in the world' she had a complete meltdown aged 7. Telling me Jehovah is going to kill me and my family.

Protect her. Time passes. Information gets retained and the result isn't at all pleasant.

I wrote all about it in a three part story around 7 years ago on here. Have a look.

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Looking for experiences from those who are married with kids and have dissacociated

by UnshackleTheChains in

this is a question for those who officially left the organisation and are married; and your spouse and kids are still in.'.

i just wanted to find out what your experience has been when you dissacociated.the following questions go through my mind all the time.

it always comes back to the what if's!.

jambon1

I'd always go with a gradual fade. Why play by their rules and make things easy for them to implement their hideous shunning rules?

I faded years ago and it makes things easier all round. I quite like the dilemma most of them find themselves in when not knowing how to treat me. It perplexes them also that they have to see me living a fairly good life. They're privvy to stuff about my life that they certainly wouldn't be if they shut down all communication.

Of course, whatever you decide is your choice and your truest of friends will always stick by you regardless. Of that number you'll only ever have a few in life but I've found it's all you need.

Im all for disempowering their stupid rules.