There has been an exgay support group out there for years which has had differing numbers of participants over the years. it is called A Common Bond
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Any gay former JWs out there?
by BenV inhey, don't want to frizz any reconditioned christian straight people here -- so if gay stuff bothers you, please go to the next post.
thanks.. i've started a group for gay disfellowshipped, da-d, or missing-in-action jws.
thought we could share a few stark-raving post-jw survival stories.
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What Its Like To Be A Gay Ex JW....
by str8?so is spaghetti..until you heat it up ini guess its time to throw my little story out there.
i keep reading everyones stories and thinking how brave you have all been, coming out of the organisation and facing all the repercussions of doing so.. .
i only last august disassociated myself.
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I'm as gay a a goose!!! welcome str8. i'm one of the older gay ones here. been off and on the board for a number of years. fighting with the fundies who have mostly abandoned the site to people who want to accept one another and help each other recovery from the Watchtower. I've been out for 20 years now. It is incomprehensible to my new friends how being shunned can affect one psychologically. I lost dozens if not hundreds of friends and family members all at once, one day in July of 1988. Its been a struggle. But life is a struggle and I've learned that its a struggle for everybody, gay straight, witness non witness. Life is simply tough. Shunning is a factor that makes it tougher. I tried everything to establish a relationship with my parents and my brother's family but to no avail. My mother once told me she'd rather me be dead that be gay. While she tries to hide these feelings from me now at the end of her life, I know that this is still basically how she feel.s My brother once told me that I was worthless. My father once asked me which one of us was the woman. They are deeply buried in their ignorance. I'm on the road, looking for pals. Take care. Look forward not back. PS. Junction guy. If you were not born gay, you are not gay. There is little contention within the gay community over what gay means. There are a variety of ways that people express their gayness from drag queens to leather men to bears to circuit boys to the great majority of gays who simply find a partner, settle down, buy a house and travel a lot. But every gay i've ever spoken with and i've spoken with thousands agrees that 1) they were born gay and 2) being gay means you want sex with another man or woman as the case may be.
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What Its Like To Be A Gay Ex JW....
by str8?so is spaghetti..until you heat it up ini guess its time to throw my little story out there.
i keep reading everyones stories and thinking how brave you have all been, coming out of the organisation and facing all the repercussions of doing so.. .
i only last august disassociated myself.
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I'm as gay a a goose!!!
welcome str8. i'm one of the older gay ones here. been off and on the board for a number of years.
fighting with the fundies who have mostly abandoned the site to people who want to accept one
another and help each other recovery from the Watchtower.
I've been out for 20 years now. It is incomprehensible to my new friends how being shunned
can affect one psychologically. I lost dozens if not hundreds of friends and family members all
at once, one day in July of 1988.
Its been a struggle. But life is a struggle and I've learned that its a struggle for everybody,
gay straight, witness non witness. Life is simply tough. Shunning is a factor that makes it tougher.
I tried everything to establish a relationship with my parents and my brother's family but to no
avail.
My mother once told me she'd rather me be dead that be gay. While she tries to hide these
feelings from me now at the end of her life, I know that this is still basically how she feel.s
My brother once told me that I was worthless.
My father once asked me which one of us was the woman.
They are deeply buried in their ignorance.
I'm on the road, looking for pals.
Take care. Look forward not back.
PS. Junction guy. If you were not born gay, you are not gay. There is little contention within the gay community over what
gay means. There are a variety of ways that people express their gayness from drag queens to leather men to bears to
circuit boys to the great majority of gays who simply find a partner, settle down, buy a house and travel a lot. But every
gay i've ever spoken with and i've spoken with thousands agrees that 1) they were born gay and 2) being gay means you
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happiness is
by joelbear69 intennis pottery board games photography traveling roller coasters art museums naturism cooking cuddling with mitch
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tennis pottery board games photography traveling roller coasters art museums naturism cooking cuddling with Mitch
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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
by joelbear69 ini have been diagnosed and misdiagnosed so many time over the past 20 years it really isn't .
funny.
i have been prescribed an alphabet of drugs.
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i didn't self diagnose. i was diagnosed by a psychiatrist. his description of the symptoms
seemed to make sense.
i was in Alanon for a year. it saved my life once 20 years ago.
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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
by joelbear69 ini have been diagnosed and misdiagnosed so many time over the past 20 years it really isn't .
funny.
i have been prescribed an alphabet of drugs.
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I really think only death will bring me peace because of the way my mind works and the way I have set up ethical prioritization in my mind.
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1919? 1914? 1975? None of these dates are going to matter in a few years...
by Alpaca infor those of us who got burned by the borg's bogus bible chronology.... once a few more years go by (at least by 2020 or 2030), the borg will not be able to fit their supposed divinely arranged role into some kind of bible chronology unless they completely overhaul their explanations of the prophecies.
that leaves them in a catch-22.
if they got it wrong, what's to make them any more believable in the future?.
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there have always been doomsday cults and there always will be.
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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
by joelbear69 ini have been diagnosed and misdiagnosed so many time over the past 20 years it really isn't .
funny.
i have been prescribed an alphabet of drugs.
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joelbear69
I have been diagnosed and misdiagnosed so many time over the past 20 years it really isn't
funny. I have been prescribed an alphabet of drugs. The only thing that really works on me
is sedatives/tranquilizers that calm my mind down for a few hours at a time.
The most correct feeling diagnosis is that I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder caused by
several traumas, mostly Watchtower related, but not all.
1. Mom threatening to abandon me if I misbehaved. This was chronic throughout my
early childhood.
2. Mom and Dad's almost constant fighting. Once he brought home flowers (yellow roses)
on their anniversary and mom said she would have rather had candy. Dad through them
out in the front yard. I went out in my PJ's and socks and tried to put them back together
again. That vase sat on our TV for years afterward and it was a constant reminder of
that horrible night.
3. Dad's chronic drinking. This started when I was about 10 and lasted until I left home
when I was 23.
4. Mom's going to work when I was 11. I hated coming home to an empty house. I was
constantly afraid my parents were going to abandon me.
5. Being kicked out of Bethel for falling in love. Falling in love with another man that
is. And it was real love. When I was sent home my soul was shattered. I wanted Rick.
I wanted to be back at Bethel. I didn't want to face the humiliation. I used to lay in
bed and tremble uncontrollably for hours.
6. Being shunned. Even after 20 years I remain devastated and completely heart
broken from being shunned by my hundreds of witness friends and my family.
7. My Dad and older brother's violent verbal and emotional abuse regarding my
homosexuality. This started when I was about 13 and did not end until I came
out and left the family when I was 30.
So far I have survived one day at a time.
I have Mitch and his family and friends.
I have a few friends of my own (my friendships don't tend to last long)
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God mauls little children with bears. (2 Kings 2:23,24)
by easyreader1970 in23. and he proceeded to go up from there to beth el.
as he was going up on the way, there were small boys that came out from the city and began to jeer him and that kept saying to him: "go up, you baldhead!
go up, you baldhead!
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my mother used this as a threat against me my whole life when I was misbehaving. "The she bears are going to get you"