Welcome, GapingMouth.
I tested the waters with my wife and although she says she'd respect my new beliefs,
I know for a fact she would think less of me and our relationship would be very damaged.
One thing for sure, it is complicated for husbands who wake up to the Watchtower first because of the headship issue. The wife's "deep respect" is overshadowed by her adherence to the Watchtower's rules first and foremost.
I was raised JW in a "divided" home where my father's headship was undermined repeatedly. To this day my JW mother skillfully uses the religion's "Theocratic Warfare" as a tool to control and/or undermine family members (none of whom became baptized, though some are still believers).
Not saying your wife is anything like my mother — sincerely hope not — but this is what the religion teaches spouses with unbelieving mates, and it is harmful and confusing to the kids. For instance, I was taught that I didn't have to listen to my father because he was going to die at Armageddon anyway. Your children may be marked as "bad association" because you simply choose not to believe anymore, even if your wife remains in good standing. Nice, huh?
I can't bare to lose them to the point I decided I must continue my fake-age.
I understand it is a complex keeping-the-family together issue, and not a spiritual one. Fake-age is okay until you can develop some coping strategies. Hang in there,
~Sue