Nos, sorry just reading the threads from the weekend and I have to say this one hit home. I too was abused by my mother and my step father until I was 16-17. Once I left, I did not see mom from 92-2000. My mom was DFd. I did not know that she had become an alchoholic. Anyway, in May 2003, after my mom had been "6 months" sober, she came to visit for my bridal shower. The Friday before though, she stayed with my two little ones (at the time my daugher was 6 and my son 4) while I went to work. At about 10:00am, my mom calls me at work. She all of sudden starts bringing up the past. I ask her, have you been drinking, she says, I ve only had a glass of wine. I say, while with Haley and Dylan? She says yes but I only had one in slurred speech. About 8 months prior to this, I go out to visit her in AZ. We travel to Sedona, my mom has alot of wine (I had wine too, but did not know state my mom was in) all day long, I am just thinking my mom wants to party a bit.
On the way home from Sedona, her personality changes, and all of a sudden I am the bad guy for no reason, I make a comment, she comes from the back seat and starts punching my head and my neck. My husband pulls over. He threatens to alert the sheriff who drives by, she backs off, then she passes out in the back seat. I ride on the floor of the drivers seat because I am so afraid she is going to come at me again....she never remembered doing it. I never brought it up.
Anyway, back to my kids. I had to leave work that day because my mom was blasted watching my two kids. All was OK, I got home, really couldn't confront her in her state, she went upstairs and passed out...
My point is, I too felt the same way about my mother. The good news is that my mom has been 4 years sober and has proven to me her life is much better, but I have not seen her since I married 8/23/03. She has not seen her grandchildren either, nor has she met her new grandchild born 2/5/07. I love her, but our relationship will never be normal mother/daughter, sad, but not my fault.
Nikki
