I am not sure if the posters think of me because no one knows me well enough I guess.
Nikki
Nowman
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What do you think fellow posters think of you?
by JH ini guess people think "photoshop" when they think of me.
yep, i love that.. oh, they also must think i have a screw loose .
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So excited I could *pOp*
by LouBelle inokay - for the last hour 2 friends and i have been sitting and talking business.
it started out as a joke on how we could digitise magazine and download them into a very real business idea re: the soccer world cup happening here in 2010.. it is a brilliant idea, which i will share in completion once we have registered / patented it so that it can't be stolen.
plus plus we can use it to uplift previously disadvantaged people, the only thing is they may not be able to cope with the demand - how awesome is that - i'm going to be helping people make a living - wow - skipping with happiness.. i haven't been this excited for a looooooooooooooooong time - i really do feel like my brain could pop with all the ideas - the thing is ... it's so so doable.
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Loubelle,
See, all you needed was time. Now you have something to look forward to (hint to previous threads)! I look forward to hearing about it.
Nikki
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describe yourself in one sentence
by wings ini learned so much about you from the dream job topic.....just wanted to try again.
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me: i'm the nicest smart ass you will ever know..
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sweet, bubbly, major smart ass, a woman of my word
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Sleeping your life away?
by sweetface2233 in"life is too short", "carpe diem", "eat, drink, and be merry...", "never put off till tomorrow..." we have all heard these phrases, taken them to heart, and burned ourselves out on the stress from them.
i say...screw that shite!
the only thing keeping me from jumping out the window of my 6th story apt or driving my car into the back of one of the metro buses on the beltway is knowing that, if one of those actions do take place, i won't be able to nap that afternoon.
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Nowman
The only time I nap is when I have not gotten enough sleep. I know I am too hyper to sleep more than 6-8 hours per night, I wake up right before my alarm clock always, eyes wide open. I know many people that are nappers (including my hubby), can't do it.
Nikki
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Do JW's attract the mentally ill, or do their beliefs cause mental illness?
by gaiagirl inhave you observed a higher than normal number of mentall ill among jw's?
if so, do you think the religon attracts the mentally ill, or do you think that their beliefs and practices actually cause mental illness?.
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Nowman
In my opinion, those that are mentally ill, insecure, looking elsewhere for a hope for the future, are easy prey for religious cults. I know this to be true because living examples are my parents who converted later in life.
The WTBS does cause people to be mentally ill or it takes awhile to get over what you thought was so important when in the org, either way my parents are living example of it. In fact, I myself am a living example that I am affected my it, and I have been out for 15 years!!! Hence the reason why I continue to come here for support.
Its OK that I am still affected by it, I try not to let it consume me, but there are some days I am really pissed off that my childhood was wasted on the WTBS. The concrete evidence actually can be viewed on this board.
Nikki
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Do JW's attract the mentally ill, or do their beliefs cause mental illness?
by gaiagirl inhave you observed a higher than normal number of mentall ill among jw's?
if so, do you think the religon attracts the mentally ill, or do you think that their beliefs and practices actually cause mental illness?.
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Nowman
Yes to both your questions!
Nikki
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Anyone else ever do this
by superman ini remember how much emphasis the org used to put on studying your publications, and how looking at other peoples books during the meeting was like seeing a lazar show with bright, hot, multicolored, florescent highlighted pages.
but i never personally enjoyed studying (even when i was more hardcore in it) so since i used to have privileges/responsibilities one of the requirements was to study for all the meetings, so before the meetings i would take a hot yellow and florescent blue marker and quickly just start marking up my books so that it looked like it was studied.
sometimes to look even more spiritual i would take a pen and start writing random crap in the margins, even scribble lines so from far away it looked likes cursive.
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At my last hall, I won the different color highlighting contest that we had because I was the world's best highlighter! I also won the world's smallest handwriting in the margins contest too. Ok, I am only kidding, but honestly I made it an art!!! I totally know what you mean! My parents were so proud when they would see all the beautiful colors and writing in the margins! Sometimes I was in the mood to be a good little JW, sometimes I was in the mood to be a bad little JW. In the end, at 18, I chose the bad JW route.
Nikki
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3 a.m. - my wife is in tears! What do I do?
by The Scotsman inwell my situation has developed a bit, any advice appreciated.. their has been a gradual building up of pressure ever since i stood down as an elder about 6 months ago.. i have been telling my wife about my doubts but have continued to attend "some" meetings.. as time has progressed i have become more open with my criticism of the org.. i mentioned the un scandal, molestation trials, false prophecy ect etc.. interestingly she does not deny these facts and yet still wants to continue as a jw.. i told her that god is not happy with people knowingly being part of a false prophet (deut 18 - etc) - starting to lay the groundwork for my exit.. she appreciates the difficult situation doubters are in - they cannot openly express their feelings for fear of jcs.. anyway, a few weeks ago we moved house which meant changing congregation.. but i felt it would be best if i did not attend meetings " at all" at the new cong so my fade could be easier.. but i could not have predicted my wifes response - when i told her it was an explosion of emotion, i mean real heartbreaker stuff.. she seems depressed at the prospect, perhaps the reality is finally hitting home.. last night, about 3a.m.
i noticed that she was not in bed.
i went downstairs and she was sobbing away to herself.. "i can't go to that hall myself!
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Nowman
Scotsman,
I understand and agree we all are entitled to our opinion. Hang in there, whatever you decide will be what is best for you, even if it takes time.
Best wishes to you!
Nikki
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3 a.m. - my wife is in tears! What do I do?
by The Scotsman inwell my situation has developed a bit, any advice appreciated.. their has been a gradual building up of pressure ever since i stood down as an elder about 6 months ago.. i have been telling my wife about my doubts but have continued to attend "some" meetings.. as time has progressed i have become more open with my criticism of the org.. i mentioned the un scandal, molestation trials, false prophecy ect etc.. interestingly she does not deny these facts and yet still wants to continue as a jw.. i told her that god is not happy with people knowingly being part of a false prophet (deut 18 - etc) - starting to lay the groundwork for my exit.. she appreciates the difficult situation doubters are in - they cannot openly express their feelings for fear of jcs.. anyway, a few weeks ago we moved house which meant changing congregation.. but i felt it would be best if i did not attend meetings " at all" at the new cong so my fade could be easier.. but i could not have predicted my wifes response - when i told her it was an explosion of emotion, i mean real heartbreaker stuff.. she seems depressed at the prospect, perhaps the reality is finally hitting home.. last night, about 3a.m.
i noticed that she was not in bed.
i went downstairs and she was sobbing away to herself.. "i can't go to that hall myself!
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Nowman
In response to MidwichCuckoo note to me...
I am married and know about the needs of 2 people, and I wanted to put my 2 cents in period. I spoke in my post about Scotsman standing up for what is right, and that time will tell what the final outcome would be. Just because you know of (and you were apart of emotional blackmail) people in similiar sitation, does not make you an expert. Based on what you posted, you are assuming that things will work out the same way. In my humble opionion, I think its too soon to go the route that he will be blackmailed. Think about his wife who still has the JW mind set, we all did at one point. I am sure it is very difficult for her, but I would not tell Scotsman to give up, not without a fight!!!!
I looked at my post again, don't know why you felt the need to make a point with me, just trying offer some encouragement, in my post, I never suggested he go to the meeting with her and give in??? I do not know the history of his situation, but I do understand the way he is feeling, therefore I offered encouragement period.
Scotsman, this thread is for you, hope you find encouragement.
Nikki
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~ Your feelings on aging ~
by FlyingHighNow inso, we aren't going to stay young and never die.
how do you feel about aging, especially those of you that are over 35?
aging poses some concerns for me, especially since i am 49 and pretty much single.
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I actually am enjoying getting older, turned 34 last month. Yet, please do not think I am tooting my own horn here, but I look abnormally young, get told all the time. You know what its like to volunteer at my son and daughter fun fair (9 & 11 years old) and people thought I went to the middle school next door? Or they thought I was the sister (sister thing is not so bad) of my kids....
Part of it is my size (I am 5 feet tall, and weigh what I am suppose to weigh), I know. Part of it is genentic, my mom looks real young too. Sometimes I am not taken seriously because its assumed I am young and inexperienced. Then stuff comes of my mouth, and I get, How old are you? I say out load proudly, 34!!!!!
So, aging for me does not bother me. When I was 20, I looked 13, ha. I would say at this age, it was hard to look younger because you want to be older at that age. I love being in my 30s, and it is true, much more content with myself then when I was younger.
Nikki