I hate underwear and I do not wear any except when I wearing a dress or skirt.
Nikki
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weight loss
by John Doe inhow fast is too fast?
i decided i'm tired of being overweight last week, so i went on a diet and started exercising.
i'm eating anywhere from 1,200 to 1,700 calories per day.
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John Doe-
It really depends on how overwieght you are. You may have lost 12 lbs in one week because you are doing what you are doing (most likely you have lost water weight, this always goes the fastest in the beginning), which is great...if you continue do this, you will not keep losing 12 lbs in 1 week, you will eventually level off, and perhaps get to a plateau.
Just remember if you excersize regularly, you need to eat...but for now, you seem OK.
Eventually when you get to the weight you want to be at, and you are still exercising...you may want to increase your calorie intake...since you are burning off calories excersing...
Congrats...I think you are doing great!
I too started regularly exercising 1/1/08, and I have never felt better in my life, it is good for the mind, body, soul, and spirit. There is no religious reference in that statement on my part.
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Why did you pick your avator or username?
by cognac inwell, i picked my username because that's what i saw in front of me and i like the way it sounded.
no real story behind that.
i picked my avator because that's the way i felt.
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Mine was an accident...its really call I can say.
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What Was YOUR Worst Quality As A JW?
by minimus infor me it had to be that i was trained to be judgmental.
i'm naturally a person who doesn't believe everything someone says---just because they say it's true.
still, a "good elder" is supposed to be watchful of what might "contaminate" the congregation.. so, it's time to bare your soul.
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Being afraid of my parents
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How many Witness families do you know that still shun their children?
by RULES & REGULATIONS inmy congregation had many teens that were disfellowshipped.
none of them have been back to the meetings.
they either got married or moved out of their parents home.. it saddens me that i haven't seen any of them at any family functions.
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I have not seen my dad since 1992. I did not see my mom from 1992-2000, she was DFd in 2000. I was their only child.
It is sad...you get over it to a certain extent...its bearable...its just mind boggling to understand how could a parent do that to their child...I have 3 of my own...I could never even think of doing that to them...
As for mom, we have to deal with the after effects, she missed out on 8 years of my life...hers too...she is a different person than what I remember...that is difficult to take...I posted about it the other day on another thread...
Nikki
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If Jamie is referring to Paul Carlson, I do not see how he was removed. In 1990, he was our book study conductor at our house. He did not show up with his family to conduct the book study as an elder. So, my dad took over that night. This was not like Paul. The following Sunday, he was due to give a talk at the Addison, IL hall and he did not show up with his family...he was still an active elder.
That Sundy was when my parents and others knew something was wrong. That night, my dad found the bodies of Paul & Sandy because the cop could not fit through the window.
Nikki
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Jamie, who are you referring to? Paul Carlson?
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Honestly, I loved Paul Carlson. He died in 1990 along with his wife, because his son killed them both. I thought he was such a great guy, just a big teddy bear, good hearted...and he really tried to be a good elder.
I liked him as an elder better than my dad the elder, from the "elderly" perspective.
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dont guys get disfellowshipped for hitting wives ?
by looloo init confused me that my friend was hit and abused by her dull hubby for years and was told by a elder to just put up with it as she was warned not to get involved with him as a teenager (the best way to throw two people together , usually) and she did put up with it for years and finally left him and the religion at the same time , then 8 months later was disfellowshipped for smoking (i thought you could not get disfellowshipped after being inactive for 8 months ) anyway how come hubby was not even told off for hitting his wife but as soon as she had enough and walked and smoked to cope with the stress she was straight out , i think its sexist , anyone know of a guy getting kicked out for domestic violence ?.
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Dinah-what ever happened to my parents? Well, thats a loaded question, but since you asked...I will summarize:
1983 - mom & real dad divorced, then mom remarried my step dad who adopted me since my real father gave up his rights to me
My step dad was a die hard JW-my mom then became die hard JW
he became an elder, and mom a regular pioneer...I was an only child, and my life changed very much so in 1983
Later on, the bad disipline started...I left home and the org in 1992. I have not seen my step dad since 92, and my mom and I did not see each from 92-2000. When we reunited (my mom), she was divorced from step dad. She had become a an alcholic, manic depressive. We have not had the best relationship since. In fact, when we got together the 2nd in later 2000, I did not know she had problems with alchohol, until we went to Sedona, AZ for the day, and her & I were drinking wine...it seemed to be nice...I thought she just wanted to hang out and enjoy...well she had too much, and started talking privately to my husband...and my husband informed me of what she said...she wanted me to have the same problems as her...and she basically was telling my husband this...
I confronted her on the way home to Scottsdale, she came from the back seat and started pucnhing my neck and head...my husband pulled the car over and threatened to press charges after he stopped her while we were driving. She stopped and then she passed out in the back seat. I road for 2-1/2 hours or so on the floor in the front seat because I was so afraid she was going to go balistic again...when we returned, she woke up, and did not even remember what happened. Wer have never talked about it...
Fast forward to today, my step dad was paying her alamony per month, she got a settlement of like 600K because she wanted to remarry. That was 1-1/2 years ago. She is penniless, spent it, is currently addicted to all kind of pain meds...and has moved back to Illinois just last week with my aunt and I really do not know what to do.
It is so sad to see what has become of her, it breaks my heart....I do not know this woman. I am not quialified to help her and she lies alot because she is in denial, and blames everyone for her problems...I know alot of it is because of being in the org for so long...
Anyway, she is my mother, I love her...but it feel numb.
Nikki
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dont guys get disfellowshipped for hitting wives ?
by looloo init confused me that my friend was hit and abused by her dull hubby for years and was told by a elder to just put up with it as she was warned not to get involved with him as a teenager (the best way to throw two people together , usually) and she did put up with it for years and finally left him and the religion at the same time , then 8 months later was disfellowshipped for smoking (i thought you could not get disfellowshipped after being inactive for 8 months ) anyway how come hubby was not even told off for hitting his wife but as soon as she had enough and walked and smoked to cope with the stress she was straight out , i think its sexist , anyone know of a guy getting kicked out for domestic violence ?.
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Well, in 1983 when I was 9, my mom finally was able to get divorced from my dad because she had PROOF he commited adultry. But, all the years prior, he beat the crap out of her, and her and I would leave, then come back, then leave, then come back...all because the elders told her to do so, but they told her if it he tried to hurt her or myself, we should leave...but then they said go back...
By the time I was in 4th grade, I think I had already gone to 5 different schools because of them getting separated, then getting back together...
Nikki