Posts by ajsmama

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new too

by RaceBannon in

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i am one confused dude and need serious therapy.

leaving is very tough.

my family are in a life and death race to save me before "the end".

ajsmama

Hello RaceBannon!! I was never a jw, but made the mistake of getting engaged to one.

When his family found out he had a worldly girlfriend, he was called to meet with the elders, and was disfellowshiped.

I could Never understand why he would let these fools not only judge him, but to judge our relationship as well. It led to alot of problems and me with the feeling that he thought that we were something to be ashamed of.

If I were you I would never do that to her, or to yourself. You should never have the feeling of having to answer for choosing to lead your life the way you wish!!!!

All the best, Christine

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What's Your Favorite Brand of Beer?

by tfsm in

i know this is slightly off-topic but i find alot of the discussion here somewhat depressing and most of it is far too cerebral for me.

i (obviously) live in america and i'm a big fan of beer.

light, dark, lager, ale, whatever.

ajsmama

Im from the midwest too, only the good part, Chicago! And I bartend as well, so I know my brews. We have an excellent ale thats brewed only about 2 miles from dowmtown, its called Goose Island Honkers Ale. Its one of my favs and shouldnt be that hard to get. Oh also if you like that try goose 312 as well. Cheers!!

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my sons wonderfull heart

by ajsmama in

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so last night i was crying in my room so bad that my 5 year old heard me, even though i was trying to be quiet.

he then started looking around the house for something shaped like a heart.

he found a little heart shaped pendant and started rubbing it on his chest, then he started rubbing it on mine.

ajsmama

So last night I was crying in my room so bad that my 5 year old heard me, even though I was trying to be quiet. He then started looking around the house for something shaped like a heart. He found a little heart shaped pendant and started rubbing it on his chest, then he started rubbing it on mine. When I asked him what he was doing, he said "im giving you my heart momma, cuz I dont want yours to hurt anymore. I think that nobody likes heart burn"

How lucky am I !? We might have been left by some jehovah lovin fool but Im the one who gets to stay and take in my wonderful boys. Now my five year old isnt his, but my four month is. And maybe it is good that he left while he was so young, so he wont remember any of this nonsence. I just think that hes gonna make the love for my boys all the more sweeter, and the love for the next REAL man I get all the more cherished.

I really am starting to think that hes doing me more good than harm by walking out!!!!!!!!!

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Stepdaughter wants B-Day

by ajsmama in

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so yesterday my two soon to be stepkids boy12,girl 9, came over for a visit with their dad.

their mom is a dub, her dad is an elder, my man is d'fd.

anyway, i was just sitting in my room feeding the baby when girl comes in and asks if im gonna start throwing her birthday parties.

ajsmama

yes but if do that, wont I be teaching her that there is something wrong with it,when there isnt?

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Stepdaughter wants B-Day

by ajsmama in

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so yesterday my two soon to be stepkids boy12,girl 9, came over for a visit with their dad.

their mom is a dub, her dad is an elder, my man is d'fd.

anyway, i was just sitting in my room feeding the baby when girl comes in and asks if im gonna start throwing her birthday parties.

ajsmama

Hello all! So yesterday my two soon to be stepkids boy12,girl 9, came over for a visit with their dad. Their mom is a dub, her dad is an elder, my man is D'Fd.

Anyway, I was just sitting in my room feeding the baby when girl comes in and asks if im gonna start throwing her birthday parties. I said why do you ask and she said that she was just thinkin about it. Oh, keep in mind that I sent an email a couple of days before to my mans cun# of a sister because she called my newborn a mistake and kinda went off the deep end, calling her names, threatining lots of violence if she ever said anything like that again(which I meant) , and concluded with "and while you will be busy with the rest of your pathetic little existance, being miserable within your bullsh!@ religion, I, along with Mark, alex(the new baby) and the stepkids will lead normal happy lives, full of birthday parties, Christmas, friends, joy, peace, and yes perhaps even a blood transfusion or two!" I was just kinda running off at the mouth, but I think that she mighta said something to their mom.

So I asked Mark what he thought and he said to do whatever I wanted. Also keep in mind that I have a 5 year old from a previous relatoinship who these poor kids are gonna have to watch have his own birthdays, and everything else and their baby half-brother too. I cant imagine how bad that is gonna make them feel, so I jumped at the chance. I told her that if she wanted one I would throw her the best one I could. The only thing that has me concerned is the fact that the ex might get pissed at my man and cause drame that we dont need. Also I have a little guilt about doing something that is against what their mother believes, not alot but a little. Maybe I should invite her. Any opinions?

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You gotta try this!

by cruzanheart in

if you upload a photo of yourself the site will do a face comparison with celebrities' faces and tell you whom you most resemble.

kind of fun!

i resembled kate beckinsale, liza minelli and diane keaton.

ajsmama

I got Shakira, and Julia Roberts,SWEET!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Question for the guys on JWD!

by Poodles in

good morning guys, i'm a women in love with a jw who does not feel the same way about me!

we have been in this relationship for the past seven years!

i will try to make this short and to the point so as not to bore you ok!

ajsmama

Poodles, I was in a simular situation about 2 years ago with my current fiancee.

He kept our entire relatoinship secret from his family and JW friends, even though he said he wanted to marry me! I gave him an ultimatum, by our aniversary he had to sh!@ or get off the pot. Well he said, he couldnt do it and dumped me on our day.

I lost my freakin mind!! This son of a jehovah!! I gave sooo much to him, and my whole family including my SON knew about him and here he was, just able to wash his hands like I never even existed. But little did he know, he dun messed with the wrong woman!!

So the very next morning I looked up his mama. He made the mistake of telling me what suburb she lived in, and I knew the last name.

KNOCK, KNOCK- Hi my name is Christine, I have been dating and sleeping with your son for the last 2 years, he dumped me last night because he said his family would never accept me. He said it was cuz of the "religion" . What a coward you have raised!! Well just thought I would do the job for him. Peace!

You see, I was soo hurt and angry, I wanted him to feel the same way. I WANTED him to hate me, I wanted to never speak to him again, and I needed all of our time together to not have been invisible.

Plan backfired. The next day, while at work, I get the biggest bunch of flowers delivered to me that I have ever seen, with a note saying, please forgive me. I dont know why but he respected what I did.He told me he understood why , he wasnt mad, and that he would never treat me like that again. Well he got D'Fd for it and still no anger, just regret for how he handled the situation.

Flash forward, we just had our first baby 6 weeks ago, jehovah-free life is bliss, we still have BIG problems wit his family esp. recently cuz of the baby. They are assholes babe, always will be, im just able to stand my own ground better than the average person .

Point is, I guess I would have been happy either way it turned out. It would have hurt like hell to lose him, but I would have moved on. We all do. But, call me vengefull, I'de be God damned if I let myself invest that much time in a person, go through that much pain, and let them have the power to walk away unscathed. All the best and good luck,

Christine

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Bring shame to religion

by SickofLies in

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i am amazed at how many people still squabble over religious matters here.

ill admit, i was ready to da before i came to this board, through my education at university i released that evolution is not just an evil theory that satan came up with to mislead the minds of humans away from god, as the wts would have you believe, but rather it is a solid scientific theory, and without it, nothing in modern biology would make since.

think about it for a minute what if i said i am going to tell you a story about three children, all age 4, tommy is a republican, mohamed is democrat and david is a liberal.

ajsmama

I think that you can teach your child to be a good person without forcing your beliefs on them.

Im an agnostic(I think) and the father of my older son is a Catholic. We discussed before he was even born how we would handle religon. He was not to be baptised because as I told his father "I wont choose his wife, his career, or his spiritual path for him" To me those things are incredibly personal. Being pretty well rounded (he has travled the world), he agreed. His dad talks to him a little about being a catholic, but always as this is what I believe, NOT this is what is. I think you can sum up my parenting with the golden rule"do onto others....", oh and both of us teach him life is short and to find joy in little things.

Let me tell you my lil guy is amazing(not just mamma braging)He is respectful, he knows he is loved UNCONDITIONALY, he is open and loving, and even without religion he is deep"mamma, I like to listen to Enya cuz sad music makes my heart feel good"or "mamma sometimes I just dont know what to do with this life it is sooo beautiful!!!!" He is only 5!

I dont know if a child raised in a repressive religious environment could let his heart be so open.

Main point, our children are gifts NOT property, being a parent should be one of lifes most humbeling experiences, not a power play to control someone elses mind and push our own beliefs

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Another great website is out there now!

by Elsewhere in

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check out www.watchtower.cc.

yeah, i bet the "watchtower" name is gonna really piss off a few people.

this site has much of the same content as my site that was shut down, only it has even more great content!

ajsmama

It does seem that alot are just random cities, but that one with the two towers and a plane and bomb isnt just a little freaky?

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I MOVED OUT!

by airwlk149 in

ok, so i moved out on saturday.

i am not 18 for 17 more days but my mom asked me to leave early all the same.

on friday things got hairy, we had jw friends from out of town visiting, and i exploded.

ajsmama

I couldnt agree with LDH more. You have to get a job right away, this will boost your self esteem, help you meet new people, and give you a feeling of control over your life when there are sure to be times in the future when you feel you have little.

I was never a JW, but I was kicked out of the house at 17 by my mother as well. And never accepted back because at 19 I gave birth to a mixed child.

I may not be able to relate on the JW level, but let me tell you mama, you will get through this! Start making your own money and get your own little space. Fill it only with things that bring you joy. Make friends with strong women who can show you how to find yourself and your inner strength. I related to you when you said how you blew up, I did the same. (sometimes I still do) and dont feel bad, it HAD to come out of you and its better for you that it did. But no more screaming at them mama, now you fight only for you.

Take help from where you can get it, cuz your gonna need it, but dont despair, just know that you will come out of this a stronger person, a wiser person, and when all is said and done maybe even be grateful for the journey