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  How Does Having Been A Jehovah's Witness Have An Impact On Your Life?

  by minimus in

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  for me, on the positive side, having some religious training did keep me out of trouble growing up.

  now, on the other hand.....

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  I tend to feel overly guilty about everything, sometimes I even feel guilty for no reason, I just can't shake the feeling. I also think it made me more judgemental, because , as much aas they deny it, we JW are trained to judge everyone. I find myself immediately trying to fit someone into a good or bad mold.......
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  Need to help Brother

  by mama1119 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i am trying to figure out a way to help my brother get past the guilt of being a jw.

  we were raised jw, pretty much your classic jw life and childhood.

  i got df'd about 3 years ago, tried for a while to get reinstated in the meantime i did alot of research and found suprise this wasnt the truth.

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  What types of things can I start out with that wont upset him too much or shut the conversation down completely?
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  Need to help Brother

  by mama1119 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i am trying to figure out a way to help my brother get past the guilt of being a jw.

  we were raised jw, pretty much your classic jw life and childhood.

  i got df'd about 3 years ago, tried for a while to get reinstated in the meantime i did alot of research and found suprise this wasnt the truth.

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  mama1119

  I am trying to figure out a way to help my Brother get past the guilt of being a JW. We were raised JW, pretty much your classic JW life and childhood. I got DF'd about 3 years ago, tried for a while to get reinstated in the meantime I did alot of research and found SUPRISE this wasnt the truth. My parents also did a great deal of research and SUPRISE came to the same conclusion. We have not attended in over a year. My brother just kind of followed us and stopped going, although he did, out of guilt, attend memorial this year. He will not listen to what we have to say about the reasearch we have done, and even tells us we shouldnt be doing it, he tells me I need to get reinstated and I would feel alot better(I feel fine). We cant talk about it with him, we have to be very sensitive to his feelings on b-days(he wont really celebrate) or any holidays(still thinks they are all bad). He feels guillt all the time. I know he just wants to feel normal and I think he would if I could share some things with him, or maybe get him an expert in exiting cults.Im just not sure how to approach the whole thing. I know he doesnt want to be a part of it, but doesnt know how to break free. Does anyone have any advice or dealt with someone like that??????
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  Deny this! Brooklyn! I dare you

  by stevenyc in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i'm to angry right now to write a complete synopsis on the following article from the watchtower.

  it regarding child molestation and repressed memories.

  i'll put in one quote, and leave this rest for you to read at your leasure.. ps, probably worth copying this because i would be surprised if they will leave it up much longer!.

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  mama1119

  Isnt it sick that the rest of the org is okay to go along with this and nods their heads in agreement.............
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  slip of the tongue of elder

  by DannyBloem in

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  this morning the speaker was late and they had to change the wachtower study with the public talk.. the young elder introducing this, was maybe a bit nervous of this happening (although it is certainly not the first time this year), and told that the public intercourse of the wachttower study would be held first, instead of the public discourse.

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  This isnt really a slip but one time and elser was giving this really serious talk on enduring hardships and all that and a "brother" rose his hand to give an example of hardship and he said my brother has angina and that is very difficult for him" but I had never heard of that so I thought he said his brother had a vagina and I laughed so hard I had to leave......
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  Ever realize you're forgetting and like it?

  by Mysterious in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it just struck me today how much jw behavior i have forgotten as opposed to the parts that are irritatingly hard to stamp out.

  i realized how often i toast, buy meat without checking the label, swear when i drop something, research anything i want on the internet, go to metal concerts, etc.

  i think sometimes we don't think of how far we have come but only dwell on how far we have to go and we shouldn't.

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  Every once in a while I will feel like a normal person, but most stuff is still feels a litle foreign to me like singing happy b-day or doing christmas, but mostly because I have never done it and dont know what to do. I am married to a "wordly" man and he helps me though........
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  Child baptism

  by 5thGeneration in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  why does the society encourages kids to get baptized?.

  1. it becomes a bragging right for the parents.. 2. it puts too much pressure on the kids.. 3. it is unscriptural as jesus astounded the jewish leaders at 12 years old and yet did not himself get baptized until another 18 years later.

  hard to believe that some 12 year old snot in the congregation has a deeper relationship and understanding with god than jesus did!.

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  What a great way to gain control of a child at an early age!!! They can let them get baptized at age 12 or so and immediatly the child can feel the overwhelming sense of guilt every waking moment because now they are accountable to God and can be disfellowshipped for anything really. Its a great way to train there minds with guilt and shame because those make the best witnesses later on.
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  How Jehovah's Witnesses are told to treat disfellowshipped Relatives.

  by jwfacts in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in another thread it was mentioned the witnesses do not shun disfellowshipped relatives, so i thought i would copy a few articles that show the watchtower says quite definitely that they are to almost totally shun relatives, along with some examples that i know personally.

  i personally know many that have not been contacted by their parents for years;my cousin was my best friend, and for a year before my disfellowshipping week after week i spent hours with her and her child, who spent 4 months of his first year in hospital.

  on the day of my disfellowshipping i was informed that i am no longer welcome there, and i have not seen my second cousin for 6 months now.

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  When I was disfellowshipped, and pregnant, my parents refused to shun me, I was always welcome in their home and in public with them, if you can believe that!! Well, that didnt sit well with the elders, if you can imagne...they met with my parents and one of them gave an example of his brother who was disfellowshipped and he said, proudly" I have no spoken to my brother in 40 years".....isnt that sick.... He was so proud of himself, what kind of brotherly love is that??? My Dad also got counseled for sharing a bible with me at meeting because I was holding my daigher on my lap and couldnt turn to the scripture myself, and we were counseled for laughing together....none pf my family are JW's anymore, thanks guys!!!!!!
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  Things You Did When Bored To Tears!

  by serotonin_wraith in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  it's been 8 years since i had to go to a meeting so i've forgotten alot of what i did myself, but add to the list what you did if you were a child made to sit still and in silence through the meetings and assemblies.. .

  i went on amazing journeys with the power of my imagination!.

  *recite entire music albums in my head.

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  The best time was when I was breast feeding my daighter and they had this dark breast feeding room I could go into for virtually the whole meeting, my daughter could play on the floor I could take a short nap or catch up on my text messaging, no one else was breast feeding at the time so I would just chill for two hours. Plus I was DF'd so it stopped the constant staring in my direction.
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  Anyone remember the facial hair and hair length hoopla?

  by restrangled in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my now husband went through the questions for babtism but was turned down because his hair was too long and he sported a mustache.

  (lucky for him!).

  tell your story!.

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  WE were in the borg for 25 years and my Dad was counsled ENDLESS times about his hair because its curly so it looked wordly. They wouldnt let hime "reach out" He had to keep it so short he looked absoluly ridiculous. Now that he is out he has grown it out into a pony...his lifelong dream!!!!!