Posts by merfi

I'm marrying a [lapsed yet don't challenge him. lol] Catholic. I don't know if I believe in God or not. I'd like to. But I don't know.... Anyway, I've attended a few Masses and for me, it's the ritual and the very old traditions that I find fascinating. I also like the sense of community that my town's Catholics have. I've attended a Methodist and a couple Lutheran services and found them silly. Maybe silly isn't quite the word, but it just didn't taste right. As well, the Lutheran minister got up and told the congregation to boycott a movie. Not long out of JW, that totally irked me. So much for leaving Control behind.

I realize my church/religion-seeking is pretty minimal and thinking about going full-in with the Catholics might just be a lazy move..... But I feel comfortable there. And maybe a weird reason -- I want to know where and how my funeral would be if I died tomorrow. Not planning on it as I have a million other things to do, but who knows? Right now, I'm not JW, I'm not Methodist (my up-bringin's religion) and I'm not Catholic. I don't like limbo much.

I don't agree on the "do this or you're gonna buuuuurrrrn" crap in ANY religion and I know the Catholics have their own version of that. But I think the good things about it outweigh the bad and the BS.

~merfi

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Peanut butter or jelly...

by zeroday in

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ok with the continuning political debate there is only one question remaining...peanut butter or jelly ( no not both) sandwichs.... for me peanut butter with honey...and bananas....

merfi

Gross Merfi, are you pregnant?

Geezus I hope not.

*running off to check calendar*

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Peanut butter or jelly...

by zeroday in

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ok with the continuning political debate there is only one question remaining...peanut butter or jelly ( no not both) sandwichs.... for me peanut butter with honey...and bananas....

merfi

You guys gotta try peanut butter and dill pickles. mmmmmm

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What I've been up to

by merfi in

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it's been a few months since i've even logged on to here.

must be part of the healing to not *need* jwd so much.

a good thing i think, but it's still interesting to check back and see what's going on.

merfi

What a funny little world your ex is in

That is consensus in my family. lol

My ex and I were HS sweethearts, so I was his "at school only gf". I think that is where he learned to do the secret double-life so well. Must be part of Awake University curriculum. ha.

It took me til I was in my 30s to start practicing the double life and dating around. I couldn't stand myself as a hypocrite, and among other reasons, that's why I freed myself from that horrible cult.

Ahhh sweet freedom! I've found myself, have the kids on the right path and have found a real man. Erm, a *catholic* man, but that's another post.

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What I've been up to

by merfi in

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it's been a few months since i've even logged on to here.

must be part of the healing to not *need* jwd so much.

a good thing i think, but it's still interesting to check back and see what's going on.

merfi

Hey oompa --

Yeah, we totally trash the JW religion at my house. Not the *people*, though; we make the distinction there. They understand that the people are brainwashed by the cult, therefore we pity rather than condemn them, and we're actually pretty free about saying we do miss the people there (but then bring up that if they were really "friends", they'd talk with us anyway. Aha! Control! cult flag...) But the cult is fair game. When driving by the KH and seeing cars, we'll note that "they're gathered at Jonestown today" and "wonder what flavor Kool-aid they're passing?" There are serious talks, though. Now and then the kids will bring up interesting things out of their own heads that they've noticed -- usually something hypocritical or just plain stupid. My 14yo (I'm guessing this is part of a ploy to let her date) says that the JW rule of "dating only for marriage" is "stupid" because it doesn't allow you to learn what you want and don't want in a person/relationship. I do recall saying that myself, so maybe she was paying attention afterall.

My middle one is going through an atheist phase, even though I don't know if she knows exactly what that means. She is just through with religious control of any type, as is my oldest. It's been interesting with the middle one -- when she gets on her soapbox, as much as a 12yo can, about "those Christians" and "that Bible", I tell her she's acting like the JW when they pooh-pooh other religions. Makes her think. And thinking has been a great bonus out of all this cult-leaving. It's been wonderful to watch the kids discover and learn without the WTS and creepy elders breathing on their necks. Many times they've said with a smile "we wouldn't get to do this if we were still going to meetings..."

They still go to the occasional meeting when they go to their dad's, but currently he's DF so they don't do anything social, obviously. He isn't trying terribly hard to get back in, as they haven't been to a Sunday meeting with him in months and he didn't even know about a SAD a couple weeks ago. His parents are diehards and now and then pick at the kids a little bit about things. The kids are in tune enough to the robotic JW-speak, so it goes in one ear and out the other. They know "it's what they've been told to say", so they see right through it. The ex has a GF (I think this is why he's DFd, but I don't ask. Cuz I don't give a shit.) whom he is trying to convert.... Stupid girl is falling for it, no doubt for him (like I did. I was an idiot. No longer.). What irks me the most is that he (ex) expects her to convert when he's such a hypocrite... This has also sparked conversations among the kids and myself.

So yeah, the kids are doing wonderful after our exodus from the Darkness.

~merfi