I second that -- both!
Posts by merfi
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10Guys, which one do you choose for your girlfriend on Christmas?
by edward612 in.
red roses or leonidas belgian chocolates.
choose....
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An elder's wife added me to Facebook and msn.
by merfi ini da'd in feb 06. hadn't heard a word from any jw since then.. about a month or 3 weeks ago, i emailed an elder to ask if my 15yo was still on whatever publisher list it is now.
when i left, she had just been announced (i think) an unbaptized pub.
so i was curious about her 'status'.
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merfi
Thanks!
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An elder's wife added me to Facebook and msn.
by merfi ini da'd in feb 06. hadn't heard a word from any jw since then.. about a month or 3 weeks ago, i emailed an elder to ask if my 15yo was still on whatever publisher list it is now.
when i left, she had just been announced (i think) an unbaptized pub.
so i was curious about her 'status'.
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merfi
It is me :) I was married this summer.
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An elder's wife added me to Facebook and msn.
by merfi ini da'd in feb 06. hadn't heard a word from any jw since then.. about a month or 3 weeks ago, i emailed an elder to ask if my 15yo was still on whatever publisher list it is now.
when i left, she had just been announced (i think) an unbaptized pub.
so i was curious about her 'status'.
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merfi
That would be good and bad both, huh?
I dunno. I emailed her.... sort of a "goodbye again" thing. Not that I expect it to do anything more than let her know that my heart is still open.... even if hers has been told to close.
~merfi
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An elder's wife added me to Facebook and msn.
by merfi ini da'd in feb 06. hadn't heard a word from any jw since then.. about a month or 3 weeks ago, i emailed an elder to ask if my 15yo was still on whatever publisher list it is now.
when i left, she had just been announced (i think) an unbaptized pub.
so i was curious about her 'status'.
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merfi
Hill -- I'm a chick. I'm the one in the white dress over there.... But thanks. lol
Well I guess *that* was short-lived. All of a sudden today, she took me off her FB and her msn. Her msn 'profile' stuff is either set to private or just gone. She also deleted a once-JW niece from her FB. I smell elder-meddling done by her husband. Stupid, this freaking cold-hearted cult that takes away friends. I know in my heart of hearts, it's bugging her as much as it is me. Hopefully she'll recognize it as the unnatural thing that it is. One of the things she had told me in our few days of contact was that she had thought about leaving... but was going to hold out for a change in the cong (they have a controlling dick of a PO or whatever it is these days) or move to a different one. The doubts are hopefully there, and seeing that I haven't sprouted fangs or scales but am actually normal and soooo happy "out" will perhaps one day add together and she'll make a run for it.
I'm kinda sad. Oh well.
~merfi
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An elder's wife added me to Facebook and msn.
by merfi ini da'd in feb 06. hadn't heard a word from any jw since then.. about a month or 3 weeks ago, i emailed an elder to ask if my 15yo was still on whatever publisher list it is now.
when i left, she had just been announced (i think) an unbaptized pub.
so i was curious about her 'status'.
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merfi
I DA'd in Feb 06. Hadn't heard a word from any JW since then.
About a month or 3 weeks ago, I emailed an elder to ask if my 15yo was still on whatever publisher list it is now. When I left, she had just been announced (I think) an unbaptized pub. So I was curious about her 'status'. Plus I was all ready to spew a little pent-up venom if he replied that she was indeedy still a UP. The wife replied back to me that she passed on the email to her elder husband. Then wrote a small paragraph about how she'd seen my other daughter at the park and had told her that she had her mom's laugh and smile. My daughter was like "huh?" and thought for some reason the elder's wife was making fun of her (she's 12. a little insecure. typical 12yo girl ) The elder's wife had found all this amusing and thought maybe I would, too. (I did). She also included her hotmail addy "to pass on to the girls". I emailed her back -- thanks for the story, that I am happy and here are some links to wedding pictures... Just to see what would happen, I added her to my msn. She added me back.... I found her on Facebook and added her. She added me back. I about fell over.
Before adding her to FB, I'd seen her at the store. About 4 aisles down, we saw one another and she had the BIGGEST smile. For me. No shun 'n' run. A smile.
A few days later, in my msn byline (that personalized Away status thing) I put "thanks for the smile at walmart". She put on HER byline "wish I could do more than just smile. I miss you" I changed mine to "I miss you too". So we have this entire conversation (one that can't be recorded in History, mind you. lol) via bylines. She asked why I left. I told her that I couldn't breathe, couldn't be myself, was never good enough, and that one of the elders (I didn't say her husband ALSO) finally broke me into pieces - so I picked them up and ran. I did get the requisite "jehovah forgives, blah blah, before it's too late" which I ignored.
I sent her a 'poster' on FB. She sent me a vid link of some funny puppy. So it's OUT THERE that we're in contact. This morning, she messaged me on msn. It was sort of business-like, asking if I'd taken the kids to meet their dad this weekend or stayed home b/c of weather. Some girl in the cong was being told to "just drive slow" to get her kid in Omaha despite the blizzard warning. So she was just inquiring as to my opinion on that.
Tonight, she messaged me again, but it was to send a funny wink. And the next 1/2 hour or so was like a normal, chatty IM conversation. Concluded with a TTFN.
I don't have any desire to "get her out", I'm past the bitter crap (I think, until I come face to face with the elder that cut me down again and again. And then, it might be only to say "thank you, you were my ticket out" Oh, wait. I already did that in last year's Christmas card to him. nvm...). I'm just enjoying talking to the human side of a JW that I for many years did consider a friend.
So.weird. that I had to share. If I analyze it, I'll drive myself nutters as it just isn't normal for an Elder's Wife to smile at, add to FB and msn and IM with DAd birdfodder... I'll just take it for what it's worth and enjoy it.
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Crisis of Conscience and In Search of Christian Freedom --
by merfi inyours for the taking.. it took some craptastic elders treating me like dirt and reading through coc to make my exit.
i no longer need or want these two books around, so am making them available to someone who would like them.
coc is fourth edition.
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merfi
Why not donate them to the local Library?
excellent idea. I'll do this.
~merfi
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Crisis of Conscience and In Search of Christian Freedom --
by merfi inyours for the taking.. it took some craptastic elders treating me like dirt and reading through coc to make my exit.
i no longer need or want these two books around, so am making them available to someone who would like them.
coc is fourth edition.
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merfi
Yours for the taking.
It took some craptastic elders treating me like dirt and reading through COC to make my exit. I no longer need or want these two books around, so am making them available to someone who would like them.
COC is fourth edition. ISOCF is 2002 edition.
I'm asking $15 for each, $25 for both.
PM me if interested.
~merfi
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merfi
No relation to me, btw.
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Iowa shout-out
by merfi inanyone?.
just seeing if anyone from my fair state has escaped the cult and is here.
i'm always hoping.
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merfi
Hey there southern neighbor! We were just in your state in May visiting relatives ("Marge-aritaville" We love aunt Margie....). Loooove your Lake of the Ozarks.
~merfi