Posts by jwcol

A girl I know left her husband and was going to divorce him. He was very abusive. Before the divorce was final, she got involved with someone relatively unexpectedly and got involved in a matter that she went to the elders about. She had such an empty marriage and abusive marriage that she fell into it. Anyway, when she went to the elders, they publicly reproved her, but told her that she had to tell her husband what happened and she had to do it before he signed the divorce papers. If he signed the paperwork, he would be "stating" that he didn't forgive her and she would be scripturally free. He didn't realize that. She told him, and later, at the hearing, he signed the divorce papers. Then he talked to his elders and they told him what he had done. He has now been calling her telling her he DOES forgive her and she has to come back to him. But now, she's scripturally free and so is he since they are now divorced. He just wants her back so she can support him...he didn't work a day in the 10 years they were married...lazy, alcoholic, abusive jerk.

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Im IMPOTENT a new way to beat the system

by Afrancis in

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a quick example i would like to share with you guys to show the way the elders are carrying on today.

my father a ministeral servant, had an affair with another woman, and is still with this other woman.

(shes not a jw, but a so called "bible study") he lives with her and when consulted by the elders and asked "are you having pre marital relations woth this woman" his reply is "i cant im impotent!

jwcol

Absolutely unbelievable...I'm dumbfounded.

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CELEBRATION time for me... just got my semester grades back...

by FreedomFrog in

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for my it class i passed with a 99% yay!!!!!!!!

and for my com class i passed with a 96%.

i don't know if you remember or not, but way back when (about 9 weeks ago) i came to all of you asking what you thought of human euthanasia.

jwcol

Awesome, congrats!

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Anyone else ever gone through feelings such as these?

by WildHorses in

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last sunday was the first time i went through this but it has since happened a few more times.

when i woke up last sunday morning, i had this feeling that i was going to die.

i don't know why i felt this way but i couldn't shake the feeling of dread.

jwcol

Just to clarify, you aren't feeling suicidal. You have feelings that you will die though and it scares you....

St. John's Wort is mild. It promotes a general positive mood but probably won't touch what you are dealing with. I've dealt with severe depression for years and I'm getting better. I've been on several different combinations of medication. See your doctor and be prepared, this might be something that you wrestle with for awhile. Is it possible you are going through some of the symptoms of menopause? You seem too young for that though....

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Was you ever an attendent or had an attendent in the family?

by jayhawk1 in

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i got to thinking about the conventions and such today.

here is a guy... always a guy who is in charge of a section of seating.

his job is to get up every so often and count people.

jwcol

Once I was able to be an attendant, it felt good to be "used". But I never viewed it as me being better than anyone. However, a lot of the guys I served with did.

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Jehovah's Witnesses, Child Abuse and Love

by Big Tex in

in reading thirdwitness of late, i am reminded now how painful it was to deal with that level of cold, harsh denial.

for those innocents hurt by this strange, mean little sect i submit ...

october 8, 1993 awake: tragically, adult society often unwittingly collaborates with child abusers.

jwcol

I was never sexually abused, but I was savagely physically abused by my step father, as was my brother. We found out later my younger sister was molested by him from the age of 2. He threatened her that he would kill all of us if she said anything. She was abused from the ages of 2 to about 9. I was between the ages of 4 and 11 during this time. He was extremely violent and we were scared to death of him. He was careful to never hit our faces so nobody would know. He was so charismatic, nobody would believe that he was capable of what he was doing. Sadly, because we were raised in this environment, we thought we deserved the treatment. My mother should have left sooner, but back then, you didn't leave your mate, no matter what. She went to the elders many times, but all they did was call her a liar. Finally, she brought my brother and I in before the elders and showed them the severe bruises that were always had. She wanted permission to separate, that's all she wanted. She didn't want to be reproved or disfellowshipped for separating from him. They all called us liars and were disgusted with us and how we could make such false accusations against such a wonderful brother as my step father. I told them I would never speak to an elder again....I was 10 years old.

Even at that young age, we could see my mother was losing it. She was plotting to kill him. She didn't feel we could safely get away, and the only way would be for him to die. My brother and I convinced her that we could leave and get away safely. We waited for our chance. He had to take a trip to NY. During that two weeks, we moved everything out. A single sister let the 4 of us come stay with her in her house. Then we stayed with a woman she worked with. We lived in constant fear for the next few years, always looking behind us, waiting for this monster to find us. The elders treated all of us like we were disfellowshipped. That was over 20 years ago, and a couple of the brothers that were on that body STILL shun her.

About 10 years ago, my sister admitted that she had been molested by that step dad and the one after that one. My mother went to an elder in his hall to let them know, in accord with an article that came out about that. The elder said "why are you burdening me with this??"

Where is he now? He's in my district, in good standing. I can only hope the brothers in his hall keep an eye on him and protect the young ones that are there.

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Recommend a GOOD film - no snakes, planes or spandex superheroes.

by nicolaou in

it's been out a while and i know it's already been commented on here but i really enjoyed the village.

the creation of fear and the control that it allows must surely strike a chord.. recently i saw christian bale in the machinist.

bloody awesome!

jwcol

One of my favorites is "Primer".

It was shot for less than $7000 and is definitely a thinking persons movie. There is usually one copy on the shelf at Blockbuster.

It's about two guys that invent a time machine in their garage and the unknown implications with using it.....

You'll have to watch it at least 3 times to get what is happening, and then look up some forums online to piece it together.

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Wanting a new computer, and a new OS

by Nosferatu in

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i'm still running win95, and it has been good to me for the past 8 years or so.

unfortunately, it seems that win95 is officially becoming obsolete, especially with browsing the internet.

some websites require ie6 or newer, and win95 can't run it.. so, i'm thinking about getting a new computer, or even a used one that isn't too far behind the times.

jwcol

Great topic!

I'm a Linux Administrator and there is no doubt, for servers, I would run Linux any day of the week. There is no comparison between the stability of Linux and Windows. We use SLES9 and the footprint of Linux systems in our data center continues to grow. I've noticed this year when sourcing software, most vendors have a Linux solution, so it makes it easy. The licensing alone saves a bundle when compared with access licenses to Microsoft OSes.

I've been running Linux at home for about 5 years. I wouldn't say I'm hard core, but I'm fairly knowledgeable. I've tried every distribution out there on all different kinds of hardware. I run Suse 10.1 on my work laptop because we run SLES9 on the servers. It's just easier to stay somewhat consistent. I can do pretty much everything on my laptop I need to. There are some limitations and it definitely isn't as easy to get things going like on a Windows system. I'm probably going to load SLES10 on my laptop just to be consistent, but I've been tempted to blow it away and try running Ubuntu for awhile. Suse really has problems with patch updates.

Simon, I think you are absolutely right. Linux was supposed to "take over the world" including the desktop years ago. The problem is caused by what makes Linux so great...free software. All these people maintain bits of software that are congealed into an operating system. Dependencies and patches can be a nightmare to solve for the casual user. In that way, the gap between Linux and Windows is widening. For the corporate desktop, switching to Linux is realistic. The first step at our company to make the change is switching 4000 desktops from Office to OpenOffice, which is in progress and is going well. It's going to save us a ton of money.

I almost bought an Intel Mac last year when I bought my laptop, but I backed out at the last second. There didn't seem to be a viable GPS program at the time and I needed my laptop for that.

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IF YOU COULD GO BACK IN TIME WOULD YOU MARRY YOUR SPOUSE?

by Dansk in

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i've been thinking a lot about this lately and i would unhesitatingly say 'yes!'.

we've had our ups and downs - almost always my fault .

my god, how our upbringing can affect us!

jwcol

No.

Well, I've been divorced for 8 months, so I don't know if this counts, but I was married for 14 years.