Life continues to be a learning experience. I have been through (extended) family ructions over the past month or so through people deliberately miscommunicating - taking the approach in an argument "I'll see you and raise you" without worrying too much about the consequences or the truth of what is said. While trying to sort out the combatants (all adult, youngest 40, oldest 75) I realised that this "see you and raise you" had happened in my own relationship.
Maybe I'm a slow learner, but I have learnt something that now helps me understand more about my wife and how to react in an argument.
Don't know if this makes particualr sense, as I have left out a lot of the details.
Sparkplug, hope you can get some sleep - steriods are a bastard when it comes to side effects - I have experienced many sleepless nights from Mrs HAL on steroids - can't help you with medication as the more medicines you take the more problems you seem to get. But massage seems to be a help.....
h9k