Please help,need some advice. My daughter married a JW last april without telling us. I suspect she thought we wouldn't approve. But we've had to accept it and make the best of it. Since then they've moved to colorado, she says due to his schooling and work opportunities. But I think he wanted to be closer to his brothers. When they were dating she said he wasn't a practicing JW, but now she tells me he is going to meetings again and was recently baptized. She's admitted to a couple of meetings but always tells me she is not going to become a JW. She is now pregnant. We recently visited them in colorado and met his brothers and wives, who seem very nice. But since our return I've found that most of my daughter's friends are JWs. We spoke on the phone about it and again she said she wasn't going to be a JW. I'm worried because, although she says this, she is defending some of their practices ( regarding holidays). She was raised Catholic and is the original material girl. She's not a practicing Catholic, but then she's never been one to go to church since she was in high school. I find it ironic that she would even bother to attend any meetings. I actually like my son in law, but I know he had a troubled childhood and I believe he is being manipulated by family to start practicing again. She tells me no one pressures her to do anything, but I don't think she's strong enough to give an opposing opinion about birthdays and holidays. She and he recently came home for christmas like it was normal. Now she'll be coming home in a couple months for a baby shower that I will be giving her. I don't want to be estranged from my daughter in the future, since I won't be seeing her much anyway if she doesn't move back to PA. But I feel I have to voice my opinions and remind her of her childhood memories and how wonderful her birthdays and holidays were. The more I read on this website the more upset I get. I told her the other day that JWs are not Christians but a cult run by a few men who make the rules. She said I was wrong. She also, out of the clear blue doesn't want any stork decorations at the baby shower. Please tell me that's not pagan also. Do I just continue to let her dictate these new requests, do I try to keep reasoning with her or what? I really think she's conflicted with everything and I don't want his family putting her over the edge. Is there any hope? Any one with similar situation? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you