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  Dating and JWs

  by Delite2k in

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  i suggested casual dating to my "friend" instead of just breaking up and thats it, he says he dosen't do that.

  i don't want things to change between us.

  the kissing, hugging, sex... i said to him that we did those things before we were serious.

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  SYN: yeah he's a JW. This is the same guy i've been having issues with in past posts. He says for now he likes me as a friend, nothing more (because he dosen't have the time) I can't put my feelings aside in a snap. When I see him, I want to hold him and kiss him..etc. Just because of our situation at hand, I haven't stopped liking him and wanting him, but it seems he don't feel the same. He says friends don't kiss. I told him there are friends who are 'close' because they like each other and enjoy each other's company, without being serious. Am I right or wrong?
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  Dating and JWs

  by Delite2k in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i suggested casual dating to my "friend" instead of just breaking up and thats it, he says he dosen't do that.

  i don't want things to change between us.

  the kissing, hugging, sex... i said to him that we did those things before we were serious.

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  I suggested Casual Dating to my "friend" instead of just breaking up and thats it, he says he dosen't do that. I don't want things to change between us. the kissing, hugging, sex... I said to him that we did those things before we were serious. He tells me 'but it was leading to a relatonship.' So you mean to tell me that he dosen't "want me" anymore? Whats wrong with Casual Dating?
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  I can't believe this!!!!!!!

  by Delite2k in

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  i am so upset i don't know where to begin!

  i met this guy back in dec. at my job, during the first week i started.

  (i had a post in the past about my dating him, he's a jw) everything was going cool, except for the fact that: 1) he had a second job as a producer/dj and 2) he didn't have a car, he had to borrow his parents car.

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  Thanks to those who replied.

  I am trying to get him out of my system and let go of him, but its hard. So hard. I feel like such a fool and i'm so embarrassed by the way i've been acting at work, I just can't pretend. he can walk around like nothing is bothering him, laugh and smile, while i'm left out in the cold.
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  I can't believe this!!!!!!!

  by Delite2k in

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  i am so upset i don't know where to begin!

  i met this guy back in dec. at my job, during the first week i started.

  (i had a post in the past about my dating him, he's a jw) everything was going cool, except for the fact that: 1) he had a second job as a producer/dj and 2) he didn't have a car, he had to borrow his parents car.

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  Why did he choose me? he knew about my past relationships and how I couldn't take being hurt again. I've tried talking to him, but he says all I want to talk about is us and he tries to avoid the subject. How can I get him to listen to me and hear me out? I just want to talk to him one last time, to get closure. Or am I asking for too much?
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  I can't believe this!!!!!!!

  by Delite2k in

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  i am so upset i don't know where to begin!

  i met this guy back in dec. at my job, during the first week i started.

  (i had a post in the past about my dating him, he's a jw) everything was going cool, except for the fact that: 1) he had a second job as a producer/dj and 2) he didn't have a car, he had to borrow his parents car.

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  I am so upset I don't know where to begin! I met this guy back in Dec. at my job, during the first week I started. (I had a post in the past about my dating him, he's a JW) Everything was going cool, except for the fact that: 1) he had a second job as a Producer/DJ and 2) he didn't have a car, he had to borrow his parents car. but it was ok as long as we were together. We got along from the start. We could talk about everything, he made me laugh all the time, at work we would take break or lunch together, he would call everynight, etc. I started to fall in love with him, but I didn't want to tell him to early, I wanted to wait til at least 5 months to say the "L" word.

  He made many promises to me and since I trusted him, I believed him. He promised that as soon as he gets his own car, we'll get to do more things together. He told me how much he cared for me and the main thing was that he promised that he would not do anything to hurt me. Sometime in May, he finally got his own car. At one time all he could talk about (besides his love for music) was getting a car. And I was so happy for him, hell I was excited. He took me to the dealership to show me which one he was getting and everything. All of the sudden after about a week. He tells me that we should be "just friends", because now he has a ride, he's going to be in the studio more and take on more DJ gigs. So he's not gonna have time for me. Oh but he does tell me that its not that he dosen't want to be with me, cause he do, or that he dosen't care for me cause he do, its just he's going to be busy.

  We were on the phone when he told me this, (He couldn't face me like a man) so I just burst into tears. It felt like a kick to the chest. But then he made more promises. He says he'll still call everynight and if he does get some available time he'll let me know, so we can plan something. Now its been about two months and i've tried to pretend i'm ok, but I still cry about it. at work I try to ignore him, but he comes to me and says hello or ask why i'm not talking to him. One time he asked me, and I quote, "How do you think I feel when you won't talk to me or when I say 'hi' you don't answer back?" then he called me shady for being that way! I told him I can't be friends with him because i have deep feelings for him. He dosen't understand why we can't be friends. He tells me that he dosen't want me out of his life, that he don't want to say goodbye. How is that?!!

  By the way the phone calls have stopped over 3 weeks ago, and I admit i've asked a few times if he will be available yet so we can go out. Now he's too busy to pick up a phone. I just see him at work and thats it. What happpened reciently that really has me so hurt was when I asked him what he did this past weeekend and he told me he went to the movies, to the baseball game and bowling. Call me crazy but didn't he say that when he had available time he would let me know? So I figure he dosen't care about me, dosen't want to be with me and i'm starting tothink the time we spent together was just to fill in the void since he couldn't do his producing too much. I've been so depressed. At work I walk around like a zombie, I don't function right, I cry. Again he comes up to me and ask me why am I so sad. WHAT?!!! How could he?! I used to be the one at work always smiling, joking around, but he's taken away my happiness.

  In closing I would like to know, How could someone who claims to be a servant of God do this to me? How could he talk about the bible or witness to people with a straight face knowing he's hurt someone that he says he care about? Is this what they teach in the Kingdom Hall, to be decietful?! To hurt people?! But he still wants me in his life. What did I do to him? Why do men have to be like this?

  Sorry its so long!!!!
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  HELP-I'M ADDICTED!!

  by Perfection Seeker in

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  i just found this website on june 23- and haven't done anything else since!

  i am spending 25 (lol) hours a day on this site!

  i can't leave.

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  **WHEW!!** I see i'm not the only one who's addicted to this site. the info is so interesting, I keep coming back.
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  Hey.....

  by Delite2k in

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  there's a wts conference in san francisco going on (i'm in oakland) and i haven't heard from my "friend" (i know, i know, i tried to get him out of my system, but its hard) since thurs.

  i called to day and finally he answered, i asked him why he hasen't called and what has he been doing and he said he had "something" to do.

  he dosen't know that i know where he is.

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  There's a WTS Conference in San Francisco going on (i'm in Oakland) and I haven't heard from my "friend" (I know, I know, I tried to get him out of my system, but its hard) since Thurs. I called to day and finally he answered, I asked him why he hasen't called and what has he been doing and he said he had "something" to do. He dosen't know that I know where he is. When I asked him where was he then he said San Francisco. (I called him over an hour ago, about 645pm PST) The conference is 9a-5p. What goes on at these conferences that last 7 hours, Fri-Sun, for the next 2 months? and why he couldn't just say what he's doing?

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  I've been doing some research on the JW (still) and i came across this:

  "Interfaith Marriage
  Marriage mates with different religions are encouraged to treat each other with tolerance and respect. Children should be given the opportunity to learn about the religious views of both parents.—1 Corinthians 7:12-14."

  This was found at this site:
  http://www.jw-media.org

  Is this true? If it is, then why is it so wrong for a JW to fall in love with someone thats not of that religion?
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  Help! I have fallen in love with a Witness

  by itsalingthing in

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  2. relationships

  i recently started dating my neighbor.

  a couple of nights into the late night talks, he told me the reason he hasn't dated in awhile is beacuse he is a witness.

  i was surprised, but okay with it.

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  First of all, i'm also in love (deeply) with a witness as well, so i'm in a similar, situation except, he hasn't told me that he can't be with me or that he feels guilty, etc. And we do a lot of things together...A Lot But I can say this, never change your lifestyle for a man. Would he do it for you? (Would any man?) Would he leave the JW to be with you? Honestly, ask yourself that question. My friend, he knows i'm Baptist and I love him so much but i'm not going nowhere. See,I didn't really know bout the JW's until found this board and by doing some research on my own to try to understand his beliefs and the JW, period. If you want to be come a witness, do it because YOU want to, not to be with him, cause to my understanding there's a lot of rules and things, your business becomes their business, your life, your beliefs will change. If my "friend" ever ask me to convert, I don't know what i'll say, or do....But think for a moment, is this what you want for yourself? Would you really be happy if you became a JW to be with him?

  BTW...Your didn't mention the he was willing to do what he can to be with you...is he?
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  This guy never got called on by JWs

  by ballistic in

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  LOL!!!!!!!! I remember that scene!!!!!!! There's pics online withe men that has big "sacs" like that.
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  What should I do??? Help!!

  by Delite2k in

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  2. relationships

  i'm a non-jw dating a jw male ( for three months now) and he treats me like a woman should be treated.

  he's the best i've ever been with...ya know what i mean?

  !......we have sex when and where we can (receintly at the job

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  I wonder why did he choose a non-JW over a JW.....Especially when he knows he's really not suppose to, but why?