for me it was the memorial of 2004, I remember my daughter who was age 18 at the time leaned over and told me that it was a weird feeling to know that this would be the last memorial she ever attended and that she was never going to attend another KH in her life. I agreed with her and we have never stepped foot in another KH since then. She even worked memorial night this year, we never even gave it much thought, I even kept forgetting that it was comming up.
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YOUR LAST MEETING.........................
by vitty in........................at my last meeting, the elder was talking about 1975 and said "it never happened, it is appostates using a time when (some) brothers took the info in the wt wrong"...................i just blinked and finally woke up.. i had been on this site lurking for a couple of weeks, and realized thing werent right, but to have some creep say on the platform " it didnt happen"............when this ruined my and my siblings childhood, just made me snap.
on the way home, i told my hubby "that was the last meeting im going to"................boy was he pleased.. .
so if you didnt get df ......................what happened at your last meeting.?.
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Would you still be a JW
by purplebunnyfoofoo in.
would you still be a jw if you had not been disfellowshipped?
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foundfreedom
I just left and never went back, I will never return and will never attend another memorial or assembly. My kids and I wernt treated right back then and I refuse to subject my son to the ways of the JW's. I was raised a JW and tried raising my daughter in it but finally gave up trying to strive for something that wasnt attainable. She was misserable and I decided that I wouldnt subject my son that kind of lifestyle, now he's a really happy 11yr old that has a great future ahead of him!! He will be able to be a normal boy.
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What if they're right?
by LovesDubs indid that mentality keep you in fear and prevent you from leaving?
how many times were we told that the kingdom halls would be our ark and that we needed to keep going to the meetings so that we wouldnt miss the announcement that the great tribulation was beginning and the doors of the ark were closing...even though the bible says nobody knows the day or the hour?
did any of you ever pray for your relatives to die so they would have a ressurection and not be destroyed at armageddon?
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I just want to pull my hair out! Here I am sitting in my bedroom off of the living room and my JW mother in law is going on and on talking to my inactive JW husband saying that so many people have heard the Truth (gag me!) and how they have had the chance now to become JW's with the warning that has been given out in service that they wont be able to save themselves now that they have had the warning and havent taken action! and its funny that she's saying this to my husband who has been raised a JW and has been inactive for at least 24yrs! so I guess she is telling him that he's going to die also! it all makes me sick to my stomach listening to her (she's 74) last night she was telling him how awful she was treated years ago in the KH by some of the so called brothers and sisters and how she would go home crying from service! and here she still sits and defends them and the message they are preaching! Just blow's my mind that she cant see its all for nothing. I am happy that we here have seen the lies and have gotten out of it all!!
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How Many X-JWs Do You Know Who Don't Come on These Forums?
by Seeker4 ini was thinking about inviting a friend over for drinks this weeked.
he's a former witness like myself who no longer has any belief that the witnesses had the truth or anything close to the truth.. as i thought about that, i realized, just from my own former congregation, i know at least a couple dozen x-jws who left completely, and see the witnesses as no better than any other religion and lots worse than most.
yet none of these folks are at all involved in sites like jwd or any of the other anti-witness sites.
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I have found that so many still have the fear of reading apostate stuff, including sites like this one even though they have been away for quite some time. My husband isnt interested in being a witness anymore and has been inactive for years but he is really afraid and hates it that I am on this and other sites. I also bought the book Crises of Consiance (sorry misspelled) and he had a fit over it the other day. I just laughed and told him that he just couldnt stand to know the real truth about the organization. I just go on my merry way and do what I want and hope someday he will get rid of his fears, you see his mom and brothers family along with my dad are active JW's and he's afraid of them finding out and being shund. Some day he will come around and will stop being scared.
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Little things that mean alot
by beautifulisfree inokay i hate to sound mean but witnesses in my opinion are mean and rude (that once included me) without even realizing it, maybe.
because the little things that non-witnesses do in everyday life for others and their family mean alot to ones they love or complete strangers.. what are some little things you can do know that show someone you care..that you weren't allowed to do before?.
1. saying "bless you" after someone sneezes
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Just being there for my friends that need some comfort. Being one of JW's I never had any worldly friends now that I am out and have some really good and dear friends that have shown true love for me and I for them in times of need, its one of the greatest feelings ever!
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NYC News last night
by aarque ini was half dozed last night while watching the 11pm news out of nyc.
newscaster did a story on a minister who was handing out nude photos of himself.
i jumped off the couch when he said the man was a jw.
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Here is a news clip of it from Chicago go to: www.yousendit.com/transfer.php?action=download&ufid=b40c0f05297c699b if the zeros after the c and f dont work then use o's instead I just saw this and though that I would share it with you. I have heard from my husband that he use to have a friend that served at Bethel and he had lots of stories about homo stuff going on there along with other sexual behavior so it doesnt shock me that something like this has happened.
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Summer Solstice - 2006
by diamondblue1974 infor as long as i can remember and certainly more so since my exit i have always felt the need to visit stonehenge.
even more so tonight which some already know is the longest night and the pagan celebration of summer solstice.
well tonight i will be there, i will be sure to get some photos and try to post em too.
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foundfreedom
Good for you!! wish I was going also hope you have a great and spiritual time.
pam
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How I discovered the true face of the Governing Body!
by Khufu ini live in brussels, belgium.
i became a witness at the age of 18. my parents were not quite happy.
my father forbade me to attend more than one meeting a week.
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foundfreedom
Welcome to the board, interesting story. I hope that you find the happiness that you are looking for.
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Why are EX-JW's and JW's in doubt(faders) so ''afraid" of the elders?
by booker-t ini have been out for years now but i still tremble alittle when i run into an elder at the store or run into an elder on the street and my post question certainly applies to me as well but why do i still have fear of jw's elders?
i have been da'd for so many years but that fear still comes up.
and reading alot of the post here i still see ex-jw's and jw's faders living a pretended jw life or pretending to be happy when they are miserable in the wt.
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I am not afraid but dont like having anything to do with them. I just found out that a elder that sat in on several elders meetings that I had with them a year and a half ago dealing with my divorce and child abuse that I suffered through with an uncle of mine which the elders here look up (they confronted him and he fessed up to it right in front of me but they said that it was too long ago and it happened before he was baptised, but they tell me with him sitting there that he could never serve as an elder again, sad thing though is that my dad who acted so upset because it was his brother can not go out and do things with him and act like nothing ever happened!!) too was moving in next door to a house that I own and am getting ready to sell!!
I about went balistic!! because my husband (divorced him and then turned around and remarried him ) was trying to talk me into staying and living in this house. I told him no way was I going to live next door to this elder ever!! you see I did some things when my husband and I were not together that would get me disfellowshiped for and my dad found these things out and as he says he went to the elders esp. this one and told him all about it. His duty he said because if he didnt then he was just as guilty as me then!! I was so mad that he did this to me and he did this to me before ever comming to me first and talking with me about it, it really hurt my dad and my relationship. This elder hasnt confronted me about this matter but I know its in the back of his mind!!
I decided a year ago never to set foot in a KH again, only listed to the memorial over my mother-in-laws speaker phone because she listens to the meetings in here home out of respect for her. I dont listen to the meetings with her and I, my husband or 2 kids have anything to do with the meetings anymore. Its like a breath of fresh air not to have to go to anymore meetings or out in that god awful field service!! Sad though I have to dig out a dress, I have to go to a funeral on Friday because a good work friends son was killed in a head on collision with a semi truck a few nights ago. And guess what! its going to be in a church and I am going and dont care what anyone thinks!! feels good to be free from the guilt that the WTS put us through all of our lives!!
pam
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Just introducing myself
by restrangled indear all,.
just wanted to say hello and tell you how much i have appreciated all your postings as a "lurker"...sorry.. short history, grew up in the 70's as a 3rd generation jw, elders daughter, dad left in the 80's, df'd at 16 and the decision was reversed after 90 days.
left when i was 18. i am now 48 and have suddenly been shunned by my mother even though i have supported her emotionally all these years never critisizing the wt, listening patiently to witnessing stories etc.
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foundfreedom
Welcome Amy nice to meet you, looking forward to your future posts.
pam