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  At what point did the WTS become overly controlling?

  by jambon1 in

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  i used to hear about good `ol days when people were happy dubs.

  people had fun, did things together and it seems by the tone of the converstaions that there was less control over every tiny detail of the brothers lives.. i remember the 1st time someone told me as an unbaptised publisher that i would eventually be 'counceled' for not wearing a suit.

  i was utterly stunned!

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  foundfreedom

  I grew up in the 70's and we had lots of fun!! we had costume parties and get togethers all the time. Us teenagers would go and play baseball on sunday afternoon's after service or go out of town to a small canyon and go horseback riding (always after service of course!!) rollerskateing and so much more.

  We even one year went every Saturday night to a different witness house all the teenagers did and we would study our watchtower for the next morning and then afterward we would visit and have snacks, good way to get to check out the other single people from other KH's.

  Those were the good old days before the WTS became like Hitler!!
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  FRESH OFF THE PRESS.... 9/1/06 WT "When a Loved One Leaves Jeh."

  by schne_belly in

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  this just in for your reading displeasure......enjoy

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  foundfreedom

  Just another reason for our loved ones still in the organization to try to bring us back, and for the organization to put us on a guilt trip for leaving.
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  Divorce for emotional abuse?

  by somebodylovesme in

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  because of a recent family situation (always a good time!

  ), i've been in a debate with a jw relative about whether the society permits divorce (without remarriage) where there is emotional abuse.

  this relative swears the literature has said that a person can leave her spouse where there is emotional abuse, but that she cannot remarry.

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  foundfreedom

  I can speak on this matter personally, it happened to me 2yrs ago. My husband was extremely emotionally abusive to me and the kids for 21yrs and I went to the elders and told them. They asked me all sorts of questions and tried to convince me to stay and I told them no I wouldnt that I had had enough and had been warning him for the past 3yrs before then that I was going to divorce him (he has been inactive for all of our married life)

  They told me that I had to tell him before the divorce was filed in the courts because if I didnt then it would make him scriptually free and I wouldnt be. So I filed late on a tuesday afternoon where they couldnt file till Wed. and I told him that tues. night.

  I then had to write a letter to the congergation with all the details about why I was leaving him, and they keep the letter on file. Since I did it their way we divorced and neither of us were scriptually free. Didnt stop me from dating though! Met some really wonderful worldly men and made some really good friends.

  I did remarry him and told him that I wouldnt even think twice about leaving him if he ever pulled the kind of sh*t again, it all made me such a stronger person and I dont take anything off of him anymore, instead of me its him that has to walk on egg shells around me so as not to tick me off where I would leave him again.

  It really did straighten him up soooo much, he knows now that he better never screw up with me again. I am truely a free woman, I tell him like it is and dont take it from anyone anymore. And as this all went on I just quite going to the meetings all together along with my kids and we havent looked back.

  He still believes and gets mad when he finds me on this web site but I tell him that he just needs to open his eyes to the real truth.

  I hope this info helps you out.
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  Making real friends

  by choosing life in

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  i have been away from the meetings for about a year now.

  i recently attended a funeral and the witnesses mostly avoided me even though i am not disfellowshipped.

  my problem is i need to replace my old friends because they look at me with such suspicion now.. i never had trouble making friends before i was a witness,but that was 30 years ago.

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  JW I know exactly how you feel, my husband doesnt go anymore to the meetings but still believes and I dont anymore and he knows it. I found that if you work its a great place to start making friends where before you felt you couldnt because they were worldly. Go out and join some kind of group be it a reading club or craft club, go back and take some classes and meet the ones there. The thing is to get out and join into something so that you dont stay at home and become lonely.
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  New guy here.

  by big red in

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  it is eye opening how much we were all blinded.

  3rd generation witness.

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  Welcome, you are among real friends now.
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  How did you............

  by lola28 in

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  find jwd?

  i found this website while i was looking for the company that you can get service stuff from, i believed it was the "truth" and was a pioneer at the time, not a pioneer anymore.

  so how did you get here and what has changed in your life since you found this place?.

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  I used google and typed in ex jws
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  Letter from Dad

  by Synergy in

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  i love you so much.

  i hope someday you'll read them so you know how i feel about you and how deep my love for you is.

  each time i invite you to my house you say you're too busy to come.

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  When I read this post I felt right off that it sounds like a letter from God and how he feels about us and wants to have a relationship with him.
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  cemetaries

  by moomanchu in

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  2. beliefs

  kingdom halls don't have cemetaries like other churches do .

  is this another mind game to make the believers think they will never die?

  are the witnesses to cheap to have a cemetary, grass cutting maintenance and such?.

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  foundfreedom

  Hey I had never thought about this, maybe its because I dont want anyone to know that their really are ghost! and an after life!! LOL
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  Distric Convention

  by lost_light06 in

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  so i went to the dc recently.

  excuse me while i puke.

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  foundfreedom

  Hey Worldly the food is only as bad as you make it, because you bring your own food, the WTS does not supply any food anymore. Always hated lugging all the food in and out of the Assemblies. Glad I dont have to do that anymore!
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  Why baptise young ones?

  by dobbie in

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  2. bible

  just had two months worth of mags shoved through my door(thank goodness i wasn't in but out with kids having fun!

  )had a flick through them but what caught my attention was the july 1st watchtower 2nd study article "youths, make it your choice to serve jehovah".

  it seems to be basically encouraging all the young ones to get baptised, and mentions one boy who was only thirteen!i was'nt born into the jws but i know that in my early teen years i would personally never have been emotionally ready for such a major commitment.

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  I was 12 when I was baptised. I kind of pushed my daughter to be when she was around 16 but then I gave up when I could see it just wasnt in her heart to do so! I am really happy that she never was and my 11yr old son will never have to go through that emotional turmoil like my daughter and I had to. I was pushed into it by my dad who was an elder at the time.