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  My ex husband makes me feel bad:(

  by Newborn in

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  for leaving him (1.5 y ago) and for being a person he doesn't recognize anymore for leaving the org.. he still has feelings for me and still grieves every day that we're not together...i know it shouldn't get to me but it does...i had no choice but to leave him...i was so miserable for so many reasons but when i hear how sad he is it makes me sad.

  (we have to have some contact coz of the apartment we lived in, unfortunately).

  i just wish he could move on but he says he can't even look at another woman.. also, of course, he had to say that jehovah still loves me and that the end is sooooooooo near, just look at haiti!.

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  Newborn, with the break up of any marriage, I'm sure there are thoughts of the original romantic and good times together etc., and then there is the "Needy Man" syndrome.

  Neediness can suck the life out of you......

  he still has feelings for me and still grieves every day that we're not together...I know it shouldn't get to me but it does...I had no choice but to leave him...I was so miserable for so many reasons but when I hear how sad he is it makes me sad. (we have to have some contact coz of the apartment we lived in, unfortunately). I just wish he could move on but he says he can't even look at another woman.

  also, of course, he had to say that Jehovah still loves me and that the end is sooooooooo near, just look at Haiti! Gee!

  Now, this sucks!!
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  ~~ is there a rule that says you have to like your teen's SO? ~~

  by chickpea in

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  ya know.... the one "rule that is not a rule" the jws.

  had that i actually thought made sense.

  was the one about not "dating" when.

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  Chickpea, I had to laugh....not at you or your current situation. I'm laughing at my own history. My sons grew up without sisters, it was a male dominant house hold. I grew up without sisters and watched my brothers make the same wrong choices.

  Yes, I have kept my mouth shut, but continued to instruct them both about behavior that suggests problems. Slowly but surely they learned, as my words of wisdom came to fruition . There was one instance where I had no tolerance. I was on my son's computer and knew the girl he was seeing at 16 was a user. She started instant messaging thinking it was my son. I told her knock it off it was his mom on line. She refused to believe it and continued with the most horrific, ugly, nasty talk.

  I promptly ripped her a new one....that was the end of the relationship....! (I paid for that for awhile, but got a "thanks mom" later)

  My oldest son, with his last two relationships, found wonderful, darling girls. The latest is the sweetest,.... and I am sorry to say, I am losing him to overseas to be with her, but he could not have chosen a better girl and I wish them the best. He met her on a train in Germany. She comes from a small town in Bavaria, strong family, capable, working on her Masters in Vienna.

  My younger son is still learning. Poor fella, he can't stand drama, and tantrums, and spoiled brats....which leaves little to choose from.

  All you can do is give hints that this or that is going to wind up being a problem without referring to the present girlfriend.....wait, sit back and squirm.

  Chickpea, just wait it out....it will turn out ok....you sound like you are a great mom, and yes, do not facilitate, or get involved unless necessary.

  r.
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  WTS Smoking in the 1940's

  by cantleave in

  1. watchtower
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  i went to meeting today.

  during the public talk it was mentioned that as far back as 1942 the society pointed out the dangers of smoking tobacco and that it wasn't appropriate for christains.

  as usual there were no references given.

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  "If a man chooses to injure himself by the use of tobacco, no one has the right to say he shall not use it, but certainly no person has the right to blow tobacco smoke into the nostrils of another person. The habit of tobacco-smoking is one of the most selfish that is exercised by human creatures; and, being selfish, it is the very opposite of love. The smoker fails to give any consideration to the rights and privileges of others about, to whom tobacco may be offensive. There is every reason against the use of tobacco; there is not one reason that supports its use. . . .

  When I was df'd it was the winter of either 74 or 75....the same night a fellow was df'd for smoking. He was furious because although it had been frowned upon, and no smoking was allowed inside the KH, they suddenly decided you could be ousted for it. He had been a life long JW and always smoked. I think they had given him 6 months to quit and he couldn't.

  Blondie, there has to be an article where they finally pulled the rug out from under smokers.

  Thanks. r.
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  What do dubs dance like?

  by highdose in

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  at weddings or partys, when the lights go down and the music gets turned up?.

  in my experiance they normaly did a slow motion walk on the spot or a kinda rigor mortis.

  i think i was a rare one as i tended to wiggle and move my body like a woman can;) .... and yes i got "spoken" to about it.... what was your experiance?.

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  Most Jw's are afraid to do the Hokey pokey dance....you should have been at my wedding in the 1970's!

  On the other hand I was informed just recently that JW's having dance parties involving Salsa....were Df'd.

  Go figure. They're all nuts.
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  Has anyone ever felt they were possessed by a demon?

  by dissed in

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  it was the "in-thing" to happen to sinners in jesus' time, being possessed.

  some could boast they had legions of demons calling their body home.. it was also a primary miracle for the top christians to perform, ridding demons away, proof you had god's spirit.

  "be gone you demon!!".

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  No, never possesed my self,but the house yes.

  We had a visiting bethelite who gave a slide show. He had my room and I had to sleep in the basement. It was not a wierd basement...our family room was just outside where I had to sleep.

  A mattress was there for me. I didn't think twice about it .... In the middle of the night I woke up to go to the bathroom. "When I laid back down the bed lifted off the ground and started spinning. I was still wide awake. I was too scared to scream. It eventually landed, and I never went back to sleep.

  I just layed there like an idiot.

  I told my parents and they were totally freaked out.

  Take it or leave it, this kind of crap happened.

  r.
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  To those who were ‘born in’

  by poopsiecakes in

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  while you were a witness, did you ever play the what if game?

  i would occasionally sit with my friends and wed bandy the ideas around...if we werent born in would we be interested if someone knocked at our door...would we want to go to college...would we be promiscuous.... it was interesting to hear the responses and i think about that now.

  one thing i always knew was that if someone knocked at my door a) chances are i wouldnt answer and b) although i would be polite, i would not have any interest whatsoever.

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  No, Never even considered it. The biggest thing we ever did was had overnights on the last day of the year and listened to the best 100 songs of the year.

  That was before and during the 1975 fiasco....sorry to say....my best friend from that time is long dead....She commited suicide.
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  what do you look like when you dance?

  by highdose in

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  i'd like to think i look relaxed and cool.

  but i'm aware that in reality i probably look like an idiot!

  haha but by then i'm normaly too drunk to care.. does anyone have the same issue?.

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  Advice for guys trying to dance....stop stomping....unlock your knees, and hips. You won't look like a girl.

  Most good dancers can use there feet or their hips, but not both. Those who can use both are the most talented. Such as Michael Jackson, and the rest of his body just fell in line.

  Very difficult to do.

  Relax and enjoy music, that is the entire point of dancing.

  r.
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  what do you look like when you dance?

  by highdose in

  1. jw
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  i'd like to think i look relaxed and cool.

  but i'm aware that in reality i probably look like an idiot!

  haha but by then i'm normaly too drunk to care.. does anyone have the same issue?.

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  Myth buster.....I can't stop laughing!

  r.
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  what do you look like when you dance?

  by highdose in

  1. jw
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  i'd like to think i look relaxed and cool.

  but i'm aware that in reality i probably look like an idiot!

  haha but by then i'm normaly too drunk to care.. does anyone have the same issue?.

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  Highdose, this topic had me LOL,

  As a former dance teacher..... many, many years ago, I taught those who were worried about what they looked like dancing....made it worse for themselves!

  Honestly, unless you dance professionally, or really can't figure out the rhythm....no one cares! Relax, and just don't make stripper moves!

  r.
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  Do you know all of the Watchtower's failed predictions? I doubt it.

  by TMS in

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  as a longtime jw, i knew about 1925, 1975, the failed original expectation of 1914, etc.

  in the first bible studies i conducted, we taught that the great tribulation began in 1914 but was "cut short" in 1918 on account of the chosen ones, that some flesh would be saved.

  the great tribulation was said to have been in abeyance.

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  TMS...thanks for the list, I am printing it out for the next pounding I get at the upcoming family get together. There will be much lecturing for the 50 plus year olds who are children of this group. We are begged to come visit and then the preaching begins, about how far we are into the last days, how can we not see it, how could we have forsaken Jehovah....blah, blah, blah.

  It's going to feel real good to hand over a copy of all this crap. It made my stomach turn.

  r.